Originally Posted by Needle in the Hay
Does the rink have a helmet rule? If not, I would not comply with his "suggestion". If he says anything I would just say "She's OK, I'm watching her". He doesn't get to make rules for kids enjoying open skate under their parents' supervision.
If it is a rule to wear helmets at the rink that's different, but I'll wait to know for sure before commenting further as to not waste anyone's time!
I can relate to this somewhat because my son takes swim lessons and then stays for open swim. We follow the coach's rule of not going into the pool before the lesson even though sometimes it would be so convenient if we could get there an hour before and he could have playtime before rather than after the lesson. However, that playtime after the lesson is for him to do as he pleases (barring breaking rules of the pool or otherwise infringing upon the rights of others). If the coach thought he should be doing laps and tried to enforce a rule (such as no jumping into the pool unless you swim to the other end after) I wouldn't follow it. He's like any other kid there once the lesson is over. Fortunately his swim coach is great and this hasn't happened.
I would like to challenge the assumption by a PP that the OP's daughter isn't serious about skating. It sounds like she is very serious about it. If she weren't she wouldn't choose to go every week. It sounds like she is making fast progress which means that during her lessons she is paying attention.
I know my son is serious about swimming even though it's all for his enjoyment. He listens to the coach, follows instructions, tries his best and looks forward to his lesson each week. He does not however practice laps in his spare time. He just has fun in the pool and swims when he needs to (such as after jumping in the deep end).
Yes this exactly!!!
Originally Posted by AllyRae
Yes, this. Why not just bring the girls to the rink on non-lesson time so they can skate with dolls, and then have them be serious during lessons? My kids are in sports that they are not going to be professional in, but during practice, they still need to respect the sport and the rules of the coach. If my son brought his light saber to his martial arts class and liked playing with it, it would certainly be a distraction to those who came to learn, and it would be disrespectful to the sensai. He may not be going pro in martial arts, but I expect that he gives his full attention. If he wants to play with his light saber in the dojo, he does it during free time/open gym.
Can you even see what I am writing? It is during FREE TIME! It is the same thing you are saying. It is NOT during class. It is free public skate time.
If everyone would stop assuming things that aren't going on it would make this thread much easier.
The kids aren't disruptive in class. they pay attention and learn.
After class for 15 minutes( per my requirement )they practice the skills they learn.
After those 15 minutes they can play together and skate or not skate or eat snacks or any other thing that anyone else might go to a rink for.
We are there during the day . the maximum amount of people on the ice is is maybe 9 or 10. 4 of which are our kids from the lessons.
There is NO helmet rule outside of of the younger kids in beginning skating class.
There is no danger in them playing with the dolls. As matter fact on several occasions the skate guard and another teacher were using the dolls making the dolls do fancy moves.
It was just fun.
the coach used the fact that he recently approved the skill level to that of not having to wear a helmet.
He retracted that simply based on the fact that they were not practicing the way he wanted him them to ON THEIR OWN TIME not during class. I can not believe I have to explain this to gentle parents who would not threaten their kids or use manipulative tactics to teach them but when a someone deemed a teacher or as some are calling him Coach it is perfectly alright. How can you not see the injustice.
Have you really never seen someone manipulate a kid into doing something by threatening them with a lost privilege?