Originally Posted by MusicianDad
Apparently bride elect is a woman who has been chosen for marriage to someone. I am thinking it probably dates back to when women were property and a bride was quite literally picked out as "most worthy of being a bride".*shudder*
Yes, in this use the "elect" part means "chosen" (as in: by the man). Sure, it's out-of-date. I never use it, although it's still in use in our area. I don't bother getting annoyed by it, though, because I know most people who say it use it simply out of tradition and not because they are aware of it's history.
I have plenty of other things that it's more important for me to get annoyed about. I know that's a difficult point to make because it always seems to imply that the person saying it has a superior attitude of not getting hung up on "the little crap". But if the issue is females being marginalized in society, I'd rather concentrate on how my daughters feel about their roles. If they feel good about themselves, someone one day characterizing them as "bride-elects" will just be water off a duck's back.