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post #1 of 9
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We already filled out the ADHD questionare for our Ped (as well as my son's Kindy Teacher). We have an appointment with the Ped this afternoon to go over it.

My question is does your ADHD child/children act differently at home than at school? The Ped said there were similarities in our answers but some did match the Teacher's. Both my husband and I filled it out by ourselves. However, after my husband put his in the envelope I asked if his answers went one way or the other. He said yes. The bulk of them were to the far right. Which is where mine were.

Hope my question makes sense.
post #2 of 9
somewhat. i didn't see the eval that the teacher did as she was told to send it directly to the psych's office but I got the results iwth our written report and diagnosis. Some things differed but our numbers were right around the same area. I think there are things in the eval for the parents that wouldn't be noticed by a teacher, ya know? My daughter is extremely forgetful at home and at school in that environment with less capability to move around and get out energy and lots of temptations, she's extremely hyperactive and impulsive. At home she is hyperactive and impulsive but the environment is less restrictive and she's able to get out energy playing and running and is less confined. So I am not surprised that the teacher's evaluation of my daughter was different than mine. It's a completely different environment and completely different demands on the kids at school than at home. Make sense?
post #3 of 9
We went a different route getting our child diagnosed. Doing a psychological "exam" is subjective...we wanted absolute proof so we had a brain scan done. Our answers did vary some between my husband and myself but that is because he is not home during the day.
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We went a different route getting our child diagnosed. Doing a psychological "exam" is subjective...we wanted absolute proof so we had a brain scan done. Our answers did vary some between my husband and myself but that is because he is not home during the day.
How did you get a brain scan? Would insurance cover something like that? What does the brain scan show?
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We went a different route getting our child diagnosed. Doing a psychological "exam" is subjective...we wanted absolute proof so we had a brain scan done. Our answers did vary some between my husband and myself but that is because he is not home during the day.
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How did you get a brain scan? Would insurance cover something like that? What does the brain scan show?
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She acts the same at home as she does at school.

post #7 of 9
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My question is does your ADHD child/children act differently at home than at school?
My son acts the same in school and at home; the difference is how the actions are tolerated. At home, if my son wants to go out to play, we let him (of course, making sure that he will not go into the street,etc.). At school, he cannot just wander off. Last night, he came home, took out the box of art supplies and just started crafting. They don't allow that in school. He builds with blocks and/or Lincoln Logs when he wants to, makes his stuffed chimpanzee climb the walls and beds (and does so himself on the bannister) whenever he want to at home. What we don't tolerate at home is him hurting others or property.

That said, when we was diagnosed with ADHD last year, evidently both we (his parents) and the teachers filled out those questionaires very similarly.
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My son acts the same in school and at home; the difference is how the actions are tolerated. At home, if my son wants to go out to play, we let him (of course, making sure that he will not go into the street,etc.). At school, he cannot just wander off. Last night, he came home, took out the box of art supplies and just started crafting. They don't allow that in school. He builds with blocks and/or Lincoln Logs when he wants to, makes his stuffed chimpanzee climb the walls and beds (and does so himself on the bannister) whenever he want to at home. What we don't tolerate at home is him hurting others or property.

That said, when we was diagnosed with ADHD last year, evidently both we (his parents) and the teachers filled out those questionaires very similarly.
Yes, our experience is very similar to the above. My son has ADHD and Aspergers.

He acts similar at home and school .. but at school it's way magnified because he's expected to sit and concentrate for long periods of time, he's got distractions and sensory stimulation that we just don't have at home. He's an only child (for now!) so our home is pretty quiet, organized and often can change to fit his needs. School is not that way, so his reactions and behaviors reflect that.

But when we filled out the evals last year our answers were similar. His emotions run stronger at school because he's under more stress and has more stimulation, but our answers were not that far off.
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How did you get a brain scan? Would insurance cover something like that? What does the brain scan show?
Our insurance covered it at the time. We had an HMO too. We got it done in Bellingham Washington at the neurologist office. It was pretty simple. They hooked up electrodes to his head and he had to lay still for along time (that part was tough). It is the only way to know 100% if a person has ADHD.

I have spoken to some psychologist who do not believe in the brain scan because it does not show up as some kids as having ADHD. Well duh because they do not have it and the research does supports this. Like I said the problem is the written assessment is subjective and instead of looking for another underlying cause it is easy to slap a label on to it.

My son has/had "severe" ADHD. We choose not to medicate. What they do not tell you is medication is only about 20-25% of the answer. The rest you have to achieve through behavior modification. People do not like that answer they want an instant cure. It was a lot of hard work especially through the ages of 6-9. We had the full support of his teacher (we were lucky his teacher moved up with him every grade through 5th grade). One of my secret weapons was caffine. What happens is similar to what ritalin does. Caffeine makes the neurons rapidly fire causing them to shut down in kids with ADHD. So when I was at my wits end I would buy him a latte or give him a Mt. Dew. It saved both of us. Anyway in 6th grade at his IEP meeting the school psychologist tried to tell me he was cured which was funny. You could see Johnny doing all his coping techniques to sit there for the meeting. He was not "cured" he learned how to deal with it. He is now an adult. I honestly thought at some point like in college he would need medication but he has never ever taken anything and has no desire. He functions as everyone else does.

Incidentally, we have a child that has a host of medical problems. At first they thought one was psychological but based on 3 weeks of hospitalization they realized it was indeed medical. They determined through brain scans and observation he did not have ADHD, but based on the paperwork we filled out on him he would have been diagnosed with ADHD. Ironically we have had one psychologist argue tooth and nail over this diagnosis that he has it. All the other professionals say "NO" along with us his parents. I know ADHD from my oldest and my husband and my youngest son does not have ADHD. Oh my husband has been medicated off and on through his whole life for ADHD. He never learned any coping techniques like Johnny did.
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