Originally Posted by nextcommercial
This is exactly how I feel. It's not my job to keep your kid safe. So, your kid shouldn't be on my property.
It's extremely rude and disrespectful to ride their bikes in my yard or driveway. My husband is very anal about our yard. He works in our yard at least twice a week. He rakes the gravel next to the driveway. SO, we really don't want other people's kids on our gravel.... even though it technically isn't hurting it... it is leaving tire marks all over that my husband will have to go rake.
My uncle would actually go chase kids out of his yard with a rifle. As kids, we weren't EVER allowed to walk on his living room rug. If we accidentally did, he'd get the vaccum out and fix the footprints in his perfect carpet. He was that anal....... somehow, I married the same kind of man. (didn't know it until it was too late)
LOL We all find out when it's too late!
I think everyone pretty much agrees that the children should stay off of people's property. Certainly no argument there.
I guess what I'm trying to wrap my mind around, is with the exception of:
Going onto people's property (on purpose, or on accident),
Tossing that (stupid!) bike tire back and forth (in which they meant no harm, they were just being kids, but they def needed to stop)
His friend leaving his skateboard/bike in the common area, and
Playing near the electrical box
I don't understand the rest of the complaints. They were sitting on the sidewalk? Riding their bikes? Using cans as toys? Where's the line between playing and my neighbor's annoyance (if no one is on his property and no one is threatening his body or property)? He has no children. How come he gets to decide how my DS can play? Or am I reading too much into this? Should I do out and just monitor my ds every time he plays? I'm not sure that's going to work, either, because I would allow him to do things I construe as play, but my neighbor construes as a nusiance. Who decides? And, my ds would be mortified if I had to "play" with him and his friends!
It just seems so over the top. And I really wish the neighbor had just come to me, about the things that were actually a problem, and I would have disciplined my own son. Creepy, threatening letters in the mail with pictures of my ds doing, well, nothing wrong just piss me off. If your going to "prove" your case with "evidence", then at least have some!
I know his friend's mother got a letter, too, but I haven't had a chance to talk to her about it. The 3 other children that my ds doesn't usually play with live in another area of the neighborhood and I don't know them. Although the pictures show these 3 kids riding their bikes in someone's lawn, touching someone's lawn with his foot, and throwing the bike tire, I have a feeling that they may not have gotten a letter. At the bottom of my threat- ahem, I mean letter, it asks me to help identify the children if they are not mine.
Yeah, um, ok. Not sure how I feel about that.
I agree w/ the pp who said some people just don't think children should ever be around.
(And, this is totally ot and a side note and me being bitchy, but this "neighbor" had some kind of water leakage thing coming out of his house, down his yard, onto the sidewalk and street, for a couple of MONTHS before he did anything about it. The water was green and gross, and I'm sure not safe. I remember having to walk INTO the street everyday to get around it. Yuck! But, of course, these kids are the downfall of the neighborhood! ARGGHHHHH! I should've complained about the sewage thing! And, yes, I realize that this may have been a water company thing and not his fault, but I'm just in a bad mood!)