May I join in? I did not know this was an ongoing thread.
We are a low income family living on one full time wage at $8.50/hr US. Both parents are students, though I took this semester off to teach an 8 wk art class that paid me about $500. We homeschool our oldest, who is 6 and in 1st grade, and we are expecting a new little one at the end of July (I know, I need a sig line but I just can't ever think of anything clever!).
We've been making it all right until we had to evict or roommate---I confronted him (for about the 4th time) about eating our food (at night, sneakily, after dp and I went to bed), and he totally lost it and became violent. I'm glad he's out because after he left, we found all manner of disturbing stuff indicating that he wasn't just a jerk but dangerous. I guess he was justifying not buying his own groceries by the fact that we get food stamps--but we get about $50/wk! Very sketchy to just feed ourselves on, even with lots of cooking from scratch. So I told him 'every time you reach in there and take out food that is not yours, you are stealing from a pregnant woman and a needy family' which is true!
So our rent doubled for May and June; our lease is up at the end of June, and we (miraculously) were approved for a home loan (w/ cosigner). So we are really seeking hard for our home before we have our baby.
The baby! That's another thing--we are paying our midwife out of pocket to attend us at home--$3500, but she is taking 250/mo. Hopefully we will be all settled in our new house . . . life has been pretty chaotic through this whole pregnancy; we actually moved into where we are a couple weeks before Xmas, hoping this place would be better and then it all started going downhill with the roomie.
Anyways. My partner is stressed and hates his job, and I have some SAHM guilt. Part of the reason I haven't worked for a year or so is because I have MAJOR dental work that is needed for me to be comfortable working in the public (I have a congenital issue that means my adult teeth never came in). Can't get disability for it, though it totally limits me, and can't get medicaid to pay any of it, though I totally need a prosthetic--in my mind it's akin to being born without a hand or whatever--yeah I can get by but I feel really self-conscious and have to alter a lot of my daily activities because of it.
I'm having "the last" surgery June 2 and supposedly I will have my grill then
but it has been four years of major surgeries--implants and bone grafts, and every penny I've had has gone toward it with lots of student loans for the same purpose, etc. At this point, I am blessed that the docs are donating a lot of time and materials.
I just want this crap to be over with and to settle into our new home with our new baby! Then maybe start thinking about getting a part time job again.
So that's all. Long intro! I am watching out for the silver lining, but we have been living in a storm for so long now.