Originally Posted by mtiger
If this were my kid, it would have nothing to do with their race. But these are kids that Mom apparently doesn't know, and there's been an issue - justified or not. So... I would want to know where he knows them from, and how they all ended hanging together.
As kids get older, we don't know every one they know. My DD is about to turn 12, and half the kids she invited to her party I couldn't pick out of a line up.
|I've had kids in our neighborhood that I'd barred my kids from hanging with. They're trouble. And I'm not going to go there.
for us it comes down to behavoir. Luckily, we live in mixed neighborhood with nice kids and neighbors who are usually reasonable. The situation in the OPer's neighborhood sounds very icky to me.
I'd be clear with my child about behavoir that is and isn't OK, but I'd want to stay far, far away from implying that they shouldn't be friends with AA kids because if they are people will think they are up to no good. It's not the 50s.
I'd encourage my child to watch their step because Big Icky Neighbor is watching, but I'd want them to get outside, ride their bike, and enjoy their friends (even new friends that I hadn't met yet)!