pm'd you, aweyn.
Wow, you guys don't make keeping up easy! I tried to start responding last night, but I was too impaired with sleep deprivation to drive, and much to impaired to post on the internet. Feeling better today, though.
Totally understand and agree with the outraged responses to the horrible things family have said to you, unschoolin and DoK. And that UU teacher is a UAV for what she said to Roo.
Originally Posted by wombatclay
Actually, I realized something a bit wacky. I put a lot of stuff on my TM about being happy. "I AM HAPPY" is actually the quote right at the center of the map! And I think about this a lot... so today I realized that while I "want" to be happy, I'm also leery of happiness. It's like, I feel as if I'm not getting a lot of attention or support in the day to day life stuff. So I'm depressed or down and this gets noticed and then people offer to help out or offer a hug or something like that. But if I'm happy, what then? Will I lose the little support I do have because people assume I'm ok with the situation?
You know, Clay, I think of you as maybe the most sanguine personality I have encountered -- able to deal with whatever absurdity of stress that life throws at you with that intelligent, wry humor of yours.... happiness is something slightly different, though? You deserve happiness too!
You do have a lot on your plate-- I'd be whining about the food allergy issues, let alone the renos, freaky accidents, general craziness of parenting 3 very little ones, etc. etc. You do it with such style, you make it look easy. But if it is ok for the rest of us to complain when life sucks and say out loud here that things are not ok (and I *insist* that it be ok, because I've got lots of complainin' to do myself) then it is ok for you to do it whenever you need to, you hear? What a confusing sentence I just typed. But my life has no time for revision lately, so on I go...
Originally Posted by Aeress
Clay- I totally hear what you are saying. Though, isn't that what we pride ourselves on as a people? We come and help and be a good friend to a friend in need and then silently fade away as soon as the person is well. Maybe that is why I like being at MDC, because we support each other in all ways, in all settings. We revel in each others joy and cry in our sadness.
I had to quote this, because it is very wise.
Originally Posted by mindfulmama03
Hi, I'm new to the group but I just wanted to say hello!
Hello, Alicia, and welcome to the group. The activity ebbs and flows and when it flows, it flows very fast. Please just jump in and share what you are moved to!
femme rouge, glad your ds is ok with his dad. Hope you find your witchy self, because witchy self is a lot of fun!
Originally Posted by femme_rouge
I'm working on focusing on being in the moment what ever it is. This is such a struggle for me. I'm really more in the noticing stage-noticing when I'm anxious and restless and not just being. I'm trying to honor the value of this stage. Sometimes I'm just so rebellious about doing this though...
. Oh well, I'm a work in progress.
Good for you. A lot of people never notice themselves properly, ever.
I think I do sometimes, but I'm a work in progress too. (How boring it would be to be "finished", though!")
Millie, I don't think 14 weeks is that early -- I had 3 first tri losses, and they all affected me deeply. 2 were over a decade ago, and I still notice and think about their due dates and the dates of loss. I'm glad you are feeling better -- know what you mean about it creeping up without warning. Sounds like you and your dh are handling the situation well and working together on your plans for the future. Good for you both!
Liza, I love your life. Sending vibes for Joe of the Green Goo.
[QUOTE=liza-s;15413892]A busy weekend for us: guiding birds walk.
Unschoolin, didn't realize your dp was away. That's hard. It rocks though, that his mom is so supportive of your family!
Ok, all I can do now, but there's going to be part two later on.