Originally Posted by laurata
(((Kara))) You are right, it is hard to build community here. I've been here for more than two years now, and although I would say I have "friends," I almost never see them, and I am lonely more often than not. It doesn't help that I have trouble reaching out to make plans. I go to LLL meetings when I can, and Mom's Night Out if it works for my dh, but... Yeah.
For sure, seeing a counselor will help. I really like Juliana Nason Ashe, but I don't know if she is accepting new patients. I found flower essences to help. Exercise to manage the anxiety. Regular sleep, which I know has been an issue for you. Has that improved any over the past two months?
Let me know if you want to get together.
Tricare doesn't accept Juliana, unfortunately. I don't have the energy to exercise, though I've tried for years and years now. Sleep has not gotten better. We attempted to partially nightwean when my husband was home briefly, but now he is gone again and I am back to getting less sleep. I have trouble reaching out, too. I have trouble even actually going to the events. I am so ridiculously lonely, and yet I have opportunities to get together with other moms and I don't go. I don't want to, I can't bring myself to do it. One on one is easier...it's groups that make me feel even worse. Nothing like being in the middle of a group of people who all know each other and feeling totally alone, you know?
To everyone else...I still haven't seen a counselor, as they are all booking several weeks out still. I need to just call one and make an appointment for a month from now and be done with it, but my thoughts are so foggy and scattered during the day...with my husband gone, I'm going going going all day just trying to keep afloat, and by the time I'm thinking of calling, it's 10 pm. Military One Source's website says they are not equipped to deal with serious issues so I haven't called them. I am contemplating moving back to Florida, even though it isn't what I want to do...at least I have some people here, whereas here, I have nobody. I appreciate all of the responses and offers for help. Right now, my daughter is the one keeping me holding on. I don't want her to be alone or scared, so I need to keep it together for her. I can't have a breakdown, I can't go to a facility. I need to stay strong for her.