He is emotionally challenged (like most men) and mentioned to me that I struggled the MOST with this labor out of all of them and that I was getting worse with age. 
He didn't mean to hurt my feelings but he did!
First of all he wasn't there for my first birth (we hadn't met yet!) where I pushed for 2.5 hrs and screamed the baby out....but he did see me the next two times where I also freaked a bit at pushing but pushed baby VERY quickly (10 minutes) since doctors were yelling at me to PUSHHHHHHH.
Since the labors he's seen me in I'm TOTALLY silent and calm through the WHOLE labor until pushing he's only seen me panic for a few minutes in each labor....until this one.
This birth was a homebirth instead of hospital and I hardly pushed at all, let my body do the pushing. But since I did this I had a much longer stage (30 minutes or so) of baby moving down after waters were broken. I did alot of moaning and some talking to myself about how I was in pain. I pushed head out myself and shoulders got stuck a bit so I yelled for midwife to help...
Again the whole labor I was sooooooo calm even calmer than my last ones in my opinion. This labor was 5.5 hours vs. the 2.5 of the last two. So I was calm longer and had a great time! But since he saw the last bit post waters breaking/pushing and that lasted 30 minutes he thinks I'm "old" and should not have more babies and not handling things well, etc.
My Mom who was there said I was excellent and she'd kill to have more clients as easy as me...(she's a doula too). But it hurts that hubby was not impressed. I was hoping the homebirth atmosphere this time would send him away having a new appreciation for what we do as women and helping him enjoy the birth. But he "doesn't get it" and that makes me sad!
Thanks for letting me vent!
He didn't mean to hurt my feelings but he did!First of all he wasn't there for my first birth (we hadn't met yet!) where I pushed for 2.5 hrs and screamed the baby out....but he did see me the next two times where I also freaked a bit at pushing but pushed baby VERY quickly (10 minutes) since doctors were yelling at me to PUSHHHHHHH.
Since the labors he's seen me in I'm TOTALLY silent and calm through the WHOLE labor until pushing he's only seen me panic for a few minutes in each labor....until this one.
This birth was a homebirth instead of hospital and I hardly pushed at all, let my body do the pushing. But since I did this I had a much longer stage (30 minutes or so) of baby moving down after waters were broken. I did alot of moaning and some talking to myself about how I was in pain. I pushed head out myself and shoulders got stuck a bit so I yelled for midwife to help...
Again the whole labor I was sooooooo calm even calmer than my last ones in my opinion. This labor was 5.5 hours vs. the 2.5 of the last two. So I was calm longer and had a great time! But since he saw the last bit post waters breaking/pushing and that lasted 30 minutes he thinks I'm "old" and should not have more babies and not handling things well, etc.
My Mom who was there said I was excellent and she'd kill to have more clients as easy as me...(she's a doula too). But it hurts that hubby was not impressed. I was hoping the homebirth atmosphere this time would send him away having a new appreciation for what we do as women and helping him enjoy the birth. But he "doesn't get it" and that makes me sad!
Thanks for letting me vent!
