On "artificial twinning"...i have "twins"...and its not something i'd really recommend. Its working out well for us, all things considered, but i think it might have been better for my son, to add a newborn when he was around 3, like many people do when they are birthing babies. That wasnt really an option for us. Before my current foster son, we had a little girl about 2.5 months younger than my adopted son, and it was AWFUL. part of it was their age, part of it was her personality (she was so mean to him), and i think a big part of it was they were close in age but not the same age, and she was a developmental step behind him. So they didnt really play together, and fought ALL the time. (She was 12 months, he was around 15 months)....after she left to relatives, i specifically said NOT a one yr old, but a newborn, and the next day they called me with a one yr old 
who actually turned out to be 16.5 months and just two weeks younger than my son. That worked out MUCH better, and though part of it was personality, i think alot had to do with them being on the same dev. level and able to better play together.
Its hard to say if i regret the "twinning"...they are very cute together, best buddies (when they arent trying to kill each other
), i think the older they get the better it will get. Its not nearly as hard as i thought it would be (on me), but there is the issue of always having two and therefore there is all the issues that moms of twins have in terms of being able to provide individual attention, 1:1 time, etc . Of course those issues are present with kids of any age range but lots more intense with "twins"....
Also with the twinning....it brings ALOT more attention in public to the fact that there is an adoption. Both of my boys are AA but my adopted son looks more biracial and they just clearly dont look bio related at all. They dont look like twins. So that brings alot of questions from strangers, which i dont mind answering now but as they get older they probably wont appreciate the intrusiveness. I havent decided yet when people ask "are they twins" if i will start saying "yes" which would be simpler than saying "they are two weeks apart" which just confuses people.
So overall i'd say close in age sibs can be a great thing, but i'd avoid artificial twinning if you can help it.
who actually turned out to be 16.5 months and just two weeks younger than my son. That worked out MUCH better, and though part of it was personality, i think alot had to do with them being on the same dev. level and able to better play together.Its hard to say if i regret the "twinning"...they are very cute together, best buddies (when they arent trying to kill each other
), i think the older they get the better it will get. Its not nearly as hard as i thought it would be (on me), but there is the issue of always having two and therefore there is all the issues that moms of twins have in terms of being able to provide individual attention, 1:1 time, etc . Of course those issues are present with kids of any age range but lots more intense with "twins"....Also with the twinning....it brings ALOT more attention in public to the fact that there is an adoption. Both of my boys are AA but my adopted son looks more biracial and they just clearly dont look bio related at all. They dont look like twins. So that brings alot of questions from strangers, which i dont mind answering now but as they get older they probably wont appreciate the intrusiveness. I havent decided yet when people ask "are they twins" if i will start saying "yes" which would be simpler than saying "they are two weeks apart" which just confuses people.
So overall i'd say close in age sibs can be a great thing, but i'd avoid artificial twinning if you can help it.
, I'd love to know how things are going for you guys, and to catch up! pm me... I'd pm you, but I've forgotten your username! 
