i was hoping for a girl

[mama24-7]

my SIL is expecting, & according to the U/S recently, it's a boy. i was so hoping for a girl. unfortunately, my brother is not my biggest fan & i don't think there is any hope for me talking to him. i don't know my SIL really. i'm trying to work on my mother to get her to protect her future grandson but she's neutral on the subject at best. when my brother was born, she researched nothing & went along w/ the status quo. she said they simply asked her that if it was a boy, would he be circ'd. she said yes.

keep your fingers crossed they know the people in urology at the children's hospital that they work at & hear the awful stories of the babies/children whom they see as a result of their circumcisions.

if anyone has any recommendations for a specific resource to share w/ our parents, i'd love to hear which one & why.

i don't think i'm going to get much sleep tonight.

sus

[hakunangovi]

Wow !! I feel for you. I do not know if your Mom lives near you - but I like the video done by DOC (doctors opposing circumcision ) . It explains what a foreskin is, how it functions and why it is a useful and desirable organ. If you could get her to watch it, then maybe the education would persuade her on to your side

[Night_Nurse]

Well, if you're wanting to discuss it with your own mom, maybe you could send her the articles by Dr. Sears or Dr. Edell.
Here's a video of Dr. Spock saying he would no longer recommend circumcision even though he used to.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oiEOiAkQRSY
I bet your mom really trusts what Dr. Spock says. This might help her feel okay that she too thought circ was okay when your brother was born but now the doctors know it's not needed. The goal isn't to make your mom feel guilty about what happened but to see that the general opinion among doctors has changed.
You might also forward her the AAP policy.

http://www.healthcentral.com/drdean/408/9985.html - Dr Edell article

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/1/T012000.asp - Dr. Sears link

Even though you and your brother are not close, I don't see what the harm would be to send him a congratulatory note on his baby boy and sending him a few links. However, you know your family dynamic best so maybe your mom might feel comfortable talking to brother & SIL. Good luck!

[mama24-7]

thanks for the replies & the links you think might be helpful. i'll probably send her some & just ask her to look at them. i''ve already asked her to consider the following: that we don't do this to girls & that it has an impact on her, me & my SIL that all our spouses are circ'd. i'm going to see her friday & may ask her what she thinks of those things.

my brother just about hates me. he's a pretty unsavory individual and so it's no loss on my end. he takes my parenting the way i do as a criticism of his (he has a 9 y.o. dd). he may be a little crazy. so for that reason, i can't approach him at all or he'll do it just b/c i say not to.

thanks again.

sus