The Fabulous ONE Thread - May 9th to May 15th - Page 3

[Stevi]

Well, I didn't fall into a depression, but it sure took a long time to fall asleep last night! The school semester ends this week, so I'm going to have way too much time on my brain! I got my first bit of EWCM this morning, so hopefully I can turn my mind towards TTC and keep it off of what might have been.

[mommytoallh]

Originally Posted by iheartmyfamily;15389899[url

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AFM - ff changed my crosshairs today. this is my first cycle on soy isoflavones and it really really pushed up my o date so o caught me off guard. we also had a death in the family so between wakes and funerals we didnt have time to bd on what turned out to be o day. still not sure my cross hairs r correct. i may have o'd cd 13 or cd14. anyway, boobs are already sore 3 dpo so looks like i'm going to have 2 weeks worth of phantom symptoms to obsess over. my hollow circles are b/c i temped 1 hr later than usual. is it normal to have a blaringly positive opk on the day of ovulation?

I am going to start taking soy isoflavones tomorrow cd3. Can I ask how much you took? Also, when is your "regular" O? I am not Oing until cd 20's. I am hopeful this will help. Did you have any side effects? I hope it brings your bfp!

[3boobykins]

MP and Holly, so sorry for your traumatic m/c, and for the inexcusable way your doctor responded (or rather DIDN'T) to your pain, Holly. My 8 wk m/c last year was very, very painful, like labor painful. Right before I passed the sac (pretty sure there was no baby, blighted ovum) felt like transition. I was writhing in pain, nauseous, dizzy. My one year anniversary just passed, and it was painful to think about that day.

Michelle, I've sometimes had several days of ovary pain leading up to O. Could be your body just gearing up.

Tested today, although I was going to wait another day and then wait for AF. I was at Walmart, FRER two packs had a dollar off coupon attached, so I went for it, right in the Walmart bathroom. STARK white negative, of course.

Sorry for all those who are back to waiting to O, but it's a new beginning, so be full of hope.

[Tara2]

Holly- What happened with your m/c sounds awful. I am so sorry you went through that.
Mae- likewise I am sorry for your loss and sounds like trauma that went with it

I can relate a bit cause my first pg was a loss but ended at 6-7 weeks so wasn't nearly the labor you and other ladies have gone through with later losses. But I was puking everywhere and knew something was wrong and in the ER they told me the baby had died and I had a D&C which sucked, even though I wasn't awake. That part was weird too. Weird after effects and post m/c depression led me on a spiral for a few years. I was young and it affected me very strongly. Then with pg for each of my kids I was paranoid in the first few months - heck, the whole time, really - that something could be/go wrong. I think gestation kinda lends itself to worry in general. Even more so if you have direct experience of what could happen. Sorry again, mamas.

Finn- I tend to have at least a week of EW too. Though it ought to be a good thing, but it is frustrating cause I don't know how long until O and have mistimed cycles. Wish I could tell you what's up with your twinges. Maybe a really early o is coming on soon... how's your CF?

miriam -bat- avraham- I really enjoyed your post and appreciate your positive outlook in general. I also very much like your quote, have I told you that? today it got me teary

stevi- glad it turned out to be a good day

AM my kids made a homemade card for me and dh gave me chocolates for M day. My daughter wrote a 'book' about mothers how a mother's hug is like warm sunshine it was really sweet. Went to dinner with my parents too. Discovered wine is gooood and makes family gatherings less stressful! Just developed a wack theory that I need a drink in the 2ww to get a baby. Looking back it just happens that during each 2ww with the kids I have, I had a glass or two at some point. Just happened that way, but maybe there is something to the idea that it may help implantation, lol. Gonna maybe try it this time... Oh and an extra nice M day present was that AF was the shortest I have ever had in my whole life! Light on day 4, just a little spotting day 5. Never happens! I usually get the fun of AF a good week, sometimes a day or two extra thrown in for fun. I have no explanation. Any thoughts? It's my 3rd PPAF since Jan. DS is 18 months.

[finnegansmom]

Actually, I just went to the bathroom and there was a ton of EWCM? What the heck?
Maybe the cramping is ovulation related? Weird, I'm only on Cd7....

3boobykins

Tara, your mother's day sounds wonderful.

[Lousli]

Still no af, but crampy and total bfn on internet cheapie and the OPK. Weirdly, I temped at 4 and got 97.9 but then went back to sleep and temped at 6:30 and got 98.6, which I didn't count since I had been up at 4. Of course, now I'm wondering again.

[M.Q.]

Thought I would pop in to share that you guys are a bad influence!

AF is not due until Wednesday, but I have a long LP, so I was sure that a test would be accurate today at 16dpo. We were not as careful right before O time as we should have been 'to avoid' because the Lady Comp was sure O day wouldn't be 'til CD20, but this month it was on CD17. There was at least one day that wasn't a 'withdrawal' in the few days before O because I was just 'so sure' that it was safe (read: didn't care if it was and kind of hoped it wasn't).

If you look at my CHART you can see that BD looks very good for PG this cycle. My temps started going down, but are still above coverline and after being on this board so much I couldn't help myself.... I had to go to the drug store and there is a $tree right next door and the next thing I knew I found myself buying tests.

AAAAAAAND I couldn't help but take one. So: long story short I got my very first BFN ever today. I am totally laughing at myself, but I kind of love that I am getting away with something (DH will NEVER know I did this ). Hopefully it won't be too long until I don't have to sneak to test and we will both be hoping for a BFP and not just me. DH says maybe even this fall....

[TheDivineMrsM]

Originally Posted by mommytoallh

I am going to start taking soy isoflavones tomorrow cd3. Can I ask how much you took? Also, when is your "regular" O? I am not Oing until cd 20's. I am hopeful this will help. Did you have any side effects? I hope it brings your bfp!

I took 140 mgs of soy isoflavones the month I tried them. I had lots of ewcm and a huge, gigantic temp spike after O. Soy isn't recommended for everyone; do some research before trying them!

[MrsMike]

Updated to here.

Originally Posted by Lousli

Well, the story on my LP is that there is no story. When I charted last time it was only 3 cycles (pg on the third cycle) and I had just stopped taking bcp. I had one 9 day and one 12 day LP.

Since I first got my IUD (copper) about 4.5 years ago I've had consistently 26-27 day cycles, a couple of 28 day ones. I wasn't charting, but I think, from other signs, I o around day 15, which gives me about an 11-12 day LP.

I didn't get my first extremely faint + with my younger one until the night of 12 DPO. With my older one, I got my first faint + on cycle day 28 (wasn't charting at the time) after a negative at CD 25.

My chances are super slim of being pregnant, and yet it is so weird with all the symptoms I have had in the past week, I am going a little nuts.

Maybe your cycle is just trying to find itself after having the IUD. Don't you wish things could just be easier? How frustrating! I hope it regulates and gives you an answer soon!

Originally Posted by hollytheteacher

Well...I'm still having af today and my af isn't usually like this. Today it has been 100% clots. I had a big brown sticky clot on my underwear and then later I had a bowel movement (sorry for all the tmi i just really feel like i need advice here) and lots more clots came zooming out.

I have had a m/c before but it was at 12.5 weeks so I guess what i'm asking is is it possible i was preggo this cycle and then lost it super early??

Furthermore, IF I was pregnant and this WAS a m/c do I need to go get a Rhogam shot???? I am RH- and had to get it last time during my m/c plus during my pregnancy with ds and right afterwards....like what i'm asking is if it was possible that i was preggo is it impertitive that I run in and got a shot?? Should i call my ob/midwife practice?? I actually do have an apt with them but not until the last Wed of May...for a pap and of course to discuss my wanting to get pregnant and it not working so far (3 cycles of trying really hard and not getting pregnant yet). I REALLLLLY would love some advice here!!

I think you got great answers about the Rhogam. It is very possible that this could have been a m/c. I hope that isn't the case. You've had enough heartbreak.

I m/c in March (well, she died in March, but the actual physical stuff happened in April after 4 weeks of waiting) and had horrible treatment by the a-holes that did my u/s. I knew my baby had died and they wouldn't tell me anything. Nothing. I point blank told the tech that I knew it was bad news and she would barely talk to me. She just kept telling me that I would have to wait 24 to 48 hours to hear something. Another person there told me and my midwife that they wouldn't let me wait if there was something wrong, giving me false hope. I had to wait until the next day for their stupid OB to call my midwife and tell her my baby died.

My m/c was very much like labor. She died at 8 weeks, but the m/c happened at 12 weeks. It was pure labor for me and lasted about 6 hours. It was more painful than my 27 hour unmedicated back labor with DS. I labored and "birthed" in the tub. I had regular contractions, back labor, transition and pushing. I ended up in the hospital towards the end. I had passed the baby and almost everything else at home, but there was a clot stuck at my cervix and I literally felt like I was dying. I was so afraid I would pass out. I went to the hospital for a few hours and got some pain meds. The doc there swept the clot away from my cervix and I was all better. It's been a horrendous recovery, emotionally. My midwife diagnosed me with post partum depression. I work with people who think I need to quit whining and get over it. No one believes I could have possibly gone through labor so early and they don't understand why I would still be depressed. They think I can't have post partum depression because I don't have a baby to show for it.

Originally Posted by mama2toomany

Crashing to say I stalk all you ttc ladies and always have my fingers crossed for you all.

Jen your post about FF being on crack made me pee a little.. Funny stuff!

Originally Posted by AdalynsMama

Hi mamas Wanna see my mother's day present???

http://canyouseealine.com/view_home_...fm?testID=7129

Best mother's day EVER!!!

I waited till this morning to test and it was SOO worth it! Hope to see many of you over in the Jan DDC!

Congratulations!

Originally Posted by miriam_bat_avraham

We're just a little ways into May and three BFPs. I want to see that list grow! Mostly, though, I hope and pray for all of us that we can enjoy our lives and families, and that we can find comfort in this journey. I'm trying to make a conscious effort to get excited for the 2ww (I'm CD 18 and had EWCM and a positive OPK, so I'm nearly in it!). It really can be a magical time... the closest I've ever gotten to being pregnant is that amazing "What if?" feeling during the 2ww, and while it's disappointing to end up not being pregnant, I appreciate that time of possibility. I'm going to try to go with that

I'll borrow a line from Stevi... everyone have a reproductive week!

I hope that Mother's Day BD makes a little one!

Originally Posted by 3boobykins

Adalynsmom, congrats on your lovely Mother's Day gift!

So I've decided to finally join this thread officially after much lurking and the occasional post. I am currently Waiting to Know, but pretty sure I'm not pregnant this month.

Added you! Welcome!

Originally Posted by iheartmyfamily

PLEASE MOVE ME TO WAITING TO O



http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2c5c9a
. is it normal to have a blaringly positive opk on the day of ovulation?

I think it's definitely possible.

Originally Posted by finnegansmom

Actually, I just went to the bathroom and there was a ton of EWCM? What the heck?
Maybe the cramping is ovulation related? Weird, I'm only on Cd7....

Could be. O could still be a few days away, but your body is getting ready with some super awesome EWCM.

Originally Posted by M.Q.

Thought I would pop in to share that you guys are a bad influence!

AAAAAAAND I couldn't help but take one. So: long story short I got my very first BFN ever today. I am totally laughing at myself, but I kind of love that I am getting away with something (DH will NEVER know I did this ). Hopefully it won't be too long until I don't have to sneak to test and we will both be hoping for a BFP and not just me. DH says maybe even this fall....

Welcome to the dark side.

Stevi - Glad you had a nice day yesterday.

AFMMy ovaries and FF are sharing the same crack pipe. :::Sigh::: I know I can't expect this cycle to be perfect or normal. It is my m/c cycle. Still. I'm impatient and full of anxiety...like, what if I never O again? What if I have a 34878345458 day cycle before I O? Not cool. Yesterday - Mother's Day - sucked. I have been depressed about it for a couple of weeks. I just didn't want to think about the stupid day. It sounds horrible, because I DO have DS after all, but I was still so sad. I told DH not to get me anything. I was in an awful, awful funk. I tried very hard to keep the depression away, but it found me. Of course, at work today everyone talked about their Mother's Day and asked one another what they did. Everyone ignored me. It's like being a mother of DS doesn't even count. They think if they just ignore me and my depression it'll go away. Grrr. I'm going to shut up now.

[Tara2]

MrsMike- Of course a m/c is a real loss. There is a huge misconception in our society that because it's "unseen" there wasn't a baby lost. Or one "shouldn't" grieve. You have every right to feel sad over this, feel a range of feelings, and not pressure yourself to feel "normal" again soon (or let anyone else do so!). I am so sorry.

[Stevi]

MrsMike... I'm so sorry you work with such idiots! You have the very worst kind of Post-Partum Depression - the kind where the baby died! I had two miscarriages in a row two years ago. I was pretty depressed then, and this year I started getting depressed (again) at the end of April, just knowing May was coming. Depression is very hard to overcome and it takes time. Hugs to you!!

[Ravin]

Hi, everybody! I should be on the "waiting to know" list right now, I O'd around the 5th or 6th this month, and I'm at CD 19.

A friend just had her baby a couple of weeks ago, and I got to see him last Saturday when I took DD for her older son's bday party. Of course, cuddling such a perfect little darling (nurses like a champ, actually lets you put him down when sleeping, totally cute) did nothing to curb the wanababy vibes!

People at work have started asking me if I've bought any pg tests yet. I wear my heart on my sleeve about this stuff, and told them all to bug me in a couple of weeks! I figure I'll either be in a really bad mood when AF comes, or jittery and going out for those tests when it doesn't, or walking on the moon if things come up positive...no way could I keep it a secret for five minutes!

[CLH_X3]

MrsMike – Sounds like you work with jerks! !!

TheDivineMrsM – How are you doing ?

M.Q – As someone else said..welcome to the dark side

FM – Better get your OPKs out just in case and start testing

Lousli – I got my fingeres crossed for you !

Ravin – New born babies are lush, My friend had her little boy a couple months ago and my cousins just had a little boy the other day. My other friend has just been told she’s having a little boy as well so I think if/when I get preg (soon hopefully) I wouldn’t mind either, If I had a girl I would be the first in my circle of family/friends but If i had a boy then they would all grow up knowing each other!


AFM – Well I just took a OPK using SMU and the second line is pretty dark!! Not yet + but not far off either.....
Im only on CD11 .... ????

Going to hold my pee for ages now and do another one later see if its darker!
I might get the digitals out when I get home as well! Even though I only have enough for this cycle left and I don’t really want to buy anymore! .....

Hmmmm advice??? anyone..

[Sweet.Bee]

CLH_X3: I don't have any advice because I've never used an OPK, but I'm wishing you a speedy ovulation! CD11 sounds nice and early.

***

I'm 13DPO. Temp dropped to the cover line but still no spotting, and I used to always get spotting by now. Maybe my cycles have changed. Just waiting now, la-de-dum-dum...

[CLH_X3]

were is everyone today ? No one awake in USA yet ?

WAKE UPPPPPPPP


well I just took another OPK and its +!!! WTH ?

Im only on CD11?

[finnegansmom]

Originally Posted by CLH_X3

were is everyone today ? No one awake in USA yet ?

WAKE UPPPPPPPP


well I just took another OPK and its +!!! WTH ?

Im only on CD11?

Is it positive or *almost* positive? It's normal for the surge to start building a few days before, for me anyways, and I've gotten mini surges that don't go positive but get darker. Also CD11 is good, I used to O on CD14 so getting close on cd11 for me wouldn't be too crazy. How is your CM?

[miriam_bat_avraham]

Tulpen & Tara-- glad you liked the post I love the quote in my sig, too... it helps me remember that everything in this journey has a holiness to it and I need to stop and appreciate the process rather than just focusing on the end result.

There's a lot of talk of m/cs right now... just want to send some out there to everyone who's had to go through such an awful experience. It's terrifying just to read. to you all.

I'm CD20 now, probably Oing today or tomorrow. I'm expecting that temp shift to be tomorrow morning, anyways. I have really low temps right now-- 97.3ish! I don't normally go that low anymore, although a while back I used to go down to the high 96s. I had the most positive OPK of my life this morning-- super dark test line and relatively light control line. I've never seen anything like it!

I'm going to be so exhausted tonight after work, but I need to come home, make dinner, and then convince my equally exhausted DH to give it one more try We've had some very well-timed BDing this cycle, so I'm feeling hopeful.

Something interesting: my husband had a dream months ago that we had a little boy born in March. He said this back in February or March, so I responded "WHAT!? I am not waiting that long to get pregnant!" but now, this cycle we'd end up with a Feb baby... so maybe this isn't our cycle and it's the next one, or maybe DH was just off a bit with the timeline We'll see! I figured out how to make soft-soled baby shoes and made about 7 pairs (plus 3 pairs for a friend as a baby gift for her son, due in July), but I laid down the law for myself on making girly things. It's gender-neutral and boy-only from here on out! I have something like 15 baby skirts right now.

[karmab]

cl, that's great! ew and a + opk, get yeself home and get busy on thy dh!

[iheartmyfamily]

Originally Posted by mommytoallh

I am going to start taking soy isoflavones tomorrow cd3. Can I ask how much you took? Also, when is your "regular" O? I am not Oing until cd 20's. I am hopeful this will help. Did you have any side effects? I hope it brings your bfp!

i started cd 3 at 160 mg for 2 days, i jumped up to 200 mg for 2 more days and last day i took 250 mg.

my o day jumped from cd 17-21 to cd 13-14!! you can take a look at my homepage for my chart.

good luck to you!

[Tulpen88]

Originally Posted by Sweet.Bee

I'm 13DPO. Temp dropped to the cover line but still no spotting, and I used to always get spotting by now. Maybe my cycles have changed. Just waiting now, la-de-dum-dum...

Sweet.Bee Boo! I'm sorry.

Originally Posted by CLH_X3

were is everyone today ? No one awake in USA yet ?

WAKE UPPPPPPPP


well I just took another OPK and its +!!! WTH ?

Im only on CD11?

CLH I think I know what you'll be doing tonight! Maybe you'll be O'ing in a couple of days. There's nothing wrong with an early O!

Originally Posted by miriam_bat_avraham

I'm CD20 now, probably Oing today or tomorrow. I'm expecting that temp shift to be tomorrow morning, anyways. I have really low temps right now-- 97.3ish! I don't normally go that low anymore, although a while back I used to go down to the high 96s. I had the most positive OPK of my life this morning-- super dark test line and relatively light control line. I've never seen anything like it!

I'm going to be so exhausted tonight after work, but I need to come home, make dinner, and then convince my equally exhausted DH to give it one more try We've had some very well-timed BDing this cycle, so I'm feeling hopeful.

Something interesting: my husband had a dream months ago that we had a little boy born in March. He said this back in February or March, so I responded "WHAT!? I am not waiting that long to get pregnant!" but now, this cycle we'd end up with a Feb baby... so maybe this isn't our cycle and it's the next one, or maybe DH was just off a bit with the timeline We'll see! I figured out how to make soft-soled baby shoes and made about 7 pairs (plus 3 pairs for a friend as a baby gift for her son, due in July), but I laid down the law for myself on making girly things. It's gender-neutral and boy-only from here on out! I have something like 15 baby skirts right now.

Miriam Have fun this evening! I hope your good timing works out for you! I love that your DH had that dream. It sounds like a good sign to me!

AFM The throwing up was definitely a bug or something b/c I feel 100% better today. Thank goodness! My chart is still identical to the 2/27 chart. Oh, how I would love for my temps to go up a little more, just to see something different. Maybe I can coax my temps up a little if I wear a winter coat to bed tonight.