DD (9.5) and I have a notebook that we use for when she has questions she is not comfortable asking out loud. She will put it under my pillow at night and I will write an answer and put it back under hers the next morning. Well, she has only written one thing in it before, and it was to thank me for getting the notebook. lol
Tonight though, she wrote a real question. She told me that she thinks she has hair on her "you know what" (her words lol) but doesn't know what they are supposed to look like. We have several books on the topic but none of them explain in detail what the beginning stages look like, and I don't remember myself. So I looked online. From what I've read it seems that they usually start out a lot like the other hair already present on the body, but start lower down and don't become dark/curly or up on the pubic bone until later on.
So my question is, what if she wants me to look? Would that be weird? I don't feel particularly bothered by it, but I do know that my mom would have been mortified if I asked that so I'm not sure if it's "normal" for a parent to do that. Also if she doesn't ask, should I offer to take a look?
I feel so weird asking this question. DD and I are very open with each other, and I want it to remain that way, but I'm not sure what is crossing a boundary and what is not. I don't want to ever make her (or myself) feel uncomfortable. What would you do?
Tonight though, she wrote a real question. She told me that she thinks she has hair on her "you know what" (her words lol) but doesn't know what they are supposed to look like. We have several books on the topic but none of them explain in detail what the beginning stages look like, and I don't remember myself. So I looked online. From what I've read it seems that they usually start out a lot like the other hair already present on the body, but start lower down and don't become dark/curly or up on the pubic bone until later on.
So my question is, what if she wants me to look? Would that be weird? I don't feel particularly bothered by it, but I do know that my mom would have been mortified if I asked that so I'm not sure if it's "normal" for a parent to do that. Also if she doesn't ask, should I offer to take a look?
I feel so weird asking this question. DD and I are very open with each other, and I want it to remain that way, but I'm not sure what is crossing a boundary and what is not. I don't want to ever make her (or myself) feel uncomfortable. What would you do?
