Last Pregnancy? - Page 2

[MJB]

My husband has an appt. for his urology consult next week! Woohoo!
We're 26 and 30, so also young, but we're both totally sure we are done making babies. If we want another in the future we are open to adoption.
I'm thinking of getting an ablation done or a Mirena IUD so my periods will be easier, now that I don't have to worry about my future fertility.

[LindsayK]

We're still in the "lets see how this one goes, and decide after that stage" DH originally wanted 3, I only wanted 2, but I can definitely see having more now. Its funny though, if you asked me if we're going to have 3 kids, I'd say I'm not really sure. However, I can't imagine this being my last pregnancy, either! So, my guess is, this probably isn't our last one.


I'm curious, it seems like a lot of the ladies whose husbands are getting "the snip" you are waiting until after the baby comes - why wait?

[rlandnl]

I was telling a friend the other day that I can't imagine ever feeling like this is "it" we are done no more, no matter how many children I have. Maybe it's because they are so hard for us to come by, I don't know, but I think a part of me would like one or two more before we are no longer of "childbearing age" but I do know one thing, that now that DS will have a sibling, I will feel more at peace if we don't have any more.

[matey]

Originally Posted by LindsayK

I'm curious, it seems like a lot of the ladies whose husbands are getting "the snip" you are waiting until after the baby comes - why wait?

Well, I am always the pessimist. Even though this child was not planned in any way, she is, of course, wanted. I fear problems and want to make sure I have a healthy baby in my arms before I say no more. We didnt plan on having more than one, but if something horrible happened with this baby, I dont know. I just want to not shut all the doors until this door is completely open. make sense?

[onemomma]

Since this is our third babe, and we only planned one of them so far, I can't say for sure what will happen next...
I think a lot of it will depend on how this birth goes. My last was so incredible and wonderful that I knew in my heart I would feel as though I missed out if I never got to be in that place again. Giving birth is so powerful!
Also, sweet smelling smushy little babies? So wonderful.

[Mama Esq.]

We are definitely done! I am 41 and my husband will be 50 this year. Need to schedule that v-surgery pronto!

[JamieFay]

Originally Posted by matey

Well, I am always the pessimist. Even though this child was not planned in any way, she is, of course, wanted. I fear problems and want to make sure I have a healthy baby in my arms before I say no more. We didnt plan on having more than one, but if something horrible happened with this baby, I dont know. I just want to not shut all the doors until this door is completely open. make sense?

yup. This is me *exactly.

[JamieFay]

Originally Posted by VillageMom6

Psst... Jamie... I totally understand what you mean. I had four babies by age 30 and I was tired of it all. I needed some sleep!

We took a break... at the time we thought it could be a permanent break. We didn't have any babies for seven years. In that time my needy little babies and toddlers grew up to be 13 years old to 7 years old. They could make their own sandwiches! They slept through the night! They could tend to their own toileting needs!

Very unexpectedly, we found ourselves desiring another baby. He was born when I was 38 and now we're expecting one more at age 40.

It has been so different with these "late in life" babies. My older children are so much help! It's been a joy to watch them interact with their new baby sibling.

I'm not trying to be pushy and tell you to HAVE MORE BABIEEES! I just want to share that I understand the early years and to let you know that it does get easier.

Thank you for that! It's nice to know that life does get a little less hectic. You definitely speak to the part of me that worries about making a "final decision" and I do appreciate your POV

[momtoafireteam]

This is our last planned baby, yes. This is #6, and our oldest is only 7!!! I have had 3 under 3, 4 under 4, and 5 under 6 so I TOTALLY get the need for a break and a good nights sleep. Our children are from fertility treatment and we planned from day one to have this be our last and I am telling myself that accordingly.

That doesnt mean its not heartbreaking to think that this is my last "......" though. From the first pregnancy test my heart was crying "Thats your last positive pregnancy test" and has been doing that ever since. I wont get a tubal and I will ask my DH not to get a V until our age precludes us from childbearing any further. Because like VillageMom, I do see myself open to the possibility of having a child in 10 years (I am only 27).

My DH however, who is usually the rabid baby pusher in this marriage (he was telling me we needed 3 more when I was in the ICU from my twins c/s!!) is absolutely categorically done done done. Its sad for me to hear.

[MJB]

Originally Posted by LindsayK

I'm curious, it seems like a lot of the ladies whose husbands are getting "the snip" you are waiting until after the baby comes - why wait?

I think we might be the only ones *not* waiting. No matter what happens, this is my last pregnancy. I just don't want to do this again. I don't have any pregnancy or birth complications, I just don't like being pregnant. Any other children we have will be adopted.
We weren't sure if we were done after 2-- I felt pretty done but my husband talked me into a third and I'm glad he did, and I'm getting my girl! But we are sure now.
I think we will adopt in 5-10 years and the idea of having 4-5 kids sounds kind of crazy to me, even without creating them ourselves. I never imagined myself with a big family but we both feel drawn to adoption.

[AutumnAir]

Originally Posted by LindsayK

I'm curious, it seems like a lot of the ladies whose husbands are getting "the snip" you are waiting until after the baby comes - why wait?

Like the PPs have said, it's kind of a superstitious thing. I would be afraid that if we did something permanent before the LO arrived that something might go wrong. If I lost this LO I could see myself possibly wanting to have another baby and don't want to completely shut the door on that possibility until LO has arrived safe and sound.

[MommaLura]

It's our last pregnancy, but "later in life" or once we are more financially stable we would love to adopt.

[BlackSheepPDX]

This is absolutely my last pregnancy. We're both 36. We always planned on one child, with a maybe, maybe two thought in the very beginning. I had an IUD placed when our DD was four months old, and we were feeling pretty darn sure we were done at one. DH had talked about the snip, but I felt 1% uncertain and wouldn't let him, despite having no intention of taking the IUD out. I got pregnant anyway. Whoops. IUD was removed when I was 5 weeks pregnant.

Since I clearly don't trust an IUD anymore, and we're both CERTAIN we would not want a third, there will be a snipping. I want him to wait until after the birth only because I don't want him, ahem, "out of service" prior to that. Preggo sex rocks.

[melis79]

This is for sure our last biological child. I had thought I didnt want another one while I was pregnant with our last DS because I was so sick and miserable, but towards the end of the preganancy I changed my mind because I just didnt feel "done" yet. DH will get the snip after Emmelia arrives in Aug. We are waiting until then mostly because DH is having knee surgery in May and will recuperating from that most of the summer and doesnt need to add the big V to that. And, I know if something were to happen to this little girl I would probably want to try for another in a few years.

[graciegal]

This is our first and most likely our only. While I can say that I know I will be an awesome mom, to me it doesn't environmentally feel appropriate to have a lot of children. The scientist in me said for years not to have -any- children, to try to help balance out the population and resource issues we're having on this earth. The pressure from family and also not wanting to be old and have no kids made us go for this one. We're happy, but I like the idea that when we both die we will be in the negative for a footprint with just one replacing us. Of course people look at us funny when we say we only want one. Goes to show you how things haven't changed even though we know so much about the world's ability to support us now...

[DreamsInDigital]

I've already signed the consent forms for my tubal immediately after birth. Half a dozen babies is more than enough I think, and I'd eventually love to finish school and have a career.

[newmommy7-08]

This is the last pregnancy we're planning... at this point. Neither of us is doing anything permanent to prevent tho. It took us 2 years of fertility treatments to get DS, and 1 (since we knew the issue) to get the twins. If God decides we need another then we'll happily accept, BUT at this time we're not planning any further fertility treatments.

[rightkindofme]

I am not a nice pregnant person and my husband has said in no uncertain terms that he does not want to go through this again. I can respect that. He will be snipped after this kiddo is born. We have always been interested in fostering and our house isn't that big so if we had a third kid there is no way we could do that.

[stellarmomof3]

This is my 3rd and last child. I already made DH get a vesectomy. So its all good for me lol.

[umsami]

I'm pretty sure this little guy is the last. I'll be almost 42 when he is born. Still, I've had all of my pregnancies over 35, and my body doesn't seem to have any difficulty getting pregnant.

I remember after #3 was born, I felt that there was another baby that was needed to complete our family. I honestly thought I'd end up convincing DH to adopt--as I'm adopted as well. But we got preggers, and now #4 is on the way.

I don't know if I'll still feel that there's another child that we're meant to adopt after #4 comes.

I was looking forward to next year because DD (#3) had gotten into our Montessori's 3 year old program, and all three would be in school. I'd have time to myself until 1:00 p.m. each day. Now, we're moving someplace else, and I'll have at least the baby and DD home...possibly her elder brother as well as I'm not sure I want to send him to Kindy. (Different cut-off dates where we're moving. He was supposed to do another year of PreK at his Montessori school.)