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[FoxintheSnow]

Our ds pees in our yard all the time. As do dogs, cats, raccoons, bears, deer, insects, armadillos, possums, squirrels etc. Pee is pee and not a big deal. No one's yard is sterile of it. If Im unloading groceries and ds has to go I encourage him to go on the bush. It saves water too.

[BetsyS]

We've taught my 3 year old to only pee outside if he has "no other choice."

So, often, he runs up and asks, "Mama, do I have no other choice?"

[tbone_kneegrabber]

I have friends who live on land with no indoor plumbing. They prefer you pee in the yard and not in the outhouses. Outhouses are more for poop, something about the pee adding too much moisture and then making it stinkier or something.

[sapphire_chan]

Riding on the bus in college, with a mix of most sorts of people, elderly, young, middle aged, men, women, different cultures, on the bus. We were stopped at the mall which is a slightly longer stop, but not really long enough to go all the way to the bathroom and get back before the bus leaves. Little boy asks his mom for the potty. Mom checks with the bus driver that the bus will be staying for a few minutes. Takes the boy to the bushes next to the bus.

Universal reaction from everyone on the bus? "Aww, poor little guy, bet he feels better now. Sometimes I wish I was a kid and could do that."

[NightOwlwithowlet]

My kid, 8 and knows better, peed on a tree in the play ground just last week.
When he first started learning he peed in the bushes in front of the Wall Street Journal building in NYC, the parking lot of the Magic Kingdom, and by the side of road. He once tried to tell me the nursery section of Lowe's was "outside".

Some people are going to criticize how you raise your kids no matter what you do. A distant relative has complained because I am "too lax", "too strict", "easy on the boy", "too hard on him" and my favorite "raising him to have a mind of his own." I can't win with her and never will.

[Smithie]

My then-almost-5 y.o. peed right in the middle of the street while we were strolling through Colonial Williamsburg. The backyard is definitely no big deal.

Your actual problem is that you have in-laws who say nasty things about you behind your back.

[mommajb]

I really should read the whole thread, I hate when people don't and repeat somehting that has already been dealt with but... Why is it okay for a dog to pee in the yard but disgusting when a toddler does?

As a mother of a almost 3 yo boy who is newly toilet learned I'll say congrats on the milestone.

ETA: Two weeks ago dd3 (5 next month) was at a 5K with me. She "dropped trou" behind a tree without telling anyone she had to go so she didn't interrupt my conversation. How's that for polite?

[SunshineJ]

Originally Posted by Purple Cat

I'm fairly confident that anyone who hears your in-laws rant about your son's "indiscretion," if you can even call it that, will find the commentary speaks volumes about your in-laws and highlights their weaknesses and shortcomings, not yours or your family's.

Of this whole thread I think this post sums things up the best (only insert correct relative association if needed).

[laila2]

hugs

Is what they do all day talk to their children about not going outside? Haven't they heard the legend of Mannekin Pis of Brussels Belgium? Where the king has lost his son, has the entire kindom looking for him, and when he finds him, he is peeing in the garden. The king is so overjoyed he made a fountain statue of it

here is my similar experience that is not meant in any way to condemn you: My little boy peed at day care once. When the teachers approached me on it, I appologized, then I let them know it does not happen at home. Then I asked, "does another child do it that he has possibly seen?" answer, yes. "and were you short of teachers without back-up, therefore a bit chaotic?" answer yes. All infront of my ds, to be his advocate. I made them see that it was not all me and he.

[Shahbazin]

Last summer, when my older DD was just turned 3 & potty learning, we had a lot of discussion about peeing & pooping in our back yard. Her attitude was, "the dog does it, why shouldn't I?" Now she is 4, and no longer tries to imitate our dog.

Your in-laws need to relax!

[Sharlla]

well my 5 year old thought it would be funny to try to pee on the neighbor kids lol thank goodness everyone around here has a good sense of humor
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