we ec'd from birth. I did not expect any daycare to take my 6 month old to the bathroom.
However, when she was over a year (probably around 14-16 months old), at home we switched to training pants. Her daycare still refused to take her to the bathroom. no toilet in the room, could not leave the room to use a toilet as it would throw off ratios, could not use a potty chair either for fear the other kids would get into it. She was in a 12-18 month room at the time. I tried to get her moved up to a toddler room which is acceptable as of 15 months olds, but they told me they would put her in a toddler room that still did not have toilet access as they wanted the younger toddlers separated from the older toddler. Hello, we are talking 18 months to 3 years old! Only a year and a half span anyways. IMO, no reason separate olders from youngers. She would have been in there probably another 6 months.
We left for another day care that has a toilet in the room for the 12-24 month group. Still means if she was under a year, they could not potty her. But I haven't seen a daycare yet that had toilet access for kids under a year. However, we even had some minor issues then as they did not take her potty as I would like. I had to ask many times and I was only asking that they took her at diaper changes or when she asked.
When we were switching between that day care center and the Montessori school, we took a couple weeks off for a trip. DD turned 2 a few days before school started. Right before we left, her day care insisted she was not ready to potty train and they felt frustrated taking her when she always had wet diapers and produced very little on the toilet. Umm, maybe there was only a little in the toilet BECAUSE she had a wet diaper and they were not making it clear to her that they expected her to initiate using the toilet instead or using her diaper.
Anyways on our 2 weeks in between day care and school on our trip, she pretty much finished potty training. She was not consistently dry for another couple of weeks, but was wearing undies or non-waterproof gerber training pants even for school and other outings. Then switched to regular undies full time. She just needed that 24 hour a day time with me to realize that going potty is not something you do part time, but all the time. I really think she just assumed diaper or potty was fine as she felt like it. Since they didn't expect her to potty at daycare, she didn't think it was necessary. With 24 hour a day expectations to potty, she did it.
She still has accidents some times (M and Tues dry, 2 accidents yesterday), she does go in spurts where sometimes she will have a ton of accidents. Our Montessori director says she is still considered PT'd, she is probably just experimenting to see what she is capable of (how long she can hold it, etc).
Heck even my 6 year old kindergartner sometimes has accidents from holding it too long.
My sister has a son who is a few months younger than my dd. She also was having some difficulty getting her daycare to co-operate with potty training - even when her son was almost 100% at home.
I think many day cares are just waiting for the child to train themselves and don't want to deal with it. They just wait until one day, you just send them in undies and they use the potty all day with no accidents. They just don't want the work that happens in between.
Anyways my point being that you should do what you can do at home. Try to get your day care to co-operate. Don't be surprised if they don't. You may even need time off with your dd to do the trick.
