Originally Posted by tommynomad
If you are anti-circ, are you also anti-pierce? If not, why not?
Would you break off a friendship if the other parent pierced their child's ears (or other body part)? What about spanking? What about not letting their kids eat meat? Or smoking in front of their kids?
How much of a village does it take: where do we draw the line on what parents must be permitted to decide for themselves?
I am anti-circ & also anti-pierce because they both hurt the child and neither helps the child. For the record, I have a boy & a girl. Their bodies will be theirs to modify @ will on their 18th birthdays.
Would I break off a friendship: like some PP, I seriously doubt I would attract a lot of people who do all of the things you mention.
Where do we draw the line on what parents must be permitted to decide for themselves: this is a sticking point for me.
It's legal to mutilate a boy's genitals, but not legal to mutilate a girl's genitals. You could argue that FGM is worse than MGM, and I'd agree. But I also think the only real reason FGM is not allowed and MGM is is that MGM is popular in our own culture (here in the US), and FGM originated largely outside our culture. I think it's easy as a society to say "What they
do is wrong & parents do not have the right to choose that for their children." It's much harder to say "What we
do is wrong & parents do not have the right to choose that for their children."
In my mind, my instinct says either it should be legal to cut both boys & girls, or neither. My personal preference is neither. But at the same time, I'm a big believer in parent's rights, & don't want to argue for a precedent that would allow someone else to come along and pass laws restricting my ability to legally homebirth, homeschool, unschool, cosleep, breastfeed, not vaccinate, eat meat or not, etc. I haven't quite reconciled this one yet.
Oops! Baby's up. Good questions!