May Pagan Circle - Page 32

[Valerie.Qc]

Originally Posted by Aubergine68

Have to think about some new summer dresses for myself now, V. Enjoy yours. They sound perfect. What colors?

a green and a black

Dh is away this weekend. We had a family fun night on Friday at ds's school, and I didn't feel like going, but dragged myself and the kids there late. Felt hands over my eyes - dh had made a 3 hr drive to surprise us! Unfortunately, we were late and he had to sit there for an hour waiting

Great surprise!!!

Someone I grew up with has a 5 yr old ds, who was just dx'd with a stage 4 cancer with a sobering prognosis and survival rate - they didn't even know he had cancer and this is quite a shock. Thoughts of support for him and his family would be appreciated.

Originally Posted by Maiasaura

Mamas i am not on my own puter, my own got some sort of awful, virulent virus and i dunno how or when it will be fixed. i'll have to keep up wtih y'all at the library

thanks for all the well wishes for m and me!

more for you both!

Originally Posted by mamaofthree

so while talking to my mom she said she wants us to stay with them (we will be "homeless" for about a week once we get there. lol) why does she do this? they are in the middle of remodeling their house, they don't have enough sleep space, my mom can't stand that my kids run and play, they got rid of all the toys we left at their house, they refuse to put a fence around the pool so my kids can't play in the back yard without someone going out there with them. i know my mom loves the idea of my kids, but the reality is so much different. so now after asking them for a bunch of money i have to find a nice way of saying we can't spend a whole week with you. i am thinking we could all stand a weekend (maybe) but then we could spend the rest of the time with dh's mom, she is so so much more laid back and easy going with the kids running about.

h

I think DoK's idea to tell her you already had plans to go to MIL is great!

Originally Posted by unschoolinmom

We then taught the kids how to cross the street. I went to one side and dh stayed on the other. We had them look left to right and then cross to me one by one. Did that several times that when it was time to go back to the park, they actually waited at the last corner, looked back and forth, and then holding hands, crossed the street. Of course we watched this but the proud smiles on their faces were enough to bring tears to our eyes.

They played a bit more in the park, the we went to McDonald's, and finally got home. Now we're relaxing in our a/c apartment, staring at houses on the market in that area (there are TONS). We WILL get a house there.

Great that they learned so fast! And many House vibes!

Originally Posted by DaughterOfKali

Just popping in to say that the air is full of hazy smoke here.

I can't imagine what the air is like in/around Quebec.

Air quality is bad up here. The levels were up to 132 yesterday in my area... down to 63 this morning...

Stupid people kept burning things and use fireworks despite the broad interdiction of open fires in almost all areas of the province. Even the former chief of the local firefighters used fireworks this week-end... at 7:15AM !!!


It's raining now. Hope there aren't too many lighting and that this water helps containing the raging fires.

[DaughterOfKali]

Thank goodness it's raining there!

[saphire]

Originally Posted by Millie Ivy

I'm sorry, what????

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C2FMdOLyRcA

Google it's awesomeness. Kurt is my favorite, until someone else comes on, and then they are my favorite again.

Kurt is my fave too, ever since he sang Defying Gravity.

Originally Posted by Autumn Breeze

My daughter asked me on Friday in a very 'attitud-ish foot-stomping' kinda way "I wanna do SCHOOL mama!!" So I really need to get crackin and figure out a curriculum for a pre-k student. She really wants to learn how to read. I'm not sure if I should use a phonics system or if I should go with sight words like ds did. He learned how to read in public school, so I have no idea how to go about this. She has a few sight words from playing on Starfall, so I am tempted to do a bit of both with her. Sight and phonics. We'll see.

I like progressivephonics.com ( free, read together, dd liked it) and also I rec parents read Reading Reflex. IMO it's the quickest, easiest book to help parents understand the why's and how's of teaching dc to read. Congrat's on completing this year's lessons!!

Happy Birthday Cari!

Maia-

mamaofthree- Maybe split the week up- weekend with your mom/ the rest of the week with dh's mom?

Lisa- I'm glad your trip went well, it sounds beautiful!!

Valerie- I hope the rain helps

greenmagick- glad to hear you found a helpful dr. & are feeling better

I'm thinking an autumnal camp sounds like fun...

I hope everyone had a good weekend. Time is flying by- only 3 weeks left until summer solstice.

[femme_rouge]

Morning Mamas

I've had such a tough time keeping up lately, but I've managed to read up and have been thinking of you all. We had a busy weekend here with doing some productive things, family time and couple time. A lot of good stuff, and also some difficult emotional stuff. Luckily, after my energy work class yesterday, the teacher was able to give me a private session that helped work through a lot of the feelings and stuck energy. She is so good. I've wanted to do a private session for awhile and am so glad I finally did it.

My kids have rediscovered playing with toilet paper. They're 4 & 6. They spent about 2 hours yesterday stacking and making nests, and this morning the 6 yo is doing it again. So funny.

Cheers to family weddings and birthdays, cute new dresses and prams, getting stuff cleared out via Freecycle and Craigslist, hubby surprise visits, moms lending money, moving, helpful diagnosis, cool neighborhoods and kids learning to cross streets safely, end of school year, summer and family time, chicken coops and community, yummy soups, chili and cornbread. Rain stopping and rain coming when needed, 3 weeks to Summer Solstice and of course, Glee. There is so much to be grateful for.

Big hugs and energy to your friend's DS, Aubergine. I just can't even imagine. I hope the family can get through this difficult time surrounded by love and light.

[Maiasaura]

OK, mamas, I have limited capability right now. M helped me, via phone, to wipe my whole computer clean and recover it. I think I managed to save a couple of photos (we'll have to see if the thumb drive is infected, but that's for later) but I forgot to save the bookmarks. Dang.
Anyway, at least I'm online again and my computer was saved
Thank the gods for M!! I would have had to pay tons of $$ that I don't have, otherwise!

He's at the doctor right now, finding out the state of his pancreatitis and such. I'm hoping and praying that it's mild and that he's got a good long while to live, and that he can mitigate the circumstances somehow.

[mamaofthree]

maia: to M

i have been realizing that i have not really been living my most authentic life. i have been trying to live someone else's life. i tend to read blogs and i sometimes forget that alot of those blogs people just don't give 100% true face to the trials of their lives. i mean who wants to read about the crap of someone else's life. so i read lovely blogs that make me feel inadequate and then i try really hard to "be them" only my life isn't their life, my kids aren't their kids and i am going to guess their kids aren't as perfect as they are seen on the blog, you know, i mean people have crappy days. a few years ago i was so happy with in my life and then i got PPD with ds#3 and things just sort of lost focus i was all over the place and i tried to rebuild, but i didn't try to rebuild my own life i tried to make my life someone else's. and i always felt like i was failing because my life wasn't "perfect" it wasn't like that life in the blog. kind of scary how much of my life i have wasted trying to be someone else.

off to see dd preform in her english class... they are acting out characters from tale of two cities (god bless them. i could hardly drag my butt thru that book back in high school. lol)

h

[Millie Ivy]

Mamaofthree- hugs and more hugs. I have to remember the same thing, when reading about other lives online. It really was eye opening when my sister started her own blog. She writes beautifully, and is honest, but she comes across very differently online than she does in real life. Not dissing her, she is authentic, but you know, she doesn't blog about her fears, or about the hardest days, most don't until they are already through them! And it really got me thinking that probably other people see my life online and envy ME!
Just wanted to share that. Now get thee to your dd's class. And then to the June thread!

[wombatclay]

BIG hugs mamaofthree... I'm in a similar place, realizing that I need to really focus and discover who "I" am and what "I" want. Not what I "think" I want, or what I think I "should" want. It's hard, and scary, but it'll be worth it in the end. At least I hope it will! I hope you find your authentic balance quickly.

Busy weekend, busy week... ay yi yi I'm behind! The chicken pox kept us home and it's amazing how much I'd come to depend on being able to go/do as needed.

hopes for healing to all in need....

the weather keeps taking out the internet, fingers crossed this gets through!

[unschoolinmom]

I understand momofthree. When I need to see that life isn't perfect, I do go to TMZ

Today dh and I decided that our children's children will be extra crazy just for them! Looks like that great bed I bought the kids is all about broken. We don't have the money to get a new one right now.

I have learned one thing hon. Something I tell myself constantly. No one else is going to be perfect. But the ones we love are perfect for us for a reason. Does that make sense? For each person that comes into our lives, they are perfect for that particular time and reason. Whether they stay or go, they had a reason. Most people who know my children (especially dd) call them freaks of nature. But they are MY perfect freaks of nature !

I'm crazy pants today. I probably don't make sense lol.

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by Maiasaura

He's at the doctor right now, finding out the state of his pancreatitis and such. I'm hoping and praying that it's mild and that he's got a good long while to live, and that he can mitigate the circumstances somehow.

Quoting my ownself
He's fine
Well....not Fine fine, but fine. He does not have pancreatitis after all but his pancreas is inflamed. The doctor said, "No more drinking, EVER. This is the first and last time I'm going to tell you that".
I said, "Did that scare you enough, do you think, that you might be able to stop before you start, next time?" and he said Yes...then I said "What's to stop you, next time you get pissed off and just don't care, from saying you don't care and you're going to do it anyway?"
And he said I was probably right. He's got a death wish anyway, and he needs to get back on antidepressants, and he knows it-- walked away with a script for Zoloft, and for Prilosec for a possible ulcer, but what limited insurance he has right now won't cover either of them, being non-life threatening

Speaking of insurance-- I got the letter from BCBS explaining why ds was turned down. Just as I thought: for being on ADHD meds
WTF do I do now?
I heard that now everyone is going to be fined for not buying insurance. What am I supposed to do, when we've been turned down for such?? GRRRR.

Originally Posted by wombatclay

BIG hugs mamaofthree... I'm in a similar place, realizing that I need to really focus and discover who "I" am and what "I" want. Not what I "think" I want, or what I think I "should" want. It's hard, and scary, but it'll be worth it in the end. At least I hope it will! I hope you find your authentic balance quickly.

I don't know what I want, either. I thought I wanted to be a nurse, and I still have mixed feelings about quitting school. I don't want to be a CNA, but I feel like I should keep my certificate current-- what for, I don't know, if I don't want to be one or go back to nursing school. But I don't know that, either.
All of which would be moot if we moved to MA anyway, as I'd have to start from scratch. They aren't reciprocal with NC.
I oughtta just wait tables again. I like it, and I make good money at it. Just, who'd want a 50yo waitress?

Originally Posted by unschoolinmom

I understand momofthree. When I need to see that life isn't perfect, I do go to TMZ

What is TMZ?

I'm so glad to be back online, with my own computer, in my own home
I still need to tweak some things-- as in, get Windows Mail back again, and put StumbleUpon's toolbar back, and find my bookmarks again, which I lost in the recovery but at least I'm in the comfort of my own home!

[DaughterOfKali]

Originally Posted by Maiasaura

Just as I thought: for being on ADHD meds

Seriously?! They turned down a child for being on ADHD meds?! What the heck is this country coming to?

Maia- If you can move to MA, your son would get MAHealth. And his meds would be free. They don't turn you down for pre existing conditions, etc.

[Maiasaura]

Yes, seriously, and for being on Abilify, too. I know. I'm so pissed I can't see straight

DS...I sent him to school yesterday and forgot to give him his Vyvanse. He'd been off it for 3 days because of the 3 day weekend (I've been trying to save it if I can, because now he's uninsured and we only have about a month's worth left), and while it was hard, we got through it.
He apparently did pretty well w/o it at school, because I didn't get any notes home, or emails. So yay. I asked him if he wanted to try today w/o meds, too, and he said yes.
If he can wean off them, that would be awesome. I never wanted him on them to begin with. Plus if he can get away with not using them much, we can save them for the important occasions.

I sure hope you're right about MassHealth.

Can you tell me about the difference between that and Health Connector? I looked that up, too, and it says the upper income limit for that is some $43K for a family of two!!! If that's so, we're in like Flynn. I sure don't make $43K!!

MassHealth goes by the federal poverty standards, which we're too high for to get state health insurance here in NC (by a measly $49.32/month, grrr).
BUT. MassHealth has a higher bracket even than NC, so we'd be covered, just, a different standard (like a higher premium, or something).

There are a lot of things I don't like about MA, but NC has betrayed me. I've loved this state for 22 years and thought I'd never leave

[wombatclay]

Maia- yay for the reprieve! boo for the health insurance. And since our goal is to eventually move back to Boston, who knows? Maybe you and DoK and I (and any other regional mamas of course) can actually meet someday over IKEA coffee!

So, Ro turns three this weekend (well, the 8th, but we're celebrating on our camping trip this weekend). But she has suddenly morphed into a raging inferno of inappropriate behavior. Almost the 'terrible twos' a year late and with a lot more muscle strength. Throwing things, kicking, hitting... it's crazy. I hope it's a short phase.

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by wombatclay

Maia- yay for the reprieve! boo for the health insurance. And since our goal is to eventually move back to Boston, who knows? Maybe you and DoK and I (and any other regional mamas of course) can actually meet someday over IKEA coffee!

So, Ro turns three this weekend (well, the 8th, but we're celebrating on our camping trip this weekend). But she has suddenly morphed into a raging inferno of inappropriate behavior. Almost the 'terrible twos' a year late and with a lot more muscle strength. Throwing things, kicking, hitting... it's crazy. I hope it's a short phase.

Reprieve? What reprieve?
Yeah, that would be awesome to all meet. I've never been to, nor seen, an IKEA. I'm mildly curious what all the fuss is about. I'm not much of a fan of furniture (it's just function, to me-- I'm happy with Goodwill or Salvation Army furniture, or for that matter, stuff I find on the side of the road ).

Threes...Clay, srsly, has nobody told you? Did you not go through 3 with your oldest? Three makes two look like a walk in the park on valium. Get yourself Louise Bates Ames' book "Your Three Year Old". It will save your life. It did mine. I thought I was raising a sociopath. I hit my head on the wall I don't know how many countless times. I cried and cried. I had people reassure me that if my boy wasn't hurting animals, I was probably ok

Then I read her. I cried with relief!! Not only was my boy's behavior developmentally normal and appropriate, it was so common, someone wrote a whole book about it. Ye Gods, I don't know what I would have done without her little tomes, in my ds's early childhood!

[DaughterOfKali]

Originally Posted by Maiasaura

Can you tell me about the difference between that and Health Connector?

I've never heard of Health Connector.

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by DaughterOfKali

I've never heard of Health Connector.

https://www.mahealthconnector.org/po...ite/connector/

[Maiasaura]

Also, this: https://www.mahealthconnector.org/po...tte.cachetoken

I think it's just for me, not my kid. But if he had MassHealth and I had this, I'd be set to go! I hardly use doctors or scripts, but it'd be nice to have just in case of (Gods forbid) something catastrophic.

[wombatclay]

Ok, I totally forgot it was June. http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1229857