Originally Posted by GoBecGo
Why do the mom's fears trump the dad's confidence?
If this were a dad who was objecting to something that the mom was doing and it seemed like a legitimate concern then I would say it was dad's duty to protect his child. It's not a question of whether moms have more say on safety or if dads ave more say about safety, it is any parent duty to protect their child. Since this is a site called "mothering" we just happen to get more moms seeking advice than dads seeking advice, but if the OP was a dad I would say the exact same thing about it being his duty to protect his DD.
|This isn't circing, which has a wealth of statistical evidence behind it showing the risk vs benefit to the newborn means it's a bad idea.
Some one did actually post a link to an article with statistics and guidelines, but I'll provide more.Here is an article about play ground safety.
Some highlights from it:
"Faulty equipment, improper surfaces, and careless behavior are just a few of the hazards of playgrounds — each year, more than 200,000 kids are treated in hospital ERs for playground-related injuries."
Remember the swing in question goes over concrete:
"A proper playground surface is one of the most important factors in reducing injuries — and the severity of injuries — that occur when kids fall from equipment. The surface under the playground equipment should be soft enough and thick enough to soften the impact of a child's fall."
The OP says the swing goes up about 12 feet.
"No surfacing materials are considered safe if the combined height of playground and the child (standing on the highest platform) is higher than 12 feet."
Finally this article says
Here's a hand book from CSPC
"Swings are the most frequent source of childhood injuries from moving equipment on a playground."
, here is another article
. There are many more articles, and they all agree that concrete is an unacceptable surface to have under swings, and that 12 feet is the point at which equipment becomes unacceptably dangerous no matter what surface in underneath.
Just b/c nothing has happened yet doesn't mean the situation is safe, it just means they have been lucky.
The fact that the child has been hurt twice while just going for a walk actually would make me feel even more strongly about the swings. When she falls, as all kids do, and she is just her own hight somewhere around 3 feet tall, she needed a couple of stitches. The swing is taking her head over 4 times as high, the injury from that much greater a hight would result a much much more severe injury. Children falling is inevitable, but from over 12 feet on to concrete is not.