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So, am I out? Or is my body just trying to drive me to the brink of insanity???

post #1 of 21
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I'm at about 6 weeks. I have been spotting since 20 days after my last period. In fact, it's even worse than that. 10 days after, I had heavy bleeding for about a day and thought I was having the shortest cycle ever, but then it stopped. Then, at 20 days, I bled again, but this time, it trickled down even more quickly to brown spotting which I have had ever since. But, then late last week, it turned from brown to red and it is just a consistent very, very light flow. Enough to need a liner, but not more than that. Add to that that in the past week, I've had very little nausea. I never have it bad, but even strong smells aren't bothering me. So, I figure I'm m/cing. Which makes me totally weepy...I look at my fat, squishy 10mo and think about the little babe that I'm supposed to be holding in January.

I've never m/ced before. I don't know what is normal. So, I just took another pg test and it is still showing a 2nd line, though it is still fairly faint. By 6 weeks, should it be really dark? If I'm losing the baby, will it continue to show positive for a while? How does that work? And if I'm not m/cing, WHAT could be causing all the spotting? I'm so tired of this uncertainty. And we don't have insurance, so I'm not able to run in for blood tests and such. I have to take a wait and see approach to this...but I just would like to know what these signs mean.
post #2 of 21
I am so sorry you are going through such a roller coaster right now!! I understand what you must be feeling because I have been there. I had a m/c in March of this year and it was horrible....the waiting game is almost the hardest!

With that said.....I continued to get positive pg tests for up to 2 weeks after I had my m/c. My baby died at 6 weeks but I didn't m/c until 9 weeks.

It is so up and down...because we are constantly bombarded with stories of "I bled a LOT throughout my first trimester and everything was fine" and those stories give us up. Of course there are stories on the opposite end of the spectrum too...but you just don't know what exactly is going on.

What has helped me be at peace this time no matter what happens..is to remind myself to be happy and grateful for anytime I do have with my baby....and to try and stay calm and think uplifting positive thoughts.

Do you plan to see a doctor at all?

I am waiting this time, because for me, and for my experience last time, none of the tests I had done last time like a US or blood work changed the situation, and never gave me any answers. This time I just want to relax and enjoy being pregnant for however long that is...

Again I am so sorry you are so uncertain about what is going on..and I wish you great inner strength and peace as you get through the next few weeks!!! s
post #3 of 21
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Originally Posted by xtara2003x View Post
It is so up and down...because we are constantly bombarded with stories of "I bled a LOT throughout my first trimester and everything was fine" and those stories give us up.
Yes, this, exactly. I will try to just relax and take it one day at a time. Thank you for sharing...and I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Do you plan to see a doctor at all?
I was planning to see a chiro, but not a doctor, if that makes any sense. My last 2 I had complications due to bad positioning (one transverse/spine first and one posterior and hung up high), so I was planning to be more proactive about that, but I was going to UP/UC otherwise.

Again, thank you.

Ok...deep breath...
post #4 of 21


I am planning a UC...possibly UP as well! And I see my chiro regularly!

I am wanting a UC even more...because I had a UM (unassisted miscarriage) and I am so glad that it happened the way it did.

I had all the tests last time.....I even had a US show there was a heartbeat....but the baby died shortly after that US...so on the second us....they showed the baby had passed away.

For myself...I have become very very un-medicalized...especially during the first 12 weeks or so. There really is no reason....for me....to go see a doctor or midwife...because they can't do anything for me if something is happening anyway.

I have found inner peace by just handing things over to God..for me..I'm not sure if you're religious or anything, and for just allowing myself to be pregnant with this little bean...and treasuring every moment.

I'm here if you need, as I know how scary this must be. Trust in your body's ability...because your body will work for you however it needs to work.

s

If you need to vent...you can always PM me as well! I hope your day is great today!
post #5 of 21
When I was having spotting for a few days before my miscarriage, my midwife said that it really is about 50/50 - half the women who bleed go on to have healthy pregnancies, half miscarry. She did offer to order an ultrasound for me if I needed to know sooner, but otherwise said I didn't need to do anything unless I had a hemorrhage or fever.
post #6 of 21
(((Hugs)))) I'm sorry you're going through this roller coaster. I would think that at this point a pregnancy test would read a pretty dark positive. And I know it can read a faint positive for up to a few weeks after a miscarriage (until all of the HCG hormone is out of the system).

You weren't by any chance charting your temperatures before and when you got pregnant, were you? If you were, you could check your temperature now and see if it has dropped (during pregnancy it stays elevated, but once your period starts or if you have a miscarriage, it will drop to pre-ovulatory levels).

I know it must be hard not knowing what's happening.
post #7 of 21
This is exactly what I came on here to look for! To see if anyone else was having these "issues", and what you wrote about is pretty much exactly what I've been going through. My last period was on March 29. Got a positive p/t on May 4. I just don't know what the heck's going on at all. I'll go read the replies here now, though. Just wanted to post really quick to say thanks for talking about this, because I've been worried about it all day. I am bleeding more today than ever, and it's definitely more red than brown now, and a lot of stuff... like a period. This doesn't feel right, and I haven't had much cramping, but I do have some kind of cramps the last few hours, but it might just be nervousness that I'm trying not to feel. I've had the worst headache ever today too, and it will not go away. I just had to jump in here to see, and try to ease my mind.. thanks for letting me rant.
post #8 of 21
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When I was having spotting for a few days before my miscarriage, my midwife said that it really is about 50/50 - half the women who bleed go on to have healthy pregnancies, half miscarry.
Good to know. It so makes me wonder, though, what on earth causes that bleeding in those that go on to have a baby!?!

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I have found inner peace by just handing things over to God..for me..I'm not sure if you're religious or anything, and for just allowing myself to be pregnant with this little bean...and treasuring every moment.

I'm here if you need, as I know how scary this must be. Trust in your body's ability...because your body will work for you however it needs to work.

If you need to vent...you can always PM me as well! I hope your day is great today!
Thank you so much. I do feel the same way...sometimes we just need a little reminder, though, no? It is so easy to get wrapped up in worry. And thank you for the support. I just may need it even more as the days progress.

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Originally Posted by thebeljur View Post

You weren't by any chance charting your temperatures before and when you got pregnant, were you? If you were, you could check your temperature now and see if it has dropped (during pregnancy it stays elevated, but once your period starts or if you have a miscarriage, it will drop to pre-ovulatory levels).
Oh, that would've been helpful! No, I wasn't charting this time. I had only had a couple of cycles since the last one and just wasn't too concerned! Good info, though. Next time...

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This is exactly what I came on here to look for! To see if anyone else was having these "issues", and what you wrote about is pretty much exactly what I've been going through.
I'm so sorry you are going through this too! It certainly gives us something to keep our minds spinning. I'm feeling like I probably have my answer, though it is hard to accept. Please let us know if something changes with you and I'll do the same!
post #9 of 21
Thanks so much for your concern, U-Turn I will definitely let you know what happens... whatever it may be. I just called the advice nurse on my insurance, and she basically said that most of this was normal for this stage of pregnancy, but it was "a little disconcerting" that the blood was red, instead of brown. She told me to make an appt tomorrow for within the next week with my OB and for bloodwork to get done. Which is what I was going to do anyway within the next couple weeks (haven't been yet), but now I'll go earlier. So I can't wait for all that to be done.

It sucks not to have insurance, I know. We didn't have it with our first baby (we have one four year old nakies child sitting next to me, playing Nintendo ds ), and we had to pay 3000 cash to our OB, and then were able to get Medicaid for the rest of it and the birth. It's been so long, I can't recall much about it all. I remember being thrilled to be pregnant, and it was a really great pregnancy, no problems at all. And I was so happy the whole time. This time is very different, I know that- though I really don't remember any "normal" cramping or bleeding in early pregnancy with her.. it's just been too long! I've never had a miscarriage though. All I know is that this is pretty frustrating, and I really don't know how women make it through the first trimester! It's been completely emotionally, physically, and mentally draining for me. It's hard to stay happy when I feel like crap. I'm doing the best I can though, and I know that whatever happens, that is obviously what was supposed to happen, right? That's what it seems like to me, when it comes to pregnancy... Anyway, sorry if I'm a downer; I kind of feel like it right now. Usually I'm very happy and chill and positive, but it's just so hard to feel like that today! My brain huuuuurts. I hope you have a great night, though.
post #10 of 21
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Yes, I am having such a hard time remembering past pregnancies too. I know with my first, I called the doc because of spotting, but I can't remember how much or anything. And I remember with my last, I took a second test, but I cannot remember why! I guess it's a combo of baby-brain/about-to-turn-35 amnesia.
post #11 of 21
Yeah, I'm sure I had spotting with #1, but I know for sure now there was nothing like this. I would've remembered this. Today I don't feel nauseous anymore (for now; and thank goodness), but I have owie cramping and my lower back aches, and I'm bleeding a lot. It is exactly like I'm having my period! I don't know what the heck's going on at all, but this really doesn't feel right. I swear I'm not pregnant anymore. I don't really know, but it doesn't seem like it.. It seems like I've got my period and that can't be right.
post #12 of 21
I am so sorry you are going through this. The uncertainty is very frustrating. I would really recommend you get a us at some point (our city has a low income clinic and you can pay csh, I think u/s are $45 or something. If you are having a m/c you can't do anything but the u/s would give you some kind of answer. I really hope this is just normal for you but bright red blood accomponied by back cramping isn't a good sign. I hate to be a downer but that is my experience adn when I went throug my first m/c I wished that someone had just been willing to tell me that m/c was a possiblity, everyone said I would be fine and so when I wasn't it hit me really hard.
Please don't flame me for not saying this looks normal, it just doesn't look good and I am so sorry and hope that I am very very wrong.
Hang in there mama and hopefully you will have an answer very soon.
post #13 of 21
Just wanted to say it's definitely over for me. I am bleeding a ton today and my back aches and I have cramping, but it's a lot worse than yesterday. It feels like my period still, just with a whole lot of bleeding today. This kind of totally sucks.

ETA: Does anyone know what I'm supposed to do now? I have no idea. Do I need to go see my OB? I would assume that my body is just doing its thing, and will go through what it has to go through, but I don't know if I'm supposed to see my doctor for some reason... I'll call the advice nurse again, too.. thanks for any help.
post #14 of 21
I am so so so sorry mama.....s

With my m/c in March...the OB asked if I wanted to m/c at home or not. I did...and I am really glad I did. I never had to go back for any check ups or anything.

They told me to just watch for a fever, and if I got a fever, to call them.

Hang in there mama....again I am so so sorry!! s
post #15 of 21
There is no need to go in unless:
you want a d&c
you are running a fever
you are soaking more than a pad an hour

I am so very sorry you are going through this. It SUCKS big time.
Big hugs mama
post #16 of 21
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Originally Posted by Danidama View Post
Just wanted to say it's definitely over for me. I am bleeding a ton today and my back aches and I have cramping, but it's a lot worse than yesterday. It feels like my period still, just with a whole lot of bleeding today. This kind of totally sucks.
I'm so sorry. It is over for me too. The bleeding has really picked up pace and I'm cramping like crazy. I agree...it totally sucks. We told the older kids last night and they just cried and cried. Not fun. I hope that the aftermath goes smoothly for us both with no need for intervention.
post #17 of 21
I am so sorry for you both. Really, I can't say much else... it just sucks . I'm so sorry.
post #18 of 21
Big hugs to both of you (and to anyone else who might be reading and going through the same thing). A loss at any time is sad.

In regards to if you have to go into the doctor, I don't have any advice. I had a "missed" miscarriage before I was pregnant with my first child about eight years ago. That just meant that I had no bleeding or cramping; no signs of miscarriage until we went for our 12 week appointment and they found no heartbeat (it had stopped developing at 9 weeks). Anyway, because my body wasn't expelling everything on its own, I had to have a D&C. I think if your body is naturally taking care of it (by bleeding), then I would think you'd just need to let nature take its course. Just listen to your body and if you think you need to go in, then do.

I know this is a difficult time, and I'm sorry. There really is no rhyme or reason to all of this. I had no bleeding with my miscarriage. Then, I did have bleeding with a different pregnancy and went on to give birth to a healthy baby. I don't understand it either. Take care of yourself. (((hugs)))
post #19 of 21
A for you both...



I am so sorry mama's.....s
post #20 of 21
So sorry to hear about your loss. Hugs
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