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Am I the only one going crazy waiting for 1st appt??

post #1 of 20
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I am seeing my midwife on June 3rd (two weeks from this Thursday) and until then, all I have to go on are 3 positive tests...I am going a little nutty!! Some days I feel and look less pregnant than others (if I need to go to the washroom, more, after I go, less), my nausea is minor, I am tempted to go buy a doppler just to check for a heartbeat, but if I don't find one because I don't know what I am doing I may end up panicking myself for nothing. I called the birthcentre today thinking maybe I could slip into an information session just to get in there (to what end, who knows) but there isn't one until after my appointment. And I have admitted, the recent losses on our board have affected me (as I am sure they have affected us all) I feel like I'm getting kinda desperate... Anyone have any words of wisdom, is anyone else going through this? I don't want to harass the midwives and be "that mama"...
post #2 of 20
I'm with you.

My first midwife appointment isn't until June 7, when I'll be 10.5 weeks. I DID get an informational session in, and that was good, to at least see the birthing center.

I'm going on 1 positive pregnancy test, sore boobs, and exhaustion (but very little nausea) to keep my hopes up that I'm still pregnant. Like you, all the losses on the board are making me worry, too. We haven't told anyone we're expecting, and I'm starting to think that was a good move. But, the waiting is killing me! It will all seem more real when we start telling people, and I start having regular appointments.
post #3 of 20
I have mine a week from tomorrow; I'll be 10.5 wks at that point, too.

And I am EXCITED!!!! Though at 10.5 weeks, I doubt we'll be able to hear the heartbeat. And I don't think we want an ultrasound. But it'll be good just to be in the system and feel all official at the birth center. I did go to a prenatal nutrition class last week, so that was nice.
post #4 of 20
I still need to set up my first appt with my midwife. But I do own a doppler so I've heard the heartbeat starting at about 9 weeks. And I do understand wanting to have alittle more to go on other than positive tests. Maybe that's why I'm not really super eager to go in. I can do pretty much anything my midwife will be doing at those early appts. Hang in there, it'll be June before you know it.
post #5 of 20
I have my first appointment a week from Thursday, one day shy of 11 weeks. Really hoping to hear the hb! I like that this pregnancy already feels a lot more low key than with DS. By this point in my pregnancy, I had already had 2 appts, both with u/s (for dating) and had been referred to a perinatologist that I saw along with my OB the whole pregnancy.

Monday my PP doula with DS, who is now studying to be a MW and plans to attend my birth and catch the baby as part of the catches she needs () is taking me grocery shopping to help me get my diet in check. I have a really hard time eating a lot since I've been in weight loss mode for over a year and am very nervous about gaining weight b/c I'm scared of my BP rising and risking me out of my HB, so she's going to take me shopping for what I need and cook a meal with me. I'm so excited for that!!
post #6 of 20
I'm working hard to play it cool. I called the midwife and she asked if I wanted to come in last week. I said I had no issue waiting for a while so our first appointment is June 4 at 11.5 weeks.

I was under treatment for fertility for DS1, so my first 2 pregnancies (the first was a blighted ovum), I had appointments and ultrasounds very early. With #2 my first appointment was at 8 weeks and a day before I had a gush of bleeding so I had an early u/s at 8 weeks (that's now my lovely 3yo).

Tryin' to be cool
post #7 of 20
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ma Donna, I am trying to be cool, too, but really I'm feeling more like this Gotta have faith, I guess.
post #8 of 20
I have not had an appointment yet either. I have not called my midwife yet, as I do not want to make an appointment until I am at least 10 weeks. I will be 9 weeks this Thursday, so still waiting........ I may even wait until 11-12 weeks. I want to make sure I am far enough along to hear a heartbeat, I am terrified of the silence when looking for a heartbeat that is not there (or too early). After losing my DD3 @ 40 weeks and having that silent moment I am very anxious about hearing the heartbeat.
Trying to keep the faith and trust!
post #9 of 20
I don't care much about appointments except hearing the heartbeat!

I really can't wait! My mw said she'd stop by next week to try again to the heartbeat. We tried at 9 weeks and I'll be almost 12 weeks next week.

We won't have an official visit until I'm probably closer to 16 weeks because she's having to update her files and such and can't see me until everything is in order.
post #10 of 20
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Originally Posted by Funny Face View Post
I don't care much about appointments except hearing the heartbeat! I really can't wait!
When it comes to seeing doctors, I don't care much, either, but my midwife appointments for DD were always so enjoyable as you build a relationship with the midwife, building that trust and getting to know each other, it's so great! So different from seeing a doctor. But yes, I agree the heartbeat is the thing, the last time I had an OB before the midwife (as I was on a waiting list for a bit) and it was very clinical (internal exam, paper gown etc) but hearing the heartbeat was so great. I can't wait either! ChildoftheMoon, I understand your wanting to put off the appointment, it must be very scary since you've been there before. If I had waited til now to make an appointment, I would definitely be on a waiting list and probably not able to get a midwife at all. I agree, faith and trust and also hope for our little ones!
post #11 of 20
I have my first appointment next week. I'll be 10 weeks then. I can't wait. Seeing all the sad posts on here has really not helped me feel any better either. So far this pregnancy is much different then my first. I've had a lot of m/s and much more cramping then I remember from last time. Not horrible cramping but still just a general crampy feeling. I didn't have any m/s with my first and just a little bit of cramping. Also the last two days I've had the slightest bit of spotting. It's a brownish/pink color so I know it doesn't really mean anything, but still I will be very relieved to have my first midwife appt and hopefully hear the heartbeat. I'm so jealous of all the other mom's posting about their ultrasounds.
post #12 of 20
I'm not going crazy, but I am definitely feeling more anticipation. Since my MS is starting to get better I am finding myself wanting to hear the HB for reassurance. My appt. is next Friday and I will be 11wks 6days so I should be able to hear it.
post #13 of 20
I usually don't do anything until after 12 weeks, too. I have a lot going on in my head, so I won't mememe your thread
post #14 of 20
I'm still waiting, too. I contacted my midwife, but told her that I didn't want an appointment until 10-12 weeks...I'm in the middle of my 8th week now. In fact, I'm 8w4d today and I was 8w4d when I miscarried my last little one, so this week has been a little touchy for me. Anyway, I'm scared that there won't be a heartbeat when I go. I WANT to hear it! I haven't had an ultrasound, and will probably only have one at 20 weeks. Especially between my own loss and the losses already experienced on this board, I'm nervous.
post #15 of 20
Qbear'smama, I am with you. I am really anxious for some more confirmation than just some positive HPTs. I have had some major symptoms, especially recently, such as some serious nausea (but no actual vomiting yet) and sore breasts and a general feeling of just being "sick", so to speak. Of course, today I feel great, and rather than feeling relieved that I can function, I worry and overanalyze things ("what does it mean if I'm feeling so great all of a sudden?! Is the baby ok?") My first appointment is a week from today, and I'm excited to get things rolling, but I'm not sure if my midwife will even be able to find a heartbeat (I'll be 2 days shy of 10 weeks).

My dad is an OB/GYN and is really excited about being able to see the baby on a 3D ultrasound he has in his office (that was the first thing he asked me when I told him, he is such a doctor). So, this weekend when I visit my parents I was planning on doing that, but then I read something about the possible hazards of ultrasounds so now I'm nervous about having one! I tell you, sometimes I think I'm too informed and it actually hurts me rather than helps me. Like for instance, reading about spotting (which I've had) and the possibilities of miscarriages- it is good information to know to be realistic as to what could happen, but do I really need to freak myself out constantly?

Anyway, I feel your pain and I totally understand. It's my first pregnancy and I am just feeling very anxious and a little paranoid over this whole first trimester. I really want some visual proof at this point that the baby is alive and well in there. Otherwise it is really hard to envision and truly believe what is actually happening to me, even though I know I am definitely pregnant.
post #16 of 20
I think that a big part of being pregnant and eventually giving birth is trusting my body and my intuition to tell me what is happening. In a world full of tests for everything conceivable, it is not so easy to believe that my body knows what to do and will tell me what I need to create a healthy pregnancy. I am relying on one cheapo test and my bodily sensations to confirm pregnancy. I have also decided not to have the doppler used this time by my midwife, as I have read that a few minutes under the doppler is equivalant to an hour of ultrasound exposure. I'm going to believe in my body's ability and wait until we can hear a heartbeat with a fetoscope. Good luck to all of you wondering mamas. Your bodies can do this!
post #17 of 20
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Originally Posted by starshine1001 View Post
I'm still waiting, too. I contacted my midwife, but told her that I didn't want an appointment until 10-12 weeks...I'm in the middle of my 8th week now. In fact, I'm 8w4d today and I was 8w4d when I miscarried my last little one, so this week has been a little touchy for me. Anyway, I'm scared that there won't be a heartbeat when I go. I WANT to hear it! I haven't had an ultrasound, and will probably only have one at 20 weeks. Especially between my own loss and the losses already experienced on this board, I'm nervous.
I'm sorry starshine...I hope you have a peaceful week.
post #18 of 20
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I see the midwife a week from today!!! I can't wait, if all goes well, DH and I will tell DD, that will be SO EXCITING!!!!!!!!
post #19 of 20
Boo, due to a miscommunication I missed my first appointment My appt. has been rescheduled to next Friday, the 4th.
post #20 of 20
Just had my first appointment and we couldn't get the hb. I was disappointed, but my MW reassured me that the blood flow to my uterus sounds really good. I'm way more informed this pregnancy than with DS, so I'm also more aware of what can go wrong (even though I try to stay positive), but she says it definitely sounds like a pregnant uterus, so that's reassuring. I go in next week to see if we can pick it up
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