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post #41 of 166
nak
how are you guys with more kids coping? i am trying to keep it together but my irritation is manifesting itself by me not wanting to bf anymore. i just dread it all the time. i feel realy crappy about it, theres no issues...zero but i just dont know if i want to keep going.
post #42 of 166
I'm actually doing ok so far. I've locked us in the bedrooms, and so far we've only had one bout of hysterics, and that was from Naomi - who has decided that she needs to eat RIGHT NOW every time I change her brother's diaper.

But things are ok.

Danielle, can you tell yourself "just one more day" every morning. Sometimes it's the long-term that overwhelms me, but if I just think about one day at a time, things seem easier.
post #43 of 166
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nak
how are you guys with more kids coping? i am trying to keep it together but my irritation is manifesting itself by me not wanting to bf anymore. i just dread it all the time. i feel realy crappy about it, theres no issues...zero but i just dont know if i want to keep going.
I struggles with wanting to breastfeed my third child. He just had such a high suck need and if he was awake, he was attached to me. I was finally able to get him to use a binky at about 5-6 weeks of age and that helped me some, but I still struggled with simply wanting to breastfeed. I took the approach that smeisnotapirate mentioned: one day at a time. There were days when I could only think one feeding in advance and not even one day in advance. I literally had to tell myself "I can make it through the next feeding". Hang in there - we all know how tough it can be with a newborn and you are certainly not the only person who has ever felt this way.
post #44 of 166
Ok, because I am SOOOO proud of these pictures, here is some eye candy. We took photos on Saturday with a friend of mine who is a photographer, and they.are.GORGEOUS.
post #45 of 166
Thread Starter 
I was right, I was right, I was RIGHT!!!

We finally saw the pediatric ENT and Sprout WAS tongue tied!

Details to follow....... gotta share the story with DH who just walked it!!
post #46 of 166
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Ok, because I am SOOOO proud of these pictures, here is some eye candy. We took photos on Saturday with a friend of mine who is a photographer, and they.are.GORGEOUS.
Adorable!! You guys look so happy and sweet

I only have ONE kid, the new baby, and I am still struggling with BFing sometimes. I love doing it when the stars align, she wakes up and is really hungry and excited to eat. But I get burned out when she "just" wants comfort sucking, lets the milk run out of her mouth, gets mad at me if I"m not doing it constantly, etc. I'm just counting on it getting easier. It's not even so much that I resent her being "on" me all the time (like I was worried about), it's the huge milk mess and the confusion - I constantly feel like I don't know if she's actually hungry, could be comforted another way, or what. Ugh.

Also - my back is ALREADY killing me. The baby's only 3 weeks old and 8 pounds! Ouchie
post #47 of 166
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Adorable!! You guys look so happy and sweet

I only have ONE kid, the new baby, and I am still struggling with BFing sometimes. I love doing it when the stars align, she wakes up and is really hungry and excited to eat. But I get burned out when she "just" wants comfort sucking, lets the milk run out of her mouth, gets mad at me if I"m not doing it constantly, etc. I'm just counting on it getting easier. It's not even so much that I resent her being "on" me all the time (like I was worried about), it's the huge milk mess and the confusion - I constantly feel like I don't know if she's actually hungry, could be comforted another way, or what. Ugh.

Also - my back is ALREADY killing me. The baby's only 3 weeks old and 8 pounds! Ouchie
yep to all of that. when she sits happily and eats it's cool, but the frustrated comfort sucking drives me mad!!

just weighed her- 9 pounds 12.5 ounces at 4 weeks and 4 days. she was 6 pounds 12 ounces at her lowest recorded weght, on day 4. so 3 pounds in four weeks!
post #48 of 166
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Originally Posted by jenfl View Post
I was right, I was right, I was RIGHT!!!

We finally saw the pediatric ENT and Sprout WAS tongue tied!

Details to follow....... gotta share the story with DH who just walked it!!
go mama!
post #49 of 166
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Originally Posted by jenfl View Post
I was right, I was right, I was RIGHT!!!

We finally saw the pediatric ENT and Sprout WAS tongue tied!

Details to follow....... gotta share the story with DH who just walked it!!
YES! I was just wondering what you had decided to do, and i am SO glad you went to the ENT. (Who knew I could be so thrilled for someone I haven't met that their son was tongue tied? Ha! But really, I am SO happy for you. )
post #50 of 166
GAH. Our roommate's creepy girlfriend has been around TOO MUCH recently. And she's started doing her laundry and taking a shower at our place. She's the kind of person who will stand outside DS's room and watch us as we try to put him to bed - she HAS to say something every time she passes our bedroom door.

She will NOT ruin my babymoon, she will NOT ruin my babymoon... it doubly sucks because our roommate is so amazingly awesome and we have no idea why she's dating such a creepy leech.

Oh, and every time she sees me nursing one of my babes, she has to say "AWWWW... baby LOVES mama's milk!" which was cute the first 3920589084 times and is now just creepy.

</rant>

ETA: loveneverfails is most likely in labor! She's saying that she'd rather have baby stay in than the contractions she's having.
post #51 of 166
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Thanks, everybody!

So. Went into the procedure room. They swaddled Sprout into a papoose board and two techs held his head and mouth. He didn't like that at all, of course. The doc had a boom with a light and microscope on it to look into Sprout's mouth. (The other people we've seen have just poked around with their fingers and tongue depressors.)

The doc looked around for a minute, then said he saw a small, tight tie in an odd place. He wasn't sure he wanted to cut it, and he asked me if Sprout was doing ok bottle feeding. I replied that he was exclusively breastfed. The doc kind of hemmed and hawed a bit, but I said, "Breastfeeding is very important to us." So the doc said, "Let's cut it, then," and he pulled out his instruments.

A snip or two, some pressure on the bleeding, and then a minute or two after he started, it was done. They unwrapped Sprout and passed him to me and I nursed him immediately. He nursed for a while (doing slightly better than he usually does), which calmed him right down. I let him finish, then changed his diaper (stress makes him poop, apparently), and he was already grinning at me.

He's been sleepier than usual the rest of the day, and when he's not sleeping he's a bit fussy (I imagine he's kind of sore). I expect our evening fussies will be even fussier than usual. He's sticking his tongue out a lot more frequently than he was before -- testing it, maybe?

I've seen a slight improvement in his latch -- more strings of 4-5 sucks, and once even falling asleep on my breast and me having to break his suction!

Even if this was the cause of our problems, though, it's going to take a while for him to re-learn how to latch and suck -- if he does at all. Six weeks is right on the border of being too old to have a lot of success clipping a tie.

I'm just happy to have my feelings that something was wrong validated. After having a lactation consultant, two oral-motor therapists, and another doctor tell me Sprout was fine, this is my victory lap. Now I really feel like I've done all I can do to get our nursing relationship on the right track.

Here's hoping for many days of gradual improvement in our future!
post #52 of 166
Jen I'm so glad you got it figured out! And you were right!! I hope things improve from here so you can have a happy breastfeeding relationship.

Sme--Love the pictures! They're so playful.


My DD1 is a total clone of DH. We always joke about how he just used my womb to clone himself. Well I think DD2 might be my clone!

What do you think?
post #53 of 166
Apparently my DD didn't get the sleeping memo until today. She has been asleep forever! We went to music together class for the 1st time this morning and she was awesome during it - wide awake, quiet, just taking it all in. I just held her in my lap, no bouncing, no nursing that has never happened before, she has never been that content. And it must have exhausted her because she has been asleep pretty much nonstop since 2 pm! And deep, sleeping by herself sleep. Right now she's on her 2nd nap in the bouncy chair with no one bouncing her. I'm worried for tonight, hopefully she'll still sleep tonight.

Jen - yay on the tongue tie! I'll be looking forward to your updates to hear how Sprout is doing.

Danielle - we're doing ok mostly. DD1 has been wanting to play at the neighbors every day. Only the neighbor is 9 years old and doesn't always want to play with a 4 yo. And goes to school all day. DD1 drives me absolutely nuts all day long asking to play with this little girl, asking if she is home from school yet, etc. Today we had a 20 min long crying, screaming fit when the neighbor couldn't play. Mind you we had literally just gotten home from a 3 hour long playdate at a friend's house. I just don't know what to do with her.
RE: the nursing - just think if you weren't nursing, you'd be holding, rocking, etc. So really, no different.
post #54 of 166
I just tried out the pump for the first time. The cord wasn't long enough to reach the couch, so I just sat in the papason chair, which was a bad idea. I couldn't lean back and pump, so I ended up in a very uncomfortable position. I only tried for a few minutes, but I got two ounces. Doesn't seem like much, but I was scared I wouldn't be able to get anything, so I'm happy with it.

I was planning to wait another week or two to try her on a bottle, but DH wanted to get to feed her, I already had the milk pumped, and am not overly concerned with nipple confusion at this point. Besides, I really didn't think there was any way she'd take the bottle. Especially with me sitting right there beside her. Babies always want mom's boob first and foremost, or so I thought.

She drank all two ounces without any hesitation at all!

I'm a little sad that my boobs were so easily replaced. But glad that I shouldn't have that worry hanging over my head when she starts daycare, at least.
post #55 of 166
So i'm hoping that my nipples will feel normal in a few days because Anna and I are painted purple now.
post #56 of 166
oh lord, here comes the marathon post. i just can't help myself, i have to catch up w/ ya'll . i know i missed some of you too....

rhi, SO glad to read about the chiro helping your latch with lorelia!!! about the bottle and YAY too....i sympathize about your feelings, i know i would feel the same. when do you go back to work?

ivymae, how do i get the mdc mobile site? i'm the least saavy smartphone user ever, and i've only been checking mdc every few days b/c i just can't seem to find time to sit down w/ the computer. but if i could check mdc mobile, i'd be oh-so-annoyingly present here again, heh.

5 love languages, cool concepts, and totally useful.

dena, ew, sorry you have sickies at your house, is feeling better? so sorry you had to go to the dr . was your LO dehydrated badly?

jsh, wow, great to hear things are better, and yay for block feeding! i'm still doing it, and it seems so simple. i just have to be consistent about pulling charlie off anytime he hesitates or sounds like he might have swallowed air or wants to burp. since i'm not switching breasts, if i leave him be, sometimes he just eats and eats w/out a break, and he's more likely to spit-up that way.

along those lines, i was at a LLL meeting today, and asked if there's any reason i should not block feed. the leader said, nope, unless i mind being lopsided. i thought to myself, nah, haven't noticed that. of course sense then i'm noticing it! i'm going to have to ask my husband to help me evaluate tomorrow - shouldn't be hard, asking him to stare at my chest several times through the day

anne, i definitely had the night sweats a couple of times a week for the first few weeks after charlie was born.

justamama, sorry the hand stuff is dragging on. i know the recovery period won't be easy, so i hope surgery comes at the best possible time. re ppd.

cecelia'smama,

sme, charlie is really good about being layed down too, and i have felt guilty about it....some... i had planned to wear him every second! but i feel that the LARGE balance of time he is in contact with one of us, and as he gets older i can translate this into more time. i feel lucky to have a baby that seems to have some self-soothing already.

GORGEOUS PICS!!! - your toddler is the cutest little elf-boy! those are treasures...

meh, can you ask your roommate to keep her from staring at you guys at least? so weird!

pepper, LOL about the mardi gras beads! totally hilarious. um, and total clone!

dipes: totally agree about not changing a wet diaper on a sleeping baby. charlie has had a couple of very short episodes of rash, but they were both in a week and i think may have been related to my diet, or maybe a missed nighttime poo change.

dhinderliter, i also don't like to wake my husband to help at night (during the week - weekends are fare game). he will insist before bed he wants me to, but i only do if i'm desperate, which has only happened a couple of times. when he's been up at night w/ us on a work day, he's so tired the next day, it really impacts his work.

WHAT IS NAK??????

baby book - mine is one of my treasures, i just need to get going on charlie's before i get discouraged that i've waited too long, heh.

jenfl, yayayayayayay! i hope the adjustment period is short and you see BIG improvements soon!

afm, things are going really well. charlie ate 3 hrs apart last night twice! for someone who is fine on 5 hrs of sleep, i feel great. i napped today too though. we are walking a lot, loving the ergo more than the moby right now. i still think the grip water is helping. i give it to him late afternoon/early evening before evening fussies, and again at bedtime or early morning. he's a little behind physically for a 6 week old i think, but just starting to push back and want to keep his head up. hates tummy time though, but likes modified tummy time on my chest. smiling at least twice a day, and starting to coo more.

my bladder seems to be the only thing not back to normal. i just peed and it went.... backwards! so odd! only when my bladder is really full, but still, weird!

what am i doing up? must go to bed and stop tempting the anger of the sleeping gods
post #57 of 166


Your posts are NUTS, P+H.

NAK = nursing at the keyboard. Typing while nursing.

ETA: I have a hemorrhoid the size of my toddler. OW. I thought that was a pregnancy thing, not a postpartum thing.
post #58 of 166
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Originally Posted by smeisnotapirate View Post


Your posts are NUTS, P+H.

NAK = nursing at the keyboard. Typing while nursing.

ETA: I have a hemorrhoid the size of my toddler. OW. I thought that was a pregnancy thing, not a postpartum thing.
OMG, that was driving me cra.zy. i'm just too stubborn to ask, i kept thinking i'd figure it out! thanks
post #59 of 166
OMG! What is with this kid and night time! She's great until bed time! And now she's screaming her silly head off. But once she falls asleep she'll be fine and will sleep great. I would think if it was gas or reflux or something that it wouldn't magically appear every night and go away after a few hours. She'll even sleep on her back once she's asleep.

grrrrrrrr.
post #60 of 166
Also, when she's in the pikkolo carrier and starts on her screaming fits she tries to push off of my stomach with her feet and it HURTS. My stomach is starting to feel bruised. And sometimes she tries to push back with her arms and it hurts my poor poor boobs. I think I could handle the crying much better if it wasn't for the flailing.
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