My mothers 8 year old pug died suddenly and unexpectedly today. She was driving home from her mothers house and he started having trouble breathing. She thought about going to the vet but she was almost home (where she has oxygen for my dissabled father and she's a nurse) and she was worried that the vet would cost her 1,100$ like it did the last time he was sick. (She recently lost her job)
He was weezing and climbed in the back seat and died, right before she got home. She carried him inside and even tried to revive him. But he was gone. She is SO upsset. I went over there and she was SOBBING. She feels like it's her fault. She said, "I can't believe I was worried about the money. SO STUPID! He would have spent 1,100$ to save me." Eventhough there is No way to know if the vet could have saved him ans she did the best she could, I couldn't convice her.
My parents seperated for a year a few years ago and it was just my mom and this dog. They are back together now but my dad goes to bed late and my mom goes early so this dog would come to bed with her for a few hours and then sleep in his crate for the rest of the night once she helped my dad to bed. It just seems impossable that another dog could ever fit into her life so well.
I don't know how to make her fell better. Can I do anything? With time will she realize that it was not her fault? My mother has a history of depression and this just seems like one. more. thing.
He was weezing and climbed in the back seat and died, right before she got home. She carried him inside and even tried to revive him. But he was gone. She is SO upsset. I went over there and she was SOBBING. She feels like it's her fault. She said, "I can't believe I was worried about the money. SO STUPID! He would have spent 1,100$ to save me." Eventhough there is No way to know if the vet could have saved him ans she did the best she could, I couldn't convice her.
My parents seperated for a year a few years ago and it was just my mom and this dog. They are back together now but my dad goes to bed late and my mom goes early so this dog would come to bed with her for a few hours and then sleep in his crate for the rest of the night once she helped my dad to bed. It just seems impossable that another dog could ever fit into her life so well.
I don't know how to make her fell better. Can I do anything? With time will she realize that it was not her fault? My mother has a history of depression and this just seems like one. more. thing.
to you and your mom.
I know how she feels. I had to put my dog to sleep last November, and she had been with me through some MAJOR and DRASTIC life changes. Times when all we had was each other. 
