i am not a single mom anymore, although i think this is the best place for my situation.
i will start with a bit of background info. i've been divorced/separated for 13 years and my 2 oldest, my 17 and 13 year old are from that marriage. their dad, although he lives in the same community as me, has consistently seen the kids anywhere from 8-10 times a year (by his own choice~ his sob story in our last mediation was that in order to be in the top 5% income earners in canada, he has to make "sacrifices"
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my oldest is at the point where she wants nothing to do with him. my son is not at that point, but he really does not care if he never saw his dad again.
my current situation is that i am moving in the fall to attend university in a different province (my program is only offered in 2 provinces, and i chose the school where i have family). i will be gone with the kids during the school year, but home with the kids for june, july and august. i have not officially spoke to my ex about it since december (when i mentioned i had applied). i found out about a month ago i was accepted, and my oldest daughter asked if she could tell her dad about it instead of me because she was so excited.
well, he is pretty livid about it and was ranting to my oldest that i cannot arbitrarily decide what i am going to do with the kids and he has a "surprise" in store for me. our divorce agreement has no limitations on it about mobility, and i did find this on the my family provincial court website:
i am not really sure how to approach him. our communication history is not the greatest and he finds every avenue to point out everything i am doing "wrong" and he's the hero 
, to which i generally end up hanging up the phone because we just can't see eye to eye.
so i am thinking of emailing him with my plans and indicating the kids desires, that way if he tries to take me to court, i have documentation that i contacted him. do you guys think this is the best way to "officially" contact him? what should i say exactly?
i am also feeling a bit anxious about the "surprise". i mean i can't see a judge ordering the kids to stay behind and our past mediation about child support could not have gone better, but this still has me nervous. i'm not sure if he's bluffing or serious about doing "something".
i will start with a bit of background info. i've been divorced/separated for 13 years and my 2 oldest, my 17 and 13 year old are from that marriage. their dad, although he lives in the same community as me, has consistently seen the kids anywhere from 8-10 times a year (by his own choice~ his sob story in our last mediation was that in order to be in the top 5% income earners in canada, he has to make "sacrifices"
)my oldest is at the point where she wants nothing to do with him. my son is not at that point, but he really does not care if he never saw his dad again.
my current situation is that i am moving in the fall to attend university in a different province (my program is only offered in 2 provinces, and i chose the school where i have family). i will be gone with the kids during the school year, but home with the kids for june, july and august. i have not officially spoke to my ex about it since december (when i mentioned i had applied). i found out about a month ago i was accepted, and my oldest daughter asked if she could tell her dad about it instead of me because she was so excited.
well, he is pretty livid about it and was ranting to my oldest that i cannot arbitrarily decide what i am going to do with the kids and he has a "surprise" in store for me. our divorce agreement has no limitations on it about mobility, and i did find this on the my family provincial court website:
Quote:
| As long as there is no court order or agreement in place saying that you must stay in the province with the children or give the other party notice if you are going to move, then there is nothing really preventing you from moving to a new province with your children. At any time, either parent can bring an application for custody, access, parenting or contact of the children. |
, to which i generally end up hanging up the phone because we just can't see eye to eye.so i am thinking of emailing him with my plans and indicating the kids desires, that way if he tries to take me to court, i have documentation that i contacted him. do you guys think this is the best way to "officially" contact him? what should i say exactly?
i am also feeling a bit anxious about the "surprise". i mean i can't see a judge ordering the kids to stay behind and our past mediation about child support could not have gone better, but this still has me nervous. i'm not sure if he's bluffing or serious about doing "something".
