Trying not to interfere....

[zamia7]

DH is with DS trying to get him to go to sleep. I got him to sleep and 10 minutes later the dog woke him up, and now an hour and a half later, he still wont go to sleep. I was losing patience, so i sent DH up, and now its just screaming. DS needs to learn to accept DH as a nighttime parent, but its difficult for me to sit hear and listen to the crying. I have come to the point of being ok with him crying as long as dh is actually trying to comfort him. but wow. my kid can scream.

[lifeguard]

Go for a walk.

Dh turns off the baby monitor when he deals with ds at the night because he knows I just sit here listening to it & obsessing.

It does take dh longer but it is good for both of them to work it out together. Dh is loving & gentle & they have a good relationship so having ds crying in his arms is not so bad.

[Adallae]

This is something I really struggle with. DD's not a screamer, but I can't stand to hear her cry, even when I know DH is doing his best. I've considered going for a walk, but to leave the house when I know she's upset feels bad too. I'm not sure how to let go. I'll be watching this thread for ideas.

[Kiwiontheloose]

we are dealing with this too. trying to get DD used to being comforted by hubby. they spend heaps of time together, and she loves hanging out with him during the day, just will not tolerate him at sleep time. she doesn't nurse to sleep for me usually, I just pat her bum/stroke her back while she sucks her paci - so I don't get why she won't tolerate hubby doing it for her!

i sometimes go in and calm her down, but not to the point of getting her to sleep, and then they start again. keeps her from getting too hysterical, but still, its probably giving a mixed message.
sigh.
will watch this thread.

[zamia7]

So it took about 20 minutes. When DH finally came down he told me DS fell asleep in his arms and it was so hard to put him down without waking him up. That was at 9, ds woke at 10:45, then I nursed him back to sleep and stayed there and I think he slept until 3:30! If he nursed inbetween I don't remember, but I am pretty sure he got a good stretch in there (he is a terrible sleeper)

I think if I can stand it I am going to have DH put him down more often. It is def hard to listen to, but the few other times he has done it (usually out of my frusteration) DS sleeps for longer. (and it doesnt always involve crying)

I stayed inside because it was freezing out, and I felt much better knowing that DH wasnt just letting him lay there and cry, but he was making a good, attempt to comfort him. DS was beyond exhausted when i put him down the first time.