Any families where BOTH mamas have given birth?

[lexbeach]

Dp is *very* seriously contemplating birthing our third child. She's still thinking about it, but most likely will begin ttc in September. I am *thrilled* as I have always wanted to have a pregnant wife . I would love to connect with some other families in which both moms have been birth moms.

How did it feel to be the non-birth mom after having been the birth mom before?

Did you both nurse the baby (most likely I will still be nursing Luke and Jasper when baby #3 comes along, so I would have milk left and would love to nurse him/her)?

I do wonder if I will have trouble not being "in control" over issues like breastfeeding on demand, co-sleeping, and Dp's diet (she is not as strict about eating organic as I am). She's been completely supportive and in agreement about all of the decisions I've made so far about parenting Luke and Jasper, but when it's her body I know she might feel differently. I want to be prepared to give her some of the control I've had, but I do think it will be hard for me.

I would be the primary caregiver for the new baby, and I wonder if that would be hard for Dp. She says she could never be a stay-at-home mom, but I wonder if she'll feel differently after giving birth.

Enough babble. Anyone else out there?

Lex

[megincl]

While we have not had the experience of both moms in the household having birthed a babe, I did want to chime in to say how amazing it was to have a pregnant wife!!! It is a complete joy, and I feel that I have so much to offer partners of pregnant mammas because of it. Also, I am the primary weekday caretaker of DS which actually strikes a nice balance with dp being the breastfeeder/pumper. We've fallen into a nice pattern where she's "in charge" of certain things and I'm in charge of others. For example, I sort of take on the role of deciding what ds can eat, questions surrounding organic, timing of foods, etc. I know this isn't really answering your question, but I think that the dynamic of staying home with the babe birthed by one's partner can be an experience that only deepens partnership.

good luck thinkin' about all this!

megin