Is it my job to keep him "in the loop"? - Page 2

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off-topic, but brief

Originally Posted by Ceinwen

I realize I come across as a hard ass, but all truth be told, my ex and I do have a very amicable arrangement for our kids (for ex - he just came and took the girls for a few hours today on my weekend, because he missed them and wanted to see them - we're very flexible)

You know, I wonder if that actually helps, in terms of getting along with an ex? Because I am stubborn, argumentative, long-winded... and my ex is very opinionated and stubborn. But really, after the first couple years' adjustment, we get along great and are very flexible and reasonable with each other's schedules and communicating. Whereas my husband's ex comes across to most people (who don't know her well) as exceptionally compromising, non-confrontational, shy, demure...but she can be maddeningly passive-aggressive, deceptive and flat-out sabotaging, when the slightest conflict, complication or change does come up.

I think it helps to be very solid and secure about what you think, when tackling something as important as co-parenting with a person you decided to divorce.

And I enjoy the debate!

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Originally Posted by darien

So, this brings me to my question-- as the cp, am I required/expected to keep stbx updated on the dc's activities and events?

It's your job to facilitate their relationship. So yeah - you should let him know about the moving up ceremonies.