wwyd? need serious advice. neighbors. - Page 4

[mamadelbosque]

Yes, well, then, don't let your kids ride them. But kids that aren't your kids riding (or not riding) quads, isn't really your business, now, is it?

[phathui5]

I can assure you that if she called every time they were out there, eventually the police would do something.

That may be true, but she has to continue living near those people unless she moves. You don't want kids who hate you living nearby. That's how you get your house egged on Halloween.

[Kidzaplenty]

I am definately in the MYOB group. I think it is a dirt road not a street. That is where riding those things are safest (IMO). Though I would not really want my children riding them, however, if they did, I would really want them on a dirt road.

As for the dust. I think that is the breaks of living off a dirt road. As annoying as it may be, I don't think there is anything wrong with them stirring up dust. If they were walking, riding bikes/motorcycles, or even driving cars up and down the road they would be stirring up dust. Perhaps not as much, but then again, maybe that is not true. I have seen some little trucks stir up quite a bit of dust on dirt roads. And my cousins would drive them up and down the road like the 4wheelers the OP mentioned. And they were "street legal". But, we still had the dust.

I am totally against calling the cops on people because you think what they are doing is unsafe. MYOB. When I had the cops called on me because my children were playing "too close to the road" at the end of a cul-de-sac, I determined not to be that person. I MYOB unless there is a real impending danger. This, IMO, does not fit that catigory.

[JL83]

Originally Posted by phathui5

That may be true, but she has to continue living near those people unless she moves. You don't want kids who hate you living nearby. That's how you get your house egged on Halloween.

So you shouldn't report illegal behavior for fear of more illegal behavior?

That's really messed up.

[jeanine123]

How do you know it's illegal? Has anyone looked up the laws for the area where the OP lives?

[Kidzaplenty]

Where we lived, dirt roads were legal for riding anything. You only had to have it liscensed if it was a paved public road.

[annettemarie]

Ahem.

Things seem to getting rather personal here. Please debate the topic, not other members personally. Thanks!

[momo7]

There's got to be a happy medium somewhere....I hope it can be resolved for you without bad feelings.

[phathui5]

Originally Posted by JL83

So you shouldn't report illegal behavior for fear of more illegal behavior?

That's really messed up.

Not out of fear. I try not to act in fear. I'm talking about being a neighbor that people like. The way to get people to do what you want them to isn't to call the cops on them. I'm under the impression that she hasn't even talked to them.

[Kidzaplenty]

I know that if our neighbors had choosen to actually talk to us rather than call the cops on us we could have alliviated their fears. Now, we would not have modified out behaviour for them, as we were being very careful as it was (just not doing what they thought was right). As it was, we were allienated from our neighbors, did not know who to trust, and never had that "community" that we had always wanted.

I was never more glad to move as I was from that place and those people.

[tireesix]

Originally Posted by Kidzaplenty

I know that if our neighbors had choosen to actually talk to us rather than call the cops on us we could have alliviated their fears. Now, we would not have modified out behaviour for them, as we were being very careful as it was (just not doing what they thought was right). As it was, we were allienated from our neighbors, did not know who to trust, and never had that "community" that we had always wanted.

I was never more glad to move as I was from that place and those people.

Even though we called the cops for good reason on our neighbour (neighbours friend trying to attack DH, neighbours son throwing stuff at me and hit me etc etc etc), we have been left in a situation where its not just the neighbour who doesn't like us but pretty much the whole street. There are a few who agree with us but keep pretty much quiet because of the area we live (which isn't awful but its not great, they want a quiet life and I don't blame them all though quiet is hardly what it is around here with people swearing and shouting and hitting their kids which apparently is ok as long as the kids look alright).

EVERY time I go out now, we have people who give us dirty looks, they talk under their breath, even when we go out in our own garden, we have the neighbour and her nasty friends giving us nasty glares, making comments. It sucks but we can't move (if anyone has read my previous posts I am unable to work due to fibro, EDS and arthritis and my DH has health problems as well). We have even had her friends on our door step threatening us, police won't do nowt because as I said before, its classed as a neighbourly dispute and down to our housing association, not them. Our housing association won't move them despite them being known as trouble makers and we have decided that we and our kids are just going to learn to take the crap that gets thrown our way.

Unless there is a danger to you or your kids, the last thing you want to do is call the cops.

[mattemma04]

I would suggest helmets and leave it at that.An accident might curb the riding.If you complain about the dusty grass the cows have to eat they just might ride more.Some people get super mad when you complain and want to *get back at you*.

You have to be so careful when dealing with those living around you.Sides are taken,and life can become a living hell even if no one speaks to you.Actually the ignoring is one of the better things to happen.I have read some neighbor stories that make me so grateful for what I have around me...even though I may complain about them at times!


Hope things settle down for everyone!