Crabby and Cranky: leave your whining here

[DeChRi]

I just needed a generic whine thread.

My toddler won't sleep and I am exhausted which means nothing getting done around the house. DH is overworked and I feel bad for him. DD1 is in the throws of preteen hell and I have no idea how to deal effectively with it. That is really it. Mostly I am just SO exhausted that everything seems out or proportion, ya know? Like I need to pay 3 bills (which we have $ for) and water the flowers and I feel like it is climbing mount everest.

[elyag]

I have so many whines I don't even know where to begin. I guess my major whine is that I'm having a ridiculous hard time sleeping now and I wake up so tired the next day I can't even function. I hope I can find my zen feelings again but it's starting to get harder and harder.

I'll just stop there.

[gentlestrengths]

Well.
I have been cranky off and on for a few days.
First of all, this is my 5th baby. You'd think...(you'd think!!!) that I'd go "on time" for once. Here I am...40 weeks and 5 days (but who's counting) and pregnant.

I can't stand the comments. You know the "are you still pregnant," "whoa! You look like you're about to POP!", and so on and so forth. I have NEVER been able to stand people hovering over me at "the end" - calling me every day to ask "anything yet???" like they are going to randomly call me during labor or something. It's bugged me since baby #1 - nothing new really. I think it has become more annoying. lol.

I am so excited and ready for this baby to come that it makes me annoyed and anxious that I am "waiting"!! I know that probably is the most retarded thing ever....but it's my retarded thing. lol. I mean - everyone else "waits" too. Although, I suppose that I could argue, that some women are just cruising along at 39 weeks and 2 days and not a care in the world and they go into labor. Me? NOT SO MUCH.
Baby 1 - 42 weeks exactly.
Baby 2 - 41 weeks 3 days.
Baby 3 - 41 weeks 6 days
Baby 4 - 43 weeks and 3 days (YES! you read correctly!)

I took castor oil with my 1st and 4th. My 4th was 10 pounds even. Not doing that again (not that it was horribly hard, but pregnancy was hard those last 2 weeks! she was big!). This baby isn't that big, but still, I am NOT waiting!

I carry high, and so I think without the pressure of the baby's head down on the cervix I just don't go into labor well... it takes longer. I don't know. That is my theory.

So anyway, I am cranky because of annoying people, and being of my annoying labor pattern, and I just want to start!!! I love labor and birth! I love knowing my baby is coming soon. I want to meet this little girl or little man moving around inside of me!! I'm just ready!!!!!!!!!
Ok.
End Vent.
Thanks =)

[henny penny]

DeChRi, I love how you said everything feels out of proportion. Perfect! I'll have to keep that in mind when I feel ready to melt down.
Athough this week we've had to spend about 30 hours in the basement cleaning from the flood: pumping, sweeping, mopping, cleaning, throwing out, repeat. Now I'm so worried about mold. I could go on, of course, but won't.
But I think I'll take my flooded basement over dealing with pre-teen angst any day !

[tippy]

gentle - i hear ya! i don't understand why ppl feel the need to comment. i have gotten the "you look like you are about to pop" comment too. it's so annoying.

i was terribly cranky all last week. but this week i feel like i'm in better spirits (of course i did take mon off from work b/c i was exhausted so maybe that helped). but i'm still tired, and this waking up every 2 hrs to pee is REALLY getting old!!!

[khaoskat]

OMG - I so need this thread today....and I have only been up for 1 1/2 hours.

No sleep for 2 nights in a row...

1st night because DH was up till almost 3 in the morning troubleshooting our fax line (ok, couldn't he have waited till morning)....I had just finally fallen asleep in the boys room on a little roll out bed, and he friggen wakes me up to tell me to go to bed...Oh, and I had to get up yesterday at 8.

2nd night (last night) because the roofers were here till almost 9:30, which means my kids were up 2 hours past their bed time (hard to get them to sleep and calm down for sleep with people pounding on the roof)....so, kids went to bed about 9:30, thankfully were tired and feel right asleep. Then, it took almost another hour to get DD2 calmed down and asleep.

DS2 is driving me nuts today...he has had too many disruptions in routine between yesterday and this morning already. The last straw with him, is he see's the roofer's wife and assumes she has the kids with him....while I am on with DH on the cell phone, he jumps out of the car, runs across the street (and we live on a very busy street), and I just loose it on him. He did the exact same thing yesterday. He fully understands how dangerous the street is and can even tell you why....but he has no ability to put that knowledge into practice...basically he knows it is dangerous and what can happen, but when given a chance to practice his safety he just ignores it and goes for what he wants. So, if a ball rolls into the street and goes across the street, he would run into the street after the ball to get it...even though he knows he could get really hurt.

Then, on top of that...I just forked out almost $400 in money and still have no working vehicle. I paid $172 to a repair shop to be told they couldn't find anything wrong or get it to replicate. Go to meet DH at the rental car company to return the rental car, and shut the car off while waiting for him. Go to turn it back on, and it is doing the exact same thing we took it to the shop for in the first place....

Then, they have 1 person working the entire rental car company place, and we are talking major national chain. I got there about 9:05, and had to leave to get DH home so he could go on a job site. I then go back to finish the return. Almost an hour after I originally get there, they are still working with one of the people that was there before me, and another one is sitting on the side in a chair waiting for a vehicle still....I have 2 kids (DS2 and DD2 in the car, so I am kid of just standing there with the door open....and the girl was so rude...she just grab the keys from me, takes a note pad, writes something down, goes back in, and ignores me....then starts riffling through paperwork on the counter, then on her desk...someone else walks in, and she jumps up to help them....

At that point, I say to myself "screw it" leave the credit card there and figure they will eventually get back to my transaction and do whatever the heck they want with it and they can scan the card and pay for it...since obviously no one is willing to communicate anything to me.... Yes, I understand that the person who walked in after me, was the girl who was there when I first got there at 9, and had come back....but still, you are in the middle of working with someone, it would at least be polite to acknowledge me and give me some idea of what the hold up on checking me out is, before jumping to another person who had come back from earlier to change out vehicles...and leave me hanging.

Oh, and I am with gentlestrengths on how she feels...especially with being a long gestator...for me...I am 38+6 today.
DS1 42+5
DS2 42 exactly
DD1 (full term loss) 40+2
DD2 40+6.

[attached2ethan]

I'm right there with all of you on the fatigue factor...not sleeping at all at night, so my days are exhausting. But more than that, I'm stuck on bedrest for high blood pressure- grateful to be at home and not in the hospital, but every day my hopes of a peaceful waterbirth are going out the window and it's looking more probable that this will not end well. My super awesome, crunchy and not-hasty midwife is pretty sure we're going to the hospital soon, at least for observation and most likely induction- we're just trying to let baby girl cook another few days so we can be officially full term before we make a decision- I'll be 37 weeks on Sunday.

My whine is that I'm mourning the possible loss of another perfect birth. DS1 was a hospital induction- wasn't horrible, but when compared to my perfect, blissful birth with DS2, there is just no comparison. I'm so against medical births at this point, that I am fighting a huge internal battle between what I beleive in and what's safest for me and my daughter. I keep having little crying outbursts when I think about all the things I wanted to do in my last month of pregnancy that bedrest is robbing me of, including some special things with my boys. It just all feels too big to handle today!!!

[Mama2Bean]

I need this thread, too. It seems like people in my support system are letting me down, one after the other, through either circumstances or just flaking out. The latest is my doula, now not available after injuring her knee. I understand this isn't something she wanted to happen, but it's just the latest crap.

Now I'm 37 wks and scrambling to find someone that I can meet and like and feel comfortable with to help birth my child.

Also, my mom just basically told me she doesn't want to deal w/DD during my labor since she will be freaking out to be with me. Thanks a lot.

Sorry that you other mamas are having a hard time, too.

[dkenagy]

Originally Posted by gentlestrengths

I can't stand the comments. You know the "are you still pregnant," "whoa! You look like you're about to POP!", and so on and so forth. I have NEVER been able to stand people hovering over me at "the end" - calling me every day to ask "anything yet???" like they are going to randomly call me during labor or something. It's bugged me since baby #1 - nothing new really. I think it has become more annoying. lol.

THIS!

This is also my 5th (earthside) baby and I am so sick of people calling/hovering in the last few weeks. I have a tendency to go beyond my EDD, too, but they still start "checking in" around 36-37 weeks... as if I will secretly give birth and never tell them; I live in the SAME TINY town as my parents, grandparents, sister, and in-laws... I think someone would notice!! PLUS, for the first time in any pregnancy, I am SO ready to be done--tired of all the physical side effects, tired of being so tired I can barely function, ready to meet this little guy! So, it doesn't help when people are calling/stopping by all the time... even if they try to thinly veil their intentions. "I was just calling, uh, to, ummmm, see if you were, uhhhhhh, still planning to um, go to church tonight. Yes, that's it. Are you going to church?" yup. Maybe I'll bring the baby I secretly birthed during the 15 minutes I wasn't on the phone this morning.

I'm also SO done with being up half the night with very convincing contractions; crampy, tight, back-wrenching contractions that will wake me up out of a dead-sleep, be regular every 5-10 minutes for hours, then just STOP. GGRRRRRRRR!! Then I have to function the next day,with minimal sleep and all these kids around here still expect me to do all the regular things I usually do... I feel like I am going to fall apart.

[DeChRi]

After 2 hrs of pouting, being angry at To Do list and struggling to control my 2yp, I just grabbed her, sunscreen and a bottle of RRL tea and we are driving 45 min to the zoo, lol.

[khaoskat]

Originally Posted by dkenagy

Maybe I'll bring the baby I secretly birthed during the 15 minutes I wasn't on the phone this morning.

I know this is the Whiny Cranky thread...but with this comment I just have to...

[khaoskat]

Originally Posted by DeChRi

After 2 hrs of pouting, being angry at To Do list and struggling to control my 2yp, I just grabbed her, sunscreen and a bottle of RRL tea and we are driving 45 min to the zoo, lol.

At least you have a car to drive to the zoo with....

*sigh*

Honestly, I think the thing I am most pissed about is the car situation.

[7swans]

Originally Posted by dkenagy

I'm also SO done with being up half the night with very convincing contractions; crampy, tight, back-wrenching contractions that will wake me up out of a dead-sleep, be regular every 5-10 minutes for hours, then just STOP. GGRRRRRRRR!! Then I have to function the next day,with minimal sleep and all these kids around here still expect me to do all the regular things I usually do... I feel like I am going to fall apart.

I totally feel you on that, mama! Almost every night I'm wondering if I'm actually in labour this time, and then I'm exhausted the next day. How come these contractions never come during the daytime?

Also I have one extremely annoying friend who usually calls late at night, and after repeatedly asking her not to call after 9 or 10pm since DH has to leave the house at 5:45 am, and I tend to conk out early as well, she called this morning at 8:45. Most mornings I would be up, but I had just managed to get back to sleep after a long night of contractions. So frustrated!

[Crispie]

Okay, I've been pretty good about my zen. But since you created this easy outlet...I. am. so. freaking. tired. And you did say it beautifully...it makes everything out of proportion.

Let's not even discuss the sleep issue and the two year old that suddenly wants to sleep in our bed again after months of hard sleep training. He crawls in the middle with all twenty of his elbows and thirty of his knees.

Here's my typical night for the last week...

Can I just say I'm a bed Nazi? I love you, I love to cuddle, I love sex, (especially when it promotes labor) but then get the hell away from me. It's 800 degrees, I'm sweating like a pig the size of a cow and want my damn space. The one time of day I can be a big fat pregnant slob and snore or drool and sleep in my own private dreamland...except DH is up my butt! DH the most hands off guy. Like, it's my job to initiate affection. Which is cool, he's always reciprocal, just not an initiator. Until I'm 10 months pregnant and exhausted. Then he wants up my butt!

If you split the (California King sized) bed in half (which in my logistics, there are two of me so, technically, I should get like um 3/4 of the bed) but okay fine if you split the bed in half it would be "fair." Except DH lays right. on. the. line. Facing my way. This equates to about 75% of the bed in my book. (yeah I actually look at the 50% line markers like the center of the headboard and eyeball measure how much he is hogging in the middle of the night )And then, he coughs, and smacks his lips and rubs his hands over his face nearly elbowing my face about five hundred times through the night.

So, I can only lay on my left or right side to begin with. Now my alloted bed space is half gone, AND when I do finally choose my left side I get to deal with you smacking imaginary gum and throwing elbows in my face? ARGH! I ask him to please move back and he mutters that he can't because it's dark and he can't see. He's tired and can't even think...and I just think to myself, it must be nice to sleep so hard you give THAT for a response.

This is the point where I decide I'm going to get up to pee and hopefully the noise will wake him up enough to realize he is being an unfair bed hog. I flip on the bathroom light, slam down the toilet seat (that HE left up) trickle out my tablespoon of "really I woke up for that?!?!" and be sure to flush, wash, and shut the door loudly on the way out. Oh, it works, he wakes up all right and he has now taken my comforter hostage as his own personal body pillow. OMG I'm gonna kill! I grab my pillow and comforter and yank them from his tightly clenched fists. I will not have DH drool on my sacred bed buddies. He wakes up with a start and is pissed at me for being mean and waking him up so rudely.

About the time things settle down and I have at least 40% of the bed again, drift off into a peaceful slumber...this little two year old says "drink" about a foot from my head. Which really means "me and my elbows want the middle please-or I will wake up screaming every thirty minutes til dawn-so move over lady"

Okay so to complete my novel length rant is it that big of a deal the midwives are coming today and DH finally got around to painting the matte finished wall patches with glossy paint? No. But it's way outta proportion in my head. Is it that big of a deal that I'm 36.5 with no signs of dropping or impending labor at all? Well, no, it's pretty normal really. But it's way outta proportion in my head. Is it that big of a deal that suddenly DS's diapers are springing leaks left and right and I JUST spent a whole day romancing the carpets with a rented rug shampooer? Well, no, but damnit it feels pretty out of proportion to ME! I could keep listing, but really it's not all that big of deals it's just me. My bills are paid, there's food in the fridge, no one is sick and that right there is the start of a great list of gratitude, but man am I out of proportion right now!

Can I deal with three more weeks of these hormones?...if I don't get some sleep, probably not!

Is it nap time yet?

Thank you for the opportunity to leave my baggage behind. I'm going to let it go now, and move about my day

[Mama2Bean]

Oh Crispie, your DH lip smacking in his sleep and all those great descriptions

[khaoskat]

You know ladies...I really think this thread is theraputic...regardless if you are needing to vent/cry/whine/be crabby, etc...or just need affirmation you are not alone.

After reading through this and putting down my vent for the day...I am actually feeling so much better, and have looked back through a few of the posts and laughed. Because some of them are also how I feel.

Maybe we should have one of these on a daily basis.

[7swans]

Originally Posted by khaoskat

Maybe we should have one of these on a daily basis.

I totally agree!

And Crispie, I totally feel your pain but I lol'd through that whole post! I'm not as nice as you, though - I push DH back to his side. Forcefully.

[maygee]

Today was my "be a fun mommy and enjoy the last few days of having an only child" day. It took about five minutes to become "watch the movie, Mommy is drinking her coffee in the kitchen and trying not to yell" day.

I have no patience. My poor dd. She is such an awesome kid and I can't get it together lately. I hate being so critical. I need to remember to just let things go that don't matter. Maybe I'll try starting the day over.

[Crispie]

lol I'd love to just shove his skinny but right off his side of the bed, but there are two issues with that. The main one being he wakes up like a damn bear you just poked in the sleeping eye with a stick...and that's on a good day after 10 hours of sleep. The second issue being, since he's already taking 75% of the bed I'd have a long way to push him and I can barely roll my big ole self over at this point. Maybe if I go on his side and push him off of my side onto the floor it would work...gonna contemplate this one...

[khaoskat]

Originally Posted by 7swans

I totally agree!

And Crispie, I totally feel your pain but I lol'd through that whole post! I'm not as nice as you, though - I push DH back to his side. Forcefully.

It can be a totally non-judgment post. Any little thing that is bothering you you can complain about on it to get it out...a sort of get the baggage out and let it go type of post.

I am sure about a month after the babies are born, we can all come back and have a good laugh at our own expense...because I am sure normal little things wont bother us as much any more.



*LOL* BTW - the poor rental car company we went through..DH went back to get my credit card, and they gave us a lower rate on the vehicle...I wasn't upset with them as much as I was with the entire fact that I just got my car back last night and it still was not fixed, and the only thing I was getting was well next time it happens run over here right away...umm..by the time I get to you, it will probably be perfectly fine.

The rental company was already taking a weekend day off, because the car we originally had, started grinding metal on brakes when we were driving, and they didn't have another vehicle till Monday (this was on Saturday)...

We put a new battery in the van, and see if that will change any of the issues we are having..