I always expected that I would do CLW, but when my son was about 2 1/2 and I was pregnant with #2, I started to hate nursing. It didn't really hurt or involve any physical challenges that I was aware of, but just felt inexplicably almost unbearable. We were already down to nursing only at bedtime, so I finally decided to go ahead and wean, particularly so it could be done several months before the baby was born.
Well, now she is two months old, and nursing her is going well. I was somewhat afraid that I would hate nursing her, too, but I don't. The problem is, we never really got into a good new bedtime routine with DS. The weaning process ended up being shorter than was probably ideal, and was also happening during a very busy, stressful time in our lives, so we kind of let it slide. Since we've never done CIO, the only ways he will go to sleep are riding in a car (which he often resists at night, because he doesn't want to sleep, I think), or watching videos, which sometimes goes on for hours.
I don't really mind the videos in theory, but it's kind of sad watching him lying there in a stupor every night when I wish he would go to sleep reading books with us, snuggling, etc. (we still cosleep, and he likes to be read to, I think it's just hard for him to get to the point of going to sleep. We used to just read a few books and then he would be happy to lie down and nurse). Anyway, today the idea of trying unweaning occurred to me. He's almost three, but still asks occasionally, and it's been about six months.
I'm a little worried, though, because there are a few worst (or worstish, I guess) case scenarios that come to mind: I still hate nursing him but feel I have to do it anyway for a couple of years, I still hate nursing and have to rewean soon, nursing goes ok but now we have to nurse at night and still end up watching hours of videos because we're out of the nursing to sleep routine... I guess I'm really tempted to try it, but I'd like any opinions or suggestions about how to do this as smoothly as possible. I guess I'm particularly curious about whether others have gone through this type of very visceral aversion to nursing older kids and whether it ever passed or not.
Thanks!
Well, now she is two months old, and nursing her is going well. I was somewhat afraid that I would hate nursing her, too, but I don't. The problem is, we never really got into a good new bedtime routine with DS. The weaning process ended up being shorter than was probably ideal, and was also happening during a very busy, stressful time in our lives, so we kind of let it slide. Since we've never done CIO, the only ways he will go to sleep are riding in a car (which he often resists at night, because he doesn't want to sleep, I think), or watching videos, which sometimes goes on for hours.
I don't really mind the videos in theory, but it's kind of sad watching him lying there in a stupor every night when I wish he would go to sleep reading books with us, snuggling, etc. (we still cosleep, and he likes to be read to, I think it's just hard for him to get to the point of going to sleep. We used to just read a few books and then he would be happy to lie down and nurse). Anyway, today the idea of trying unweaning occurred to me. He's almost three, but still asks occasionally, and it's been about six months.
I'm a little worried, though, because there are a few worst (or worstish, I guess) case scenarios that come to mind: I still hate nursing him but feel I have to do it anyway for a couple of years, I still hate nursing and have to rewean soon, nursing goes ok but now we have to nurse at night and still end up watching hours of videos because we're out of the nursing to sleep routine... I guess I'm really tempted to try it, but I'd like any opinions or suggestions about how to do this as smoothly as possible. I guess I'm particularly curious about whether others have gone through this type of very visceral aversion to nursing older kids and whether it ever passed or not.
Thanks!
