"Marriage weight"... or "relationship" weight.

[BelovedK]

I was a solid size 8 and happy with my body, for several years (after having lost 40 baby weight pounds) I seriously fit into the same clothes for years, and was stable and it was good.

Well, I slowly gain after DH and I start dating, then by the time we are married a year, I am up 25 lbs .

We go through phases of eating out, but because of money (and health() we try to eat at home more, I try to plan healthy meals, but then there are the leftovers.

I was driven not to overeat when I was single, even when I wasn't doing much socially, and had my same working hours (3 days a week) I now eat out of boredom, and I pick at food if its around

People used to say "you're not fat", now they say "well, your face looks younger" I get mistaken for being pregnant I am 25 lbs overweight (my 'happy' weight. I am JUST not happy with it, people always say, "well, you'r married, they are 'happy' pounds" hahaha, no, they are NOT in any way happy, and they make me irritable with DH (oh yeah, he has gained as well)

[lil_earthmomma]

Apparently this is very common.

Dh and I are both committed to a healthier lifestyle, so we've been pushing eachother and enjoying spending time together working out and cooking healthier meals. We've both lost a substantial amount of weight!

Maybe you and your dh could find a sport/activity/workout that you both enjoy?

[Penelope]

K, you also lost two pregnancies in the last year or so, right?

Your body might have had some hormonal stuff going on that helped you gain weight.

For me, regular exercise and real honesty about my diet are key to a healthy weight (which I know sounds like the usual useless advice, sorry! ) Avoiding trigger foods (for me, chocolate and butter) and empty (for me, alcohol) helps keep me on track.

Good luck, babe!

[ellairiesmom]

i am sooooo in this boat...

i had lost about 80 lbs & had some size 8/10 in my wardrobe mixed in with 12's & was the healthiest i had been in a decade right before i met dh 3 years ago. i gained 10 while dating, got pregnant with dd1 unexpectedly & went off the metformin i had started taking for pcos. gained 60 lbs 1st pregnancy & only lost 30 of it before getting pregnant with dd2. i only gained 25 lbs this time but here i am, 3 mos pp & starting to gain instead of lose. and dh comes home from getting the papers on the weekends with bagels for me & totally doesn't hesitate for a second when i say we should go out to eat, or have a margarita etc!!!!!

i need to find my inner discipline again but just can't figure out how. my life is so different now as a sahm...much harder to stay on track now.

[Happiestever]

Sigh - married life can be the pits huh . DH and I have been putting on weight since the second year of marriage. 10 lbs every year since then. Yep that's 50 lbs gained. Yikes. At least I have had three kids come from my belly, what's his excuse LOL Sympathy weight

[BelovedK]

Argh! There HAS to be a way. I like the idea of finding something healthy to do together. With my previous marriage (and 2 children) I put on about 40 pounds and I lost all of that with weight watchers before I got divorced and spent ALL of my divorced years at my normal weight, then along comes DH and I just slowly gain . He had been at a comfortable weight as well (before he gained too), and it is like we are in a rut, and we can't seem to get on track.

I dont know what it's going to tske, but something HAS to give, I am so unhappy being at this weight. My feet hurt, and my knees. I notice that it is harder to lug myself up out of the car, and with my dancing, it is harder to do certain things (floorwork)

Penelope, you have a point about the pregnancies, I have had 2 m/c in the past year and a half, I suppose that could have something to do with it.

[ellairiesmom]

Originally Posted by BelovedK

Penelope, you have a point about the pregnancies, I have had 2 m/c in the past year and a half, I suppose that could have something to do with it.

so sorry mama.
that could definitely have something to do with it.


i think it's critical to have a dh who is on board. i'm not looking to blame dh because i am ultimately responsible, but it is so hard to eat healthy if the person who you are with the most doesn't. he has gone back & forth with an extra 10 lbs the past year but is on the thinner side in general so it's not staring him in the face the way it does me...