DH and I had a birthday party for DD. It was my first time having a kids party. On the invitation, I specifically said to contact me if any child had a food allergy or special dietary need. As the mother of a two year old who will sometimes only eat pasta, I wanted to make sure everyone was accommodated.
DD eats a mostly organic diet but if we are invited to someone's home I don't expect the host to cater to how we feed her. As long as it's not pork, she can eat whatever else is eating. Anyway, we served pizza and salad (for the adults). There was also apple sauce cups, cut up grapes and other kid friendly snacks for the children. One guest and her DP didn't eat anything we served. I asked if they wanted something else. We had a lot of food in the refrigerator. Cold cuts, cheese, pasta and pasta sauce. Enough food for me or DH to make sure no guest went home hungry including enough food to make a parent who only lets her child eat organic food happy. Her son grabbed for a slice of pizza but she said he couldn't have it. I asked her if she wanted me to make him a grilled cheese or pb and j and she said no. No problem. But then she took it upon herself to help herself to other food and snacks in our cabinet! She let her son eat three organic fruit pouches, crackers and cheese. When it came time to serve cake and ice cream, she told my husband he didn't eat cake because it's too sweet. Okay! No problem. DH asked if he could have ice cream. "Only if you have organic ice cream."
It turned out we did but normally that's not something we have in the apartment. It just turned out I had a free coupon for a Stonyfield Farm product and DH purchased it the night before. She let her son eat three bowlfuls of the icecream. Before she and her family left she ran into the kitchen and helped herself to some crackers. Then she asked me if there was a store near by where she could get something to eat. I told her the closest store was a few blocks away but they only sell sandwhiches and chips and stuff. I asked her why she didn't eat the pizza or have some salad if she was hungry. Her response? "I don't eat greasy food." 
I will admit I am very sensitive but I thought that comment was beyond rude. You don't eat greasy food but you let your son scarf down three fruit pouches, crackers and eat three bowlfuls of organic ice cream which has the same amount of sugar in it as non organic ice cream. I was extremely offended by this and called her up about it the following Monday. She told me I was too sensitive. She reiterated that she doesn't eat greasy food and she doesn't feed her son "conventional" pizza because it's greasy and would make his stomach queasy. She let him have ice cream because he hasn't had ice cream in a long time and because he really wanted it.
I would never invite her back to my home. I was very offended by her comments. I also went well out of my way to offer her and her partner and DC alternatives in terms of food. I also don't go into another person's home and help myself to their food.
DD eats a mostly organic diet but if we are invited to someone's home I don't expect the host to cater to how we feed her. As long as it's not pork, she can eat whatever else is eating. Anyway, we served pizza and salad (for the adults). There was also apple sauce cups, cut up grapes and other kid friendly snacks for the children. One guest and her DP didn't eat anything we served. I asked if they wanted something else. We had a lot of food in the refrigerator. Cold cuts, cheese, pasta and pasta sauce. Enough food for me or DH to make sure no guest went home hungry including enough food to make a parent who only lets her child eat organic food happy. Her son grabbed for a slice of pizza but she said he couldn't have it. I asked her if she wanted me to make him a grilled cheese or pb and j and she said no. No problem. But then she took it upon herself to help herself to other food and snacks in our cabinet! She let her son eat three organic fruit pouches, crackers and cheese. When it came time to serve cake and ice cream, she told my husband he didn't eat cake because it's too sweet. Okay! No problem. DH asked if he could have ice cream. "Only if you have organic ice cream."
It turned out we did but normally that's not something we have in the apartment. It just turned out I had a free coupon for a Stonyfield Farm product and DH purchased it the night before. She let her son eat three bowlfuls of the icecream. Before she and her family left she ran into the kitchen and helped herself to some crackers. Then she asked me if there was a store near by where she could get something to eat. I told her the closest store was a few blocks away but they only sell sandwhiches and chips and stuff. I asked her why she didn't eat the pizza or have some salad if she was hungry. Her response? "I don't eat greasy food." I will admit I am very sensitive but I thought that comment was beyond rude. You don't eat greasy food but you let your son scarf down three fruit pouches, crackers and eat three bowlfuls of organic ice cream which has the same amount of sugar in it as non organic ice cream. I was extremely offended by this and called her up about it the following Monday. She told me I was too sensitive. She reiterated that she doesn't eat greasy food and she doesn't feed her son "conventional" pizza because it's greasy and would make his stomach queasy. She let him have ice cream because he hasn't had ice cream in a long time and because he really wanted it.
I would never invite her back to my home. I was very offended by her comments. I also went well out of my way to offer her and her partner and DC alternatives in terms of food. I also don't go into another person's home and help myself to their food.
Maybe it was just the organic part of it. But still...
If it was going to be an issue for some reason I would feed him before going to the party. That goes for me, too. I know one mom whose son is on a gluten free diet and she makes sure to bring a cupcake with her so that her son can feel a part of the party and not "different" from his friends.
