Bad etiquette or too sensitive? Party related - Page 5

[Ravensong13]

I second the pp's statement about her seeming to eating organic for the 'cool' factor. If she was so worried about the cake being so sweet why in the world would she let her ds eat THREE bowls of ice cream?! I'm vegan and my dd is vegetarian with lactose issues and I ALWAYS check first before we eat at someone's house. I never expect others to cater to our needs and will often bake a small vegan cake or pack snacks for dd and I to bring if it's going to be an issue. I would also never dare even dream of rooting through another person's pantry, I don't even do that at my closest friend's house! Kudos to you for being so gracious about it. I would never invite the woman back.

[Subhuti]

I feel she was rude. But is it really THAT big a deal?

Why not just laugh about it?


Liz

[peaceful_mama]

Originally Posted by Kelly1101

I know several religions don't allow pork...

like ours----note the smiley in the sig line. I just heard my son telling his friend today that we don't celebrate Christmas, I'm sure next I'll hear him telling about pepperoni pizza

[peaceful_mama]

speaking of, if I'd been in attendance and you served pepperoni pizza without realizing that most pepperoni is pork, like some people do...or not realizing we don't eat it, because you didn't know us that well yet, or whatever. I would've *nicely* told you, if asked, why we were not eating the pizza and enjoyed your ice cream and cake.

I've also been known to just straight up ask before the party and make our issues known. Then either people know to accomodate us (my kids will eat cheese pizza happily as will most kids I know...) or we might show up after the pizza having eaten our own and enjoy dessert.

oh and since we don't eat *any* pork, my kids also don't eat things like gummy bears and non-kosher or halal marshmallows--gelatin. Or Starburts, and until recently, Skittles. (I keep waiting for Starburst to do what Skittles have done and nix the gelatin...)

[AllisonR]

Originally Posted by peaceful_mama

oh and since we don't eat *any* pork, my kids also don't eat things like gummy bears and non-kosher or halal marshmallows--gelatin. Or Starburts, and until recently, Skittles. (I keep waiting for Starburst to do what Skittles have done and nix the gelatin...)

Totally off topic! This is so interesting to me. As a meat/pork/everything eater, I haven't had to think about these things. Interesting to hear about issues I would have never considered - like there being meat, or meat by-products, in a candy.

[TinkerBelle]

She was beyond rude. I cannot imagine.

[wife&mommy]

Sorry I didn't read ALL of the responses. But you said you had pizza & salad. How the heck is SALAD greasy?

She was just rude in more than one way I think. If she was that picky, she should have brought food with her.

[painefaria]

we recently attended a party that they were serving pizza, DS has allergies to Wheat/dairy so we brought our own. We wanted him to have the opportunity to eat what the other kids were having but we also needed to know it was safe. I would never expect others to make sure my child had something to eat. She was rude and you went way out of your way

[Turquesa]

OMG, gbailey! Did that woman fly out from Washington state to attend the party? If so, I swear it was my sister!! She pulls this sort of trick EVERY time she visits.

I'll never forget the time when I made some schmancy crab puffs. She didn't tell me in advance that she was now on a gluten-free diet, but that didn't stop her from pulling out the crabs and leaving the "puffs" behind on the serving tray. But she also engages in the raid-the-cupboards, nitpick-everything routine that you experienced. Gotta love the control games.

Like the PP said, laugh at it. And have some compassion. There's a saying that the more control somebody needs to exert, the more out of control they are. It's kind of a sad state she's in, when you think about it.