Anybody have both suprises and find out at the u/s

[dmpmercury]

I found out with my first two kids a girl then a boy during the u/s. I thought it was exciting to find out at the u/s and looked foward to them so I could find out. I liked knowing my babies name and what I was having.

This is my last pregnancy and I wanted to have a suprise this time. I had my u/s today and did not find out the gender. I'm kinda excited and don't have intuition even this time like I did with my first two. I wonder if it will be weird as I get further along to not know.

If you had it both ways which way did you like better? Did you enjoy the anticipation and the suprise. Was it cool to find out at delivery? Or did you wish you knew during the pregnancy.

I think I will like getting to experience it both ways.

[sanguine_speed]

[emnic77]

I did not find out via u/s with my first, did find out with my second, and am not finding out with this one due next week. I GREATLY prefer not finding out until birth. It just adds a whole 'nother level of excitement to the birth for me, I can't wait to be the one to find out for myself instead of having someone tell me.

[limette]

I didn't find out with my two girls but with this pregnancy we opted to find out.

Honestly for me finding out the sex at the birth was an afterthought. Completely irrelevant in the moment. Dh on the other hand likes the surprise.

[34me]

We did not find out with my first two and it was AWESOME! With my third I had some complications so had numerour u/ss to the point where even I could tell.

[RedOakMomma]

We didn't find out with our first two (twins), then did find out for the next two. I prefer finding out. The surprise at birth is pretty amazing, but birth itself is amazing. Meeting the baby, even if you know it's a her or a him, is amazing. For me, having a known boy was no less of a thrill than having our first two.

I think finding out has helped dh with bonding, and even me a little bit. I like knowing, dreaming, and planning with a specific sex in mind.

[4Blessings]

We've had three surprises and one that we found out at the u/s.

I so much prefer waiting until the baby is born. It adds another level of excitement to the day. If I had to do it over again I would have waited to find out for all of our babies.

[HeatherB]

I haven't actually done both, but I've considered it. My first three were all surprises. I have thought about peeking at the gender with #3, and then nearly had a panic attack at the idea. (Weird, I know, but I knew I couldn't do it!) With this one, I've batted the idea around, of finding out just for ME, but not telling anyone. Still, there's nothing quite like finding out at birth (and I'm grateful for the other mamas who have shared a similar feeling!), and so I am pretty sure we will wait. I also just like going against the norm. It drives people NUTS!

[Oceanone]

We've done it both ways. My first at u/s. Second was a surprise. Third at u/s. We only found out this last time to help my children prepare. My daughter, in particular, was sure I was having a girl and told everyone it was so. I wanted her to be prepared in the event of a boy. if you haven't had the surprise at birth yet then it's truly one of the lovely lovely surprises in life. To answer your question - i preferred the surprise at birth way.

[MommaCrystal]

We didn't know with our first! I got to hear it straight from my husband. It was AWESOME! I wouldn't trade that moment for the world. We have found out with our 2nd and 3rd. Still fun, but not the same. If we should be blessed with a 4th, we are not finding out.

[emnic77]

Originally Posted by HeatherB

I also just like going against the norm. It drives people NUTS!

It really does, doens't it??? I've had acquaintances and co-workers and family get downright belligerent about us not finding out beforehand.

[luckysgirl]

We didn't find out the sex with either of our children, although we do know the sex of the coming one. I was in a car accident and the ER staff did an ultrasound and told my DH that "his son" appeared to be fine and not in duress. Thanks, guys!

[CherryBomb]

We found out with dd1 and dd3, but not dd2. I prefer finding out, and we will be with this one, too. Dd2's birth was an emergency though, so we didn't have any "special" moment of finding out since she couldn't breathe and was seizing and had to be whisked off to the NICU. The anesthesiologist told us she was a girl after dh asked (they were too busy trying to keep her alive to announce her sex).

[HappyMommy2]

I found out with #1, and not with #2. If we were to get lucky enough to have a third, I would definitely find out.

I loved being able to name him, and talk to him inside my belly. It just seemed like I could do that more, knowing the gender. I thought it made for earlier/stronger or maybe just different bonding.

[MyFullHouse]

I'm considering being surprised at the birth this time.

I found out with #1 and #2 just b/c I'm an impatient person who wanted to shop gender-specific.
I found out with #3 b/c I really wanted to know whether or not to pack away #2's clothes (saved me the effort!).
I found out with #4 just because I couldn't resist the temptation when the tech said it was 100% clear if I wanted to know.

I'm going to try to resist this time, but no guarantees!

[annettemarie]

We found out with our first three, our fourth was a surprise. This time we're having twins, and I think we'll find out just for logistical purposes. We already have to buy a new house and knowing what flavor we're getting will make a difference in how many rooms we need.

[Bug]

We found out with #1,2,and 4. #3 kept his legs closed at our one u/s. I loved the surprise! It made birth even more exciting. DH hates not knowing. He says no more surprises, lol.

[Plummeting]

I found out with my first, not my second. I actually didn't really want to find out with my first, but DH really, really wanted to, so we did. Well, eventually we did. First they told us DD was a boy, then a few weeks later they realized she was actually a girl. With DD2 I absolutely did not want to know and DH went along. He kind of wanted to know, but he was okay with it. It was MUCH, MUCH more exciting and fun not knowing. However, it was a little inconvenient. Still, I'd much prefer not to find out.

DH wants to try one more time now, because apparently he'd convinced himself DD2 was going to be a boy. We weren't trying to have a boy or anything, but I guess he got so sure she was that he decided he did want a boy, so now he wants to have another one, which is silly, given that you can't be sure to get a boy anyway, but you know...And he says if we try again, he wants to find out the sex, so he won't be disappointed at the birth if it's another girl. Sigh. I don't want to (IF, big if, I agree to even have another), but I also definitely don't want my baby's dad disappointed at her birth, if we have another girl!!! We'll have to see.

[Funny Face]

We've done both. I like waiting better.

[mediumcrunch]

I've known 6 times and not known 3 (#1,#5, #8) times. Honestly, I can't say one is any better than the other, just different. It is SO exciting and fun waiting until that moment at birth and calling and telling people who have been waiting to hear etc..... but I like being able to call my baby by name, get clothes prepared and for *me* it really helps me think of the baby as a new individual, not just 'the baby'.