DD is 28 months (and well over 30 lb) and I'm 6 months pregnant with SPD. My chiro has advised me to really try to avoid picking DD up/ carrying her. I know on the days when I do end up lifting her too much I really suffer for it, painwise.
The problem of course is that DD is 2. I was doing okay accepting that, and accepting that I would have to physically intervene in order to keep her safe and set limits. But since almost all of that involves literally picking her up and removing her from a situation, or 'helping' her to do what I need her to do - I'm kind of at a loss now.
For example, we often have bedtime battles. She's tired/overtired and doesn't want to co-operate. After trying all the GD tricks I know, like making it into a game, reasoning with her, warning her that we're running out of time to read all the books she wants to read, etc. well I used to just simply say "If you can't work with mama, mama will have to help you to do what I'm asking." And then physically lift her up to get her into her PJs or bring her to the bathroom to brush her teeth. I've never been a huge fan of doing this, but I feel that I need to have set limits in place, so that she knows where she stands.
But now, of course, she's running roughshod all over me, because she knows it hurts me to have to pick her up/physically restrain her, and I feel like I'm not being at all consistent and basically being a wishy-washy permissive parent - sadly begging her to do what I ask, while not actually *doing* anything to help her to stop.
It's not just a bedtime thing either - it's all day long. She's two, and she's very active and bright - but she has a tendency to bolt. I've taken to using the pushchair again for walks/shopping as I just can't run after her and pick her up when she runs away from me in the shop. At home, she'll make a mess and I'll ask her to come wash her hands - she'll run away and start smearing yogurt all over everything in the house. She'll try climbing on the counters. (We can't baby-proof terribly well because we're in a rented house, which is also quite old).
I pick my battles, but even then I find myself up against 20-30 scenarios a day where the easiest/simplest thing to do would be to simply physically pick her up and move her or redirect her to something else. And I just can't do it anymore. Help!!
The problem of course is that DD is 2. I was doing okay accepting that, and accepting that I would have to physically intervene in order to keep her safe and set limits. But since almost all of that involves literally picking her up and removing her from a situation, or 'helping' her to do what I need her to do - I'm kind of at a loss now.
For example, we often have bedtime battles. She's tired/overtired and doesn't want to co-operate. After trying all the GD tricks I know, like making it into a game, reasoning with her, warning her that we're running out of time to read all the books she wants to read, etc. well I used to just simply say "If you can't work with mama, mama will have to help you to do what I'm asking." And then physically lift her up to get her into her PJs or bring her to the bathroom to brush her teeth. I've never been a huge fan of doing this, but I feel that I need to have set limits in place, so that she knows where she stands.
But now, of course, she's running roughshod all over me, because she knows it hurts me to have to pick her up/physically restrain her, and I feel like I'm not being at all consistent and basically being a wishy-washy permissive parent - sadly begging her to do what I ask, while not actually *doing* anything to help her to stop.
It's not just a bedtime thing either - it's all day long. She's two, and she's very active and bright - but she has a tendency to bolt. I've taken to using the pushchair again for walks/shopping as I just can't run after her and pick her up when she runs away from me in the shop. At home, she'll make a mess and I'll ask her to come wash her hands - she'll run away and start smearing yogurt all over everything in the house. She'll try climbing on the counters. (We can't baby-proof terribly well because we're in a rented house, which is also quite old).
I pick my battles, but even then I find myself up against 20-30 scenarios a day where the easiest/simplest thing to do would be to simply physically pick her up and move her or redirect her to something else. And I just can't do it anymore. Help!!
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but if you can pen her in to one area of the house, then clean up is easier.
She wears me out. LOL. I'm 20 weeks with #2 and am starting SPD, so I can totally relate (had it with DD, the only thing I think that's a consolation at this point is I know it goes away after birth!).
Give choices, have her pick 3 books to read and then tell her after that, the lights go out and we go to bed. Also, the more you talk ahead about what you're going to do next, the better. So, for instance saying we're going to play right now and then we're going to take a bath. In the bath, say we're going to take the bath and then go read a book. You will be able to choose from 3.
