Originally Posted by tammyswanson
I'm currently expecting our second baby, and am almost 6 months along as it is, but I do not want to have any prenatal 'care'. I did with our first one, and from what I know now, I do not want dangerous ultrasounds, mysterious blood tests, drinking that sugar water garbage (I gave up refined sugar!), etc etc etc. I wouldn't even want them to use their speculum to check me, or the doppler. I am healthy and do not have any problems or issues. Our first was a home birth anyway, and I had stopped going to my prenatal appts when I was about 35 weeks anyway. I also don't want to go with a midwife, even if I could find one that is accepting of home birth, we can't afford it right now. I have been trying to eat right and all that, actually I'm eating way better than I ever did.
Is anyone also not doing the prenatal rituals? I worry that if I do, that I would be ornery, cantankerous, uncooperative and basically naughty, as I don't believe in modern medicine fairy anymore.
prenatal rituals is a great description.
i hate the rigamarole, and the fear and the panic. w/ my first i didn't see a care provider til 21 weeks, and it was drama after drama after that. I behaved my 2nd pregnancy and did the visits and totally hated it all. my 3rd pregnancy i found a care provider who was totally different- home birth and her attitude was totally that my health and my baby's health was in my hands, and her role was to support me in any way i needed. so it was a pee on a stick and give birth 10 months later. same w/ my 4th. but by my 4th i let her come and do monthly visits, bi-weekly at the end, b/c she was so wonderful to be around and talk to and just share about the pregnancy w/. but she basically measured me, used the fetoscope and said 'yup. you're still pregnant and everything looks great. how are you doing? what are you thinking about? how can i support you?'
last pregnancy i moved 2 hours away, so had 4 total visits w/ my midwife. that was fine w/ me.
This pregnancy is looking similar- a couple of visits just to measure and have face-to-face time before the labor. but unless there's a test that seems apparent (i never opt for ultrasounds), skip everything. i'm only 10 weeks along and see no reason to have any medical oversight at this point.
i do love having a midwife present for the birth. i relax when she's around. that's my personal preference. but my midwife is very VERY hands off and i honestly have to push for more interactions etc.