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[A&A]

Originally Posted by Sky

And since it seems you a re not "friends" with this person why foster that relationship?

The only reason I want to go is because I like the teacher who is hosting it. We're semi-friends. (But not close enough friends that I could really be honest about why I may not attend.)

[minkajane]

I wouldn't change my plans regarding a shower over someone's circ decision. The shower is to celebrate the baby. Whether the baby is circ'd or not, he's still a blessing and should be celebrated. Would you skip it if she was bottle-feeding? Or having a scheduled C/S? Or planned on doing CIO? Or whatever? Whether we like it or not, the vast majority of Americans consider circ to be just another parenting choice. Skipping the shower won't make any kind of statement and would be kind of a petty response, IMO.

[listipton]

I said other. It doesn't sound like you are particularly close to this woman, so I would probably skip the shower, but I would still send a gift. She's someone you see on a regular basis and a baby is a 'well wishing' type of event. Also, while you will disagree over many things parenting wise, it's a good idea to keep the lines of communication open if she changes her mind or regrets it later and wants info or to talk to someone who would understand.

[Galatea]

Originally Posted by Quirky

I can see why as a self-protective measure you might not want to go to the shower....unlike lunch, the shower is an event that is all about BABY BABY BABY coming and you know what this poor innocent baby boy is going to suffer on day 1 or day 2 of life because his mother and father are la la la we're not LISTENING for whatever misguided reasons are driving them to want to cut part of their baby's penis off.

I say, just don't go -- not because it's punishment for her, but because it's emotional protection for you so that you don't have to sit through the celebration with gritted teeth and a heavy heart.

Whether you give a present is up to you. I'd be more inclined to contribute to a group present than get her something individual.

Originally Posted by A&A

Thanks for understanding!

You're right........skipping the shower wouldn't be a "statement," per se; it's just that it would be hard for me.

Originally Posted by MCatLvrMom2A&X

I couldnt do it sit there seeing her pg and knowing what she planned to do. I loose sleep over circ anyway and that would just be to painful for me.

Originally Posted by mama24-7

I wouldn't go either. I loose too much sleep over circ & have to protect myself.

sus

Originally Posted by Drummer's Wife

it's not something I dwell on whenever thinking about an acquaintance's new baby.

And yet you can now see that to many people, it is something that we cannot help but think about. For me, it is not so much a moral stance as it is protecting my mental health.

[Drummer's Wife]

Originally Posted by Galatea

And yet you can now see that to many people, it is something that we cannot help but think about. For me, it is not so much a moral stance as it is protecting my mental health.

I do see that now, and while I don't feel the same way, I understand why others do.

[TyrantOfTheWeek]

Skip it and send her both a copy of Business of Being Born and Penn and Teller's Circumcision is B.S.

[A&A]

Originally Posted by minkajane

I wouldn't change my plans regarding a shower over someone's circ decision. The shower is to celebrate the baby. Whether the baby is circ'd or not, he's still a blessing and should be celebrated. Would you skip it if she was bottle-feeding? Or having a scheduled C/S? Or planned on doing CIO? Or whatever? Whether we like it or not, the vast majority of Americans consider circ to be just another parenting choice. .

I already explained how I feel vs. how I know that some other people feel.