need some advice about our program choices; long! - Page 2

[sesa70]

Originally Posted by SundayCrepes

Is your counselor encouraging you because they want your money? Why don't they call you if they have a hispanic baby that might work for you and THEN you could fork over the money? Why should you be the one to make the adjustments, why can't they? (They'll have a reason why, but that's just so they can get more money.

Unfortunately we have asked them many times if they can do just that, and its always no... not in their policy. I think they mean its not in the best interest of our bottom line.

Originally Posted by EFmom

Personally, if it were me, I'd stick with the AA program and wait.

There is something really wonky to me about the agency charging you at the higher rate no matter what. That just seems off.

This is exactly why we are hesitating. It does feel off and wrong.

Originally Posted by queenjane

I dont know a whole lot about private adoption....but is it possible to work with some kind of referral service while staying with your agency?

Yes... but I haven't found anything like that for reasonable. I did find a couple of referal type agencies that match Emoms and PAPs but the prices are insane. More than we can afford.

I have many negative feelings about our agency for sure, but I did pick them because they seemed to be the most stable and the best in the area. I really worry about starting up with a new agency and experiencing similar dissapointments and let downs. I don't know if starting all over again is really right for us. We would have to stay with them as our homestudy/post placement agency at any rate because they have a big chunk of our money and if we just walked away I don't think we could financially start over. We have a small budget to play with and I have to be extrememly careful of how it is used. To be honest, I am just plain scared!

QJ, can you tell your local lady to call me? LOL!

[BeckC]

So so many hugs Theresa. We are still in the same boat too. It's been 11.5 months for us with no end in sight. It just sucks. I wish I had some advice.

[sesa70]

Thanks everyone. It does sit poorly with me as well, for many many reasons. I think in the long run the wheelchair adapted van is a bigger priority for our family, so we are going to try and go forward with that right now. We decided to re-evaluate around the holidays to see where we are both emotionally and financially and then decide what to do, whether that is move forward with our agencies other program (doubtful) or explore other options and agencies.