Originally Posted by VroomieMama
Yes and a lot of them backs out of the house because of wall papers too. Its an easy fix!!!
Originally Posted by Laurel
After going through the hassle of removing a simple wallpaper border from my ds's room a few years ago, there's no way I'd buy a house with more than the tiniest amount of wallpaper. That experience soured me on wallpaper forever!
This. Wallpaper is... well, not a DEALBREAKER for us, but having watched and helped my parents fight the wallpaper battle, and then the fix-the-walls battle, it would have to be a pretty amazing house at a pretty amazing price for me to consider a house with anything more than an inconsequential amount of wallpaper. I will never, ever wallpaper a room. Ever. E.V.E.R. It took two full kitchen renovations to un-do all the wallpaper damage. You just never know how sloppily it was put up.
As to the OP... I think kids should be allowed to voice an opinion, and that opinion should be taken seriously, but "the kitchen is painted an icky color," is something that, in my opinion, is something I'd respond to with, "OK, is there any way we could fix that?" Because... uh, kid? Painting is relatively easy and inexpensive. Bedroom size is a consideration, but it's something I'd consider BEFORE showing the house to a kid. I mean, yeah, Teeny McTeenybopper might think she's due a master-sized bedroom suite, but really... adolescent brains can distort average-sized bedrooms into "OMG SO TINY HOW WILL I EVER LIVE HERE WTH ARE YOU DOING TO ME MOM?!?!?!?!"
The thing is, as adults, we need to consider not just what kids WANT, but what they need. So yeah, Joey wants a bigger room. But this house has a large, fenced backyard, is close to good schools, and the price and lack of renovation required will allow Mom and Dad to save money for his college education. Junior is then owed an explanation of how, taking his (and the rest of the family's) needs AND wants into consideration, despite his objection over the bedroom size, they've opted to buy the house. Now how can we make the situation more acceptable?
So... opinion, yes. Input, yes. Decision-making, deal-breaking power? Probably not, though considerations like moving schools and leaving friends carry more weight... but that's all stuff I'd consider before even SHOWING a kid a house.
We're lucky. We're buying a house and DS's opinion on it (we drove by and pointed to it for him) is "Blue house! Got a big tree! Look... a brown van!" Which I guess, when you're two, is a vote of approval and then a lack of attention span.
He is (and his unborn sibling as well, I guess), let's be honest, the biggest factor in our house-buying decisions. But taking his needs into consideration is very different than pandering to his ever whim... and while it'd be different if he were older, the premise would be the same.