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That's a terrible thing to lose! they're so nice.
how is everyone doing? With the holidays coming (oh nooooooooo!) I figured I'd bump this up, lol. So...what's goin on?
eh, um....what was the question???
i think that about sums it up.....lol
Hey just wanted to pop in again. DD (3.9) was just diagnosed with ADHD as well as SPD and Apraxia. She also seems to have some elements of anxiety and can be extremely oppositional. We're really struggling because A) disciplining her seems to require a level of consistency that is difficult for me to maintain, and B) It seems to require a different style of discipline than I imagined I would use with my children.
Right now I'm feeling exhausted a lot. My husband has been very grouchy with me today. He has snapped at me for a bunch of things that I'm not doing on purpose and I don't feel like he grasps how hard I'm working.
I'm actually not feeling particularly stressed about the holidays though. It will be pretty low key here this year so I think that helps. I've actually already bought all the kids presents as well, so I have very little left to do.
Juniper - So sorry about your DH. I totally know how that is, like they just don't get how much inner turmoil we have and how difficult it is just to get through the day (at least that's the way it feels with my dp).
I was doing ok, but I'm back to feeling crappy again. I pretty much know why, last week my older ds was sick so we stayed home from school and everything for 3 whole days. Whew! That was enough to drive me totally crazy. DP works out of town all week and has been since August, I'm so DONE with no adult help!!!! Plus the gym was closed that week for maintenance...well, frankly I'm surprised I didn't drive off a cliff somewhere!!!
This week should be better, DS is on break so I'm going to stay with my mom for a few days, the gym is open so I plan on going everyday (but am not out of my pjs yet today!). The washer is broken but I'm taking ALL the laundry to my mom's. She'll help me fold it! ;)
I don't know, I just have a love/hate relationship with the holidays. I love shopping for my own kids and I love the cookie baking and decorating, but I HATE having to shop for the rest of the family. It is SO overwhelming, I'm thinking of next year saying hey, don't get me anything cause I'm not doing gifts this year! Do you think that would be bad? I mean, I hate going around buying crap that adults could just buy for themselves. Here you go MIL, that nightgown you asked for. I mean, come on. Here you go mom, that spatula you needed. It's just silly and I hate shopping.
DP and I started counseling so I hope that is going to be helpful. And I am reading a couple of good books right now, I just need to put them into practice...mostly about positive affirmations and focusing on what I want in my life and for my kids. It's so hard to replace those negative thoughts that I've had for SO long. What I really want is more of a support group, where could I find something like that?
Hope you all are doing better than me this time of year!!!
OH yeah, this is cody'smomma, I changed my username!
Junipermuse- I may have some ideas for you if you mind sharing. DS1 has some speech issues and I finally am having him evaluated for
ADD in January. Anyway, I have some practical tips for dealing with a kid who hyperfocuses, ca't hear you unless you touch him, and is impulsive and hyperactive. :hugs
applecider- you might ask your counsellor for ideas on that. I know there are support groups for some types of psychological and emotion recovery.
I am actually weathering the holidays pretty well this year. 'course i've been on anti-depressants for almost a year now.. Hrmmm...
Hopefully after New year's we can finally file bankruptcy, and move forward with my schooling. I have not gotten anywhere with that. Or with finding work. Oh well.....
Hello everyone. Bumping this to see if anyone is still interested.
I miss you all. I've gotten all wrapped up in another messge board and my blog- which is tons of fun- and a little esoteric (who me?) :lol
anyhow. I am going to be checking in here again.
DS1 is on the waiting list for the local chapter of the Center for Autism. DS2 is talking and using the potty! :O
Craziness. DH had a bad episode right after the new year, but it resulted in some amazing changes, adn I have to say I am enjoying Him once again.
ok, so here I am.... :)
Oh my goodness am I happy to stumble upon this thread. I feel like I've found my people!
My name is Tricia. Long time reader, first time poster. I recently read an article about adult ADD and took a little quiz attached and found that I connected with each and every symptom. Right down to my messy car! I can't even believe that is a symptom of anything at all. I don't know if I feel validated, relieved, concerned, a mix of everything?
Obviously, I am undiagnosed. I would love to hear more about how people got diagnosed and what sort of treatments worked. I have always felt like something was "off" with me. I specifically remember my third grade teacher used to call me "Fish Eyes" because I was always zoning out and staring off into space. She actually advised my parents to have me evaluated for a seizure disorder. I had an EEG, but it was inconclusive because no one explained to me what was going on, I was scared out of my wits, and couldn't fall asleep for the sleeping part. The part that worked looked normal, so my parents just went with that, and dismissed it. Now I have a two year old with a real seizure disorder, and I can't help wondering if I had it too? Or was it ADD?
Yeah, so this isn't a thread about seizures, but the zoning out is a constant thing for me. I could be sitting, reading a book, and suddenly realize I haven't actually absorbed the last three paragraphs, even though I'm going through the motions. I can tune people out like no one's business.
It's typical for me to be washing dishes, remember an email I have to send, and walk off to the computer to work on the email, leaving the water running and everything. It would be funny if it were happening to someone else! :lol
My biggest issue, at the moment, is taking on too much. My volunteer work (Girl Scout leader, treasurer, PTA, massive commitment to school programs) has me hyperventilating lately. Especially this month, as everything is wrapping up, so all my months of procrastinating are coming back to haunt me. I can't sleep at night because my mind is spinning with all I have to do, and yet all day, I can't seem to get ahead. I have company coming this weekend for Easter, and my house... oy!
I actually DO have moments where I am clear headed and I can do amazing things, but it's usually when there's no time left, so I have no choice. But if I can focus and manage during those times, why can't I do it on a regular day? These are the thoughts that fill me with self doubt. I feel so good about myself when I actually accomplish something, but most of the time I feel like a slug. I recently had to take on a part time job too, so that has been...challenging, to say the least.
Anyway, I just couldn't let this post slip away
yeah- messy car here too!!!
My biggest issue, at the moment, is taking on too much.
um... YES!!! lol oh gees, I mean talk about doublescheduling stuff- I've had people show up at my house that I wasn't expecting, and then someone else showed up too!! I DID invite them, I had just forgotten. I can't imagine what it feels like to have me asa irl friend, and be forgotten. :(
afa getting diagnosed, It hink if ou make an appointment with a care provider and ask about aDD you'll be taken seriously. We have a fear I think- of not being believed, but really- we know ourselves better than anyone else, yk?