|The reason for a fence should be obvious and making a special effort to bring it up to the neighbors would run the risk of implying that there was anything to take offense to and/or that the neighbors had any right to prevent the fence going up.
If the reason for the fence was so obvious then why would the OP's husband feel nervous about annoying the neighbors?
I'm just fascinated by the sentiments expressed in this thread that neighbors are a group of people who do not deserve to be communicated with. If this was a discussion about a marriage and a concern expressed by a spouse about some issue, the FIRST thing people would say is that you should sit down and talk with your spouse about the issue. But in this thread, you go out one concentric circle of interactions with people -- from your family to your neighbors -- and suddenly there's no need for communication. If you don't HAVE to communicate and by golly it is your RIGHT not to communicate, then just don't bother to communicate. And if they don't like -- screw 'em.
Why is it that taking a small amount of time to communicate with your own neighbors is considered such an outrageous suggestion?
If that is really how you see your neighbors, well OK. But then in other threads and forums people post about weird neighbors, rude people, people who are oblivious to other's needs, people with no social skills, people who just see things from their own perspective but can't see how their actions affect other people, ect. Well, if you treat your own neighbors in such a cavalier action then why would you expect other people to treat you with any consideration.
|Sure, mention it in passing if you happen to see them, but the only valid "don't build a fence" argument would be "OMG is it because of my dog? I'm so sorry about that, don't waste your money, I'll mend the hole in my fence so he won't jump on your kids anymore."
EXACTLY my point again. Maybe if you communicate with your neighbors you could talk to them and they might fix the hole in the fence and the dogs won't jump on your kids. The neighbors may have no idea that you are bothered by their dogs. It's possible that if you talk to them and discuss your concerns, they will understand and act accordingly.