I think part of the problem is identifying his family as yours. At the end of the day, they're not. They are part of your children's family, and that's where the boundary really should be kept. Not to say that you shouldn't be friendly, but it's time for you to pull back *your* relationship, and simply promote theirs with their son and grandchildren. And work on reconnecting with your own family - that lack of contact is not all his fault.
Family is built on effort, love and mutual trust. My 'ex'-ILs will always be family to me, not just by virtue of my children.
This is really sad advice to me - 'pull back your relationship'?
I'm so sad and sorry Sharlla, I hope they come to their senses and realize how immature and controlling he's being.
There are some really sad sentiments in this thread regarding exes and ex-families. I'm really thankful that despite the difficulties we all experienced (in my TWO families) during our divorce - that, for the most part, the relationships remained intact.