People and their "advice"

[workjw]

Dear elderly lady in the bathroom,

I'm sorry that I sent you running from the bathroom the other day, literally screaming at me, but you pretty much deserved it. What made you think it was ok to tell my 3 year old (as of last week) dd that she was too big for diapers? And really, that might have been forgivable, it was innocent enough advice, but then I specifically told you that she had a medical condition that meant she would be in "big girl pull-ups" (dd's term) for a few more years, and that she was still a big girl. Why you felt the need to then lean over my child and tell her "big girls poop in the potty and they don't need "big girl pull-ups", is beyond me.

It's really not my fault that I happened to be lowering dd's diaper at that moment, and that her kidneys happened to be emptying at the same time. I certainly never expected you to lean over my mostly naked kiddo to share your opinion so personally. I'd like to say I'm sorry for what happened next, but really I'm not, you totally deserved it, and you were warned.

So maybe next time you want to share your potty advice, you'll remember the little girl in the bathroom that peed in your hair, and you will think twice about opening your big fat mouth. Thanks to you, we've spent the last few days trying to convince dd that sometimes big girls do wear "big girl pull-ups" and that some little girls can't just wear panties no matter how much they want to or how hard they try to stay dry. It's not going over real well.

Thanks for the set back.
workjw


Sorry, I just needed to be vent and be mad about that for a minute. Feel free to do the same!

[Linda on the move]

At least she got what she deserved!

[APToddlerMama]

Sorry to hear that. People are so awful sometimes.

[LynnS6]

Oh my gosh that must have been horrible for you, but your story did make me laugh! Karma.

[elmh23]

Hopefully she'll think better next time!

[TzippityDoulah]

sorry for the ill effect if had on your little girl. that's just cruel.

But... life has a way of getting justice - and it seemed like it came at just the right time this time around!

[Lindsay1234]

Im sorry I laughed at the end, karma is swift!

She DID get what she deserves! Thanks to this experience with my SN dd2, I know NEVER to judge or question anyone...ever!

[2boyzmama]

:rotfl
Oh man...that's pretty hilarious!!

But I'm so sorry that your daughter had to go through that, people can be so dense sometimes. Give her a big hug for me!!!!

I had a family member say to me that if I just forced Connor to talk then he would. Uh, really? His brain will just suddenly form the connections that aren't there, and his muscles will just suddenly work? Oh that's right, because we've been "allowing" him to be "lazy" with his signs. Never mind that we've been working really hard for years to teach him these signs. You're right, I should just ignore his signs, and force him to speak. Good idea.

[Linda on the move]

Originally Posted by 2boyzmama

I had a family member say to me that if I just forced Connor to talk then he would. Uh, really? His brain will just suddenly form the connections that aren't there, and his muscles will just suddenly work? Oh that's right, because we've been "allowing" him to be "lazy" with his signs. Never mind that we've been working really hard for years to teach him these signs. You're right, I should just ignore his signs, and force him to speak. Good idea.

yeah, one of neighbors said my DD is the way she is because we used to homeschool.

Homeschooling causes autism? Really?

[KimPM]

I'm so sorry to hear about your setback. That's got to be frustrating. At least she got the appropriate reward for her advice.

Yeah, sometimes people's offhand comments aren't much better than their advice. Last year DS was not quite 3.5 years old. I thought it was funny when he was hovered over the newspaper, looking like he was reading it. So I asked him, are you reading the paper? He said "yes". (He was probably just identifying a few words he was familiar with.) So I shared what I thought was a little funny story with my AP "support" group (kind of ironic, as you'll see). Then one of the moms says "Yeah, I think it's funny that he can read but he's not potty trained." Not quite what I had in mind as funny. Sheesh, I can't even share a single *moment* of joy from my son, after all the trouble we've had with his eating, food allergies, sleeping, anxiety, and emotional regulation. She is the mom of a 3 year old NT and potty trained girl. This is what I get for trying to share a happy moment with parents of NT children. They.just.don't.get.it.

Thanks for letting me vent, too. I've been stewing on that one too long.

[MotherWhimsey]

Tell her that Linden's 3.5 and he still wears big boy pull ups too (well, and sometimes he picks the big girl pull ups, he has a thing for the princesses). And Linden says 3 kids in his class at school wear them too. And sometimes, old ladies like that one wear them too! LMAO

[workjw]

Thanks guys! I knew you would get it. I actually held my composure pretty well after she left until DD asked me "why did that grandma put her head in my pee-pee? she should know better"

I must also admit (even if it makes me terrible) that I get some small satisfaction imagining how confused that lady must be. I don't think she ever saw the stoma in her abdomen and she's gotta be trying to figure out how that little girl got pee all the way up there!!!

KimPM I have a SIL that makes similar comments about dd (her dd is the same age). She thinks she's joking, but I rarely find her comments amusing. She once told me that since dd got all of the brains, it was only fair that she had the medical problems, that they would keep her humble.

[workjw]

Originally Posted by MotherWhimsey

Tell her that Linden's 3.5 and he still wears big boy pull ups too (well, and sometimes he picks the big girl pull ups, he has a thing for the princesses). And Linden says 3 kids in his class at school wear them too. And sometimes, old ladies like that one wear them too! LMAO

I so wish I was that quick witted I could have just said "watch it lady, you might be back in big girl pull-ups before too much longer yourself!" hahaha

[Kristine233]

Wow. What nerve! I'm sorry you guys had to deal with her, but I'm also LMAO about the consequences. hehe

[KimPM]

Originally Posted by workjw

I must also admit (even if it makes me terrible) that I get some small satisfaction imagining how confused that lady must be. I don't think she ever saw the stoma in her abdomen and she's gotta be trying to figure out how that little girl got pee all the way up there!!!

I'll bet she's wondering if you actually have a boy ?!!??!!

Originally Posted by workjw

She once told me that since dd got all of the brains, it was only fair that she had the medical problems, that they would keep her humble.

Oh, puhleease.

Originally Posted by MotherWhimsey

Tell her that Linden's 3.5 and he still wears big boy pull ups too (well, and sometimes he picks the big girl pull ups, he has a thing for the princesses). And Linden says 3 kids in his class at school wear them too. And sometimes, old ladies like that one wear them too! LMAO

that he picks the girl pull-ups, how cute. My DS might pick them too because of the pink package; he doesn't care about princesses.

[AbbieB]

While I know that at the time the event was painful, that story was too funny!

People can be real jerks sometimes. I'm sorry you and your little one had to deal with that, especially during a private moment.

[Lindsay1234]

This thread is really cracking me up, thanks guys! Made my day!

I hope your daughter gets back on track quickly, Id hate to have one thoughtless grandma "who likes to put her head in peepees" ruin anything!

[beckyand3littlemonsters]

erg some people, karma got her though so thats good, sorry your dd. had to hear that ignorance.
I like your dd's comment about the lady putting her head in her pee, that made me lol

[blessedwithboys]

OP, plz tell your dd that i know a little boy (my ds!) who pooped and peed in big boy pull ups until he was 4yo.

i wish i could have seen it happen, what perfect sweet revenge. lol

i hope your dd is able to get past this asap (((hugs)))

[KatWrangler]

Where is she?! Let me have a piece of her!

You should of told her Gabrielle is way past 4 and is in pull-ups. Might never be in big girl panties.

Gah, she makes me furious!

You should of told her something along the lines of "Well take notes! Cause you will probably be in diapers before long."

That was mean, I know. But she derserved it!