We live on the second floor of an apartment. Its relatively safe here, our car is parked feet from the front door. We have a laundry building across the small drive that goes through the parking lot.
When I do groceries by myself, ds will go in the wrap or mai tai, and I carry all the groceries in with two hands. Sometimes, I will take him off upstairs and get any remaining groceries. If DH is with me, I hold ds and he brings in the groceries, and I carry what I can, if needed.
When I return the cart, I will either keep ds with me, or leave him in the car, doesn't matter to me.
To me, leaving him in the car, buckled up, windows down if its warm-ish out is perfectly safe. I lock the car doors and never leave the keys in the ignition, because I would worry about someone stealing the car. He's not going to die of heat exhaustion or of cold, because if it was too hot, I would stick him on my back, and if its just a little warm, I would open the windows a little bit, and if its too cold, I wouldn't leave him in the car. plus, i'm not leaving him for too long. he isn't going to mess with the gears because he's buckled in, doesn't know how to unbuckle himself yet, and even if he did, he wouldn't be able to get to anywhere where he would be able to mess with anything, and even if he did, I'm sure I would notice it before anything could happen(at worst the car rolls back down the parking lot) OR, another car could hit the car, but that impact would be a lot smaller than the danger of driving the car on the actual road.
When I do laundry, If I'm planning on doing laundry and going somewhere in the car, I will put ds in the car, go back upstairs, grab the laundry baskets, and put them in the car, drive to the laundry building, and park somewhere where I will be able to see the car through a window. then I go in, leave ds in the car, and put the laundry in the washer. If I have to put the laundry into the dryer, I will either leave ds in the car or bring him in and let him play on the floor, and when I go back to collect the laundry, I often fold it there, and keep ds on my back, or let him play on the yucky laundry room floor(or in a basket
and if the guy was only 20something, what are the odds of him actually knowing what its like to have kids that make a break for it? Its amazing how many childless people find the need to comment on parenting skills.
, when I was pregnant, I was berated by a 17 year old for drinking half a can of pepsi(for the first time in a month), because she was sure it was going to do drastic harm to my baby