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post #21 of 31
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I'm currently expecting our second baby, and am almost 6 months along as it is, but I do not want to have any prenatal 'care'. I did with our first one, and from what I know now, I do not want dangerous ultrasounds, mysterious blood tests, drinking that sugar water garbage (I gave up refined sugar!), etc etc etc. I wouldn't even want them to use their speculum to check me, or the doppler. I am healthy and do not have any problems or issues. Our first was a home birth anyway, and I had stopped going to my prenatal appts when I was about 35 weeks anyway. I also don't want to go with a midwife, even if I could find one that is accepting of home birth, we can't afford it right now. I have been trying to eat right and all that, actually I'm eating way better than I ever did.

Is anyone also not doing the prenatal rituals? I worry that if I do, that I would be ornery, cantankerous, uncooperative and basically naughty, as I don't believe in modern medicine fairy anymore.

 I only go so that I can get a birth certificate. We live close to the border and it is either prenatals or an after birth check up. I opt for the former but my midwives are really relaxed about me refusing just about everything they want to do.

post #22 of 31

I can totally understand various reasons for not wanting blood tests. I don't understand why you would call them mysterious except to be hyperbolically disparaging. There is no reason for blood tests to be mysterious. Get a list of tests that would be run. Google them, or ask on here for an explanation. Then make an educated decision on whether to refuse some or all of them. Or just decide that you don't think that the possible knowledge gained is worth the needlestick/anxiety/time/money/whatever the problem is, but be honest about your reason. "It's too mysterious" is avoiding responsibility.

 

(Only got a single blood test for a specific reason, think the GTT is quite questionable and not doing it, but will probably track blood sugar levels with regular diet at some point soon, not avoiding all ultrasound/doppler but going very light on it, had a UP in the past... so I'm not unsympathetic with the sentiment in general, but the "mysterious blood tests" part seems to be deliberately encouraging ignorance.)

post #23 of 31

We just finished uploading a course on how to do your own prenatal care. It also has information about self-care during birth and postpartum. 

 

It is here:

http://moodle.sacredtransitionsmidwifery.org/course/category.php?id=7

post #24 of 31
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Originally Posted by tammyswanson View Post

I'm currently expecting our second baby, and am almost 6 months along as it is, but I do not want to have any prenatal 'care'. I did with our first one, and from what I know now, I do not want dangerous ultrasounds, mysterious blood tests, drinking that sugar water garbage (I gave up refined sugar!), etc etc etc. I wouldn't even want them to use their speculum to check me, or the doppler. I am healthy and do not have any problems or issues. Our first was a home birth anyway, and I had stopped going to my prenatal appts when I was about 35 weeks anyway. I also don't want to go with a midwife, even if I could find one that is accepting of home birth, we can't afford it right now. I have been trying to eat right and all that, actually I'm eating way better than I ever did.

Is anyone also not doing the prenatal rituals? I worry that if I do, that I would be ornery, cantankerous, uncooperative and basically naughty, as I don't believe in modern medicine fairy anymore.

 

 

hehe!!

 

prenatal rituals is a great description.

 

i hate the rigamarole, and the fear and the panic.  w/ my first i didn't see a care provider til 21 weeks, and it was drama after drama after that.  I behaved my 2nd pregnancy and did the visits and totally hated it all.  my 3rd pregnancy i found a care provider who was totally different- home birth and her attitude was totally that my health and my baby's health was in my hands, and her role was to support me in any way i needed.  so it was a pee on a stick and give birth 10 months later.  same w/ my 4th.  but by my 4th i let her come and do monthly visits, bi-weekly at the end, b/c she was so wonderful to be around and talk to and just share about the pregnancy w/.  but she basically measured me, used the fetoscope and said 'yup.  you're still pregnant and everything looks great.  how are you doing?  what are you thinking about?  how can i support you?' 

 

last pregnancy i moved 2 hours away, so had 4 total visits w/ my midwife.  that was fine w/ me.

 

This pregnancy is looking similar- a couple of visits just to measure and have face-to-face time before the labor.  but unless there's a test that seems apparent (i never opt for ultrasounds), skip everything.  i'm only 10 weeks along and see no reason to have any medical oversight at this point.

 

i do love having a midwife present for the birth.  i relax when she's around.  that's my personal preference.  but my midwife is very VERY hands off and i honestly have to push for more interactions etc.  

post #25 of 31

Ok I think I need to be enlightened, so please help. I certainly choose to take care of things the natural way whenever possible, and am planning on a natural birth, etc…  

This is my first pregnancy (at 36, I'm 5 weeks) and although I'm trying to just flow and enjoy it all there's an ugly little voice in my head that keeps reminding me of how common miscarriages are, and overanalyzes the lack of symptoms I'm having and how they fluctuate.  Because of this, I CAN'T WAIT for my first appt on 3/6 because I want to make sure the little peanut is actually growing and evolving in there!! 

However, I would like to be educated on the cautions or dangers of ultrasounds, genetic testing, etc… so I can make an informed decision.  

Many thanks and have a lovely and peaceful day.

 

 

post #26 of 31
Ultrasound is cautioned by the FDA to only be used when necessary and not for bonding purposes. However, they can catch things like spinabifida early enough to do surgery in utero. So its a personal thing if risk vs. benefits and what your comfortable with.

Blood tests to me, are not uber important because I would still choose life for my baby even if the blood test showed something.

Early pregnancy is renowned for yo-yo symptoms. Don't let that be of too much concern.
post #27 of 31

do what you need to do for peace of mind.

 

i strongly never wanted an ultrasound, so there wasn't any real questions for me.  i was so blessed to see my first baby at 21 weeks b/c my husband was so FLOORED by seeing the little one and that was powerful.

 

so it's not a right or wrong, but a personal leading and comfort.

 

i never would have chosen to end an pregnancy, so genetic testing wasn't going to do me any good (and i wanted to enjoy pregnancy and not worry) and that was where i found peace.

 

i had another mom friend who had a surprise down syndrome baby, and she told me she was so glad she hadn't known.  b/c her pregnancy was lovely, and she would have worried and never known how beautiful and easy her baby would be if she had spent her pregnancy knowing and worrying.  but other moms feel better prepared.

 

do what it takes to be as prepared as you need to be to enjoy this pregnancy and feel ready (as much as you can be) for this HUGE adventure.

post #28 of 31

We talk a LOT about this over at indiebirth.com.  I recently wrote a new post about my experience with DIY prenatal care and will be having other women write about what that looks like for them as well.  http://www.indiebirth.com/diy-prenatal-care-at-16-weeks/  Expecting Trouble is a good book by a perinatologist (I don't agree with his paradigm or some of his suggestions) about the complete uselessness of prenatal care for improving outcomes.  Some studies have actually shown that more prenatal appointments equal WORSE outcomes even for low risk women.  This is most likely because women think that getting prenatal care offers some insurance, and since they have handled the responsibility over to others, they aren't as responsible about the real prenatal care that is done every single day by the mother.

post #29 of 31

Do you recall anything specific your friend ate or did? Did she take Royal Jelly or anything like that?

post #30 of 31

That last question was meant for ZoeJane's Momm regarding her friend with the super smart little girl. I hit reply under her post. Not sure why it appeared at the end of the thread.

post #31 of 31
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That last question was meant for ZoeJane's Momm regarding her friend with the super smart little girl. I hit reply under her post. Not sure why it appeared at the end of the thread.

 

All posts do that here, if you want to be specific you have to push quote.

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