Hi there, I don't know if I have an answer to your question. I don't know if I'll ever truly be at peace with a decision to 'stop trying'. But for me, 'trying' means going through another fresh IVF cycle because I have no frozen embryos (they all died except for one which turned out to be my DD
) , which we can't do right now, and my chances of getting pg naturally are pretty much zilch. So we probably won't ever start using birth control. Even though I just turned 40, whatever happens, happens. I would give anything to give DD a sibling.
But then again, I've only been pregnant once, have never suffered repeated m/c, and I don't know the pain of getting pg only to lose the pregnancy. I could imagine that if I was in that situation I wouldn't be able to tolerate the emotional strain and grief that recurrent m/c brings. If it were me and I felt that I couldn't possibly withstand another potential loss, I might want to throw in the towel and quit while I was ahead.
Good luck to you!