Help me help my partner - Page 2

[WaitingForKiddos]

Originally Posted by K703

Neither of those sites appear to be real (I got messages on both of them saying that the page cannot be found when I tried to go to them).

They aren't real. They are however simmilar to the names of the links often given to mamas needing to talk about RIC with their Dhs/Dps. Many folks will see the name of a site's link and dismiss it as obviously biased and not 100% accurate. I have no issue with the sites, and they DO have great info. It's just
not the best resource for a non-biased view if one is needing to convince someone.

I find that most MDC folks aren't swayed easily by one-sided arguments. That they research and learn vs. make emotionally based decisions. Hence we generally go through hours and hours of research when the VBAC mama is fighting for her birth, study the CDC sites when discussing vax with our peds, etc. That a mama isn't swayed by biased sites is what makes MDC the haven for free-thinking folks that it is.

[craft_media_hero]

Originally Posted by zinemama

OP, I'll bet you dollars to doughnuts that after this child is born (boy or girl), the two of you will be so overwhelmed by new parenthood and all the work and sleep deprivation and emotional adjustment that entails, that this entire topic will be either forgotten or pushed so far to the back burner that it appears very insignificant. By the time your dh emerges from the fog of new fatherhood, his his son being intact will seem entirely normal and unremarkable.

This is kind of what I've been counting on from the beginning!

We are having a homebirth, too, so it's not like there's going to be hospital officials signing us up for a circumcision---we'd have to go out of our way and contact people and get the insurance to cover it, etc.

I believe that our baby is not at risk to have his penis cut. I don't think that dp is going to pursue it---I think that he really agrees with me about it. So that's a huge relief

I totally get what you all are saying about the body modification/restoration thing--how restoration is actually a form of body modification which is returning the body to it's original state, not modifying it in an unnatural way, and that the circ is the real modification. I totally agree. I just don't see him pursuing it because he's not one to do stuff to alter his body or appearance.

But I definitely will pass on some gentle links to him and kinda leave it in his court. I did say the other night that men do re-grow their foreskins, but I don't really know enough about it to talk about what that entails? His concern was that it's not really the foreskin but they're just deforming the penis more to make it look like how it would've before being cut, and since he's not into body-mod that doesn't appeal to him. I was under the impression that it actually re-grew and started functioning as a foreskin?

I know this is not a restoration forum, I hope I'm not getting too off-topic.

Thank you all so much for the information and responses!

[NettleTea]

Originally Posted by craft_media_hero

I was under the impression that it actually re-grew and started functioning as a foreskin?

AFAIK, that is true.

[thixle]

Circumcision Information and Resources Page is an excellent, credible site. Google "foreskin restoration" and it is the first site on the list! There are several resources linked as well.

Here is a quote from them about tissue growth
http://www.cirp.org/pages/restore.html

Tissue expansion is an accepted technique, often used by dermatologists and plastic surgeons, to cause skin to expand and grow. The principle of tissue expansion is to maintain constant, safe, gentle tension on skin tissue, resulting in growth of new skin cells. This is often done in advance of restorative surgery by implanting balloons under the skin, which are inflated to stretch the skin and cause it to grow over a period of time. Because new cells are created, the increase in the quantity of skin is permanent. It does not shrink or snap back like a rubber band.

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