Help w/ rude children - Page 2

[Ellien C]

ooo preggie! You give such good advice. I'd become a fan of you if I could on MDC!

I'm the youngest in the family (by a long shot) but I married someone 10 years older than me, an oldest AND he's the age of my sibs. At one point the 2 sisters decided that Christmas was going to be a different way and kind of bulldozed my parents and brother into it. I sort of explained to DH that that's the way it was and I didn't get quite as full a say as the older kids. And my brother is just introverted and goes with the flow. Well - Dh corrected them the next year and said we weren't going to be doing Christmas that was as it didn't work for our family. It was eye opening to me. So I know what you mean about claiming yourself.

[Tuckoo]

I came to post a thread about something similar and this has been very helpful. Thanks! I might even print out some stuff because I tend to get flustered trying to control my anger.

[PreggieUBA2C]

Thanks mamas.

Dp and I have broken a lot of (negative) cycles in our families with our little family, and we're hoping that without all the baggage that we had, our dc can mature into adults at a more opportune point in their lives than it seems we have. We both have a lot of things to work on still, of course, but every stretch and lamentation that it'll take forever to 'fix' this or that behaviour has turned out to be really hard and reeeeaaaally worth the effort.

It's also amazing that whenever something comes to light about myself, the resources and the opportunities I need to make changes arrive as well. The balance of the universe never ceases to amaze me.