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post #21 of 39
I know it's the norm here at MDC, but the open door bathroom policy does not work for me and it's not something we do in our family.
post #22 of 39
I'm always bringing my daughter to the bathroom with me. She cries if she can't follow me. I WON'T have an open door with my husband as I believe toilet stuff (not shower stuff) is a boundary that should exist in (my) marriage but I always bring her in with me. I actually keep her bathtub toys under the sink behind a door without a child lock so that she can pull them out and play AND she also loves to sit on her potty while I potty. She is 14 months and not ready to potty train yet, but she likes to copy me and I love that she is totally used to the potty so when she IS ready to actually potty learn, it won't be weird for her (she's actually pee'd in it three times now coincidentally)

My husband feels more weird about her being in with him while he does toilet stuff (I don't care at all if she sees because at her age, I think it is beneficial to her) but sometimes he brings her with too and she'll play or 'potty' as well.

honestly, if I let her, she'd probably play in the bathroom half the day....
post #23 of 39
We only have one bathroom. Things get cozy. We close the door when we have company. It works.
post #24 of 39
Company the door is closed. Going pee 9 out of 10 times the door is open, showers it is open/unlocked since we only have one bathroom. But anything outside of that we do not have an open door policy unless its an emergency and one of us is in the shower.
post #25 of 39
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Originally Posted by lifeguard View Post
Not weird. I've peed more than once with ds on my lap.
My quality of life shot WAY up when I figured out that I could poop with DD in the wrap. When she was a baby I couldn't put her down at all, so I'd been waiting until DH got home!

And yeah, DH and I both let DD in the bathroom, but we prefer not to go in front of each other.
post #26 of 39

!

OH my gosh, going potty while holding DS was the norm for a LONG time. Now he just has to come in to "keep me company"

If it is just me and DS at home we leave the door open. Though DS doesn't like the dog (Sam) coming in so he'll often close the door if Sam is right there.

But DH and I always close the door in front of each other - not something we need to share/know about the other person!

DS is finally good about closing the door and not barging in on company.
post #27 of 39
I grew up in a doors open family so the concept of bathroom privacy is kind of alien to me. That said, I get kind of annoyed when my husband stands in the door staring at me when I poop. Dude. Get a hobby!

We have a gate in that door because otherwise we can't keep our daughter out. So I don't actually get joined in the bathroom much, but she's always watching.
post #28 of 39
I look forward to peeing alone again one day! Sigh!!!!!
post #29 of 39
For all those who are wondering what going to the john alone is like, guys-GET A LOCK! It doesn't have to be fancy! DH just put an eye-hook on the top of the door. The kids can't reach it, therefore they can't lock themselves in the bathroom, but it works well enough to keep prying eyes out. I'm dead serious about this! I'll come over and put one on for you!
post #30 of 39
When I was a kid, the door on the only bathroom didn't work (pocket door). So I got used to the open door policy. It didn't become a problem until my dad got remarried - one of the first things he did was replace that door (after 15 years of it being broken).

In the beginning of our relationship, DH was a little weirded out by it, but after all these years, he's used to it. The door is only closed for showers (it opens right into the bathmat area), or if we have company. And it doesn't have a lock on it.
post #31 of 39
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Originally Posted by Lady Mayapple View Post
It wasn't just the kids that were a problem. DH thinks its perfectly fine to stand there and brush his teeth, shave, whatever while I'm on the toilet. Again, not acceptable to me.
I hear ya. I leave the door open when I'm using the toilet when I'm here alone with the kids -- they pretty much leave me alone, but once in a while they'll cruise by and chat or whatever, which is fine. And DH and I pee in front of each other when we're getting ready for bed at night, but when I'm doing my morning routine after my shower, I like to be nude (to "steam" so I don't sweat all over my clothes) and it drives me crazy when DH keeps coming in.

Our room doesn't have a door between the bedroom and the bathroom, so even though I wait until he's showered and dressed before I start getting ready, he'll invariably come upstairs and change his shirt, or get his shoes that he forgot, or grab some stuff for the dry cleaners, or whatever, and I always say, "I'M IN THE BATHROOM!! I KNOW THERE'S NO DOOR, BUT IT'S THE BATHROOM AND IT'S PRIVATE." I'm half-joking, but it does really irk me sometimes.

I'm not a fan of that trend in home design, where the master bedroom has no bathroom door. It's fine for there to be openness between husbands and wives, but I do not need DH getting a full backside view of me bending over blow drying my hair or something. (Did any of you see the good naked/bad naked Seinfeld episode? )
post #32 of 39
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Originally Posted by limabean View Post
I'm not a fan of that trend in home design, where the master bedroom has no bathroom door. It's fine for there to be openness between husbands and wives, but I do not need DH getting a full backside view of me bending over blow drying my hair or something. (Did any of you see the good naked/bad naked Seinfeld episode? )
LOL@Seinfeld!!!!

We visited the home of one of DH's co-workers. The place was enormous-one of those almost-a-mansion type of homes. Anyway, his wife was showing me around and showed me their master suite. Not only did the bathroom not have a door, but the shower was just a glass box. No shower curtains or anything-just glass. I'm sorry but I just don't think I'd ever love anyone enough to want to see them naked THAT often!
post #33 of 39
I used to take dd into the bathroom with me to shower or do other things before she potty trained. I think it made her see those things as normal because she has never been squeemish about any bathroom activity. I slowly moved towards her being more independent though after she was three because I wanted to be in the bathroom myself sometimes and she wanted to play when I showered instead of showering with me.
post #34 of 39
Thread Starter 
I guess DH and I are weird...we totally pee in front of each other all the time. And sometimes, if I'm in the shower or something, he'll poop in the same bathroom... I had no idea those things were odd
post #35 of 39
It just occurred to me that sometimes, when at my parents or inlaws house, I need to remember to close the door all the way. Even before we had kids, my husband and I had a habbit of leaving the door open. And I cant even TELL YOU how many times I have caught a shot of my BIL peeing at the ILs cuz he NEVER closes the door to pee.

ETA, my husband USED to poop while I was in the shower, before we had two bathrooms, now he goes to the other bathroom, THANK GOD!!!!
post #36 of 39
I grew up with ZERO bathroom privacy. Our bathroom door unlocked from either side, and my mother was always letting herself in to get something or just to have a conversation, whatever I happened to be doing in there. She still does this when I visit!

Therefore, in our house, toilet time is and always will be sacred, alone time. The door is closed. DD whines a little and knocks, and I am happy to talk to her or sing a song so she knows I am there, but I am not letting her or anyone else in.
post #37 of 39
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Originally Posted by mbm View Post
I grew up with ZERO bathroom privacy. Our bathroom door unlocked from either side, and my mother was always letting herself in to get something or just to have a conversation, whatever I happened to be doing in there. She still does this when I visit!
Me too...but I didn't mind it and it's the same in our house now.
post #38 of 39
I still change in front of my 5-year-old and often he comes in the bathroom when I am in there. I have no problems with that. I figure if one of use becomes uncomfortable with it, it will stop. However, I will not be in the bathroom with another adult except for my bff. The very thought of seeing my mom naked or using the bathroom creeps me out.
post #39 of 39
I don't think you're weird, but I would never do it. To me, the bathroom is a place where I expect privacy. My children have been taught from a very early age that when I am in the bathroom I expect privacy. I think if that's what they are used to then they don't question it.
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