Anyone else feel their whole life suffers when the finances do??

[babygrant]

This is kind of strange, but I find with myself, when it rains it pours.

I dig myself into a whole that I struggle to get out of. At the same time my bugeting and finances are a struggle, my weight goes up, my house gets messy and I just let it all go. I've been in this rut since last year. We had a disaster happen with our house, and maybe some depression hit. I gained 40 pounds, went back into our line of credit, and my house is a disaster. I don't step on the scale because I don't want to see what I weigh, I close the bedroom doors so that I don't see the mess, and I don't look at my bank account balance because I don't want to see.

Today I weighed myself, started cleaning the house, and bought quicken to input all of our information to and make a budget to stick to. I realize I need to change all areas of my lfie to make it all work.

[talia rose]

sounds like you have turned a corner! i own a business and when biz is bad the stress builds. it always seems to fall right when i am PMSing! i think it is god/universes way of testing me to see if i can do FAITH instead of stress. when i can remember faith that it will all shift eventually it is much gentler on me....

[pbjmama]

It sounds to me like your finances suffer when your life does. I mean, it wasn't triggered by finances, right? You had something awful happen and you became depressed and then you gained weight, didn't control your money, and let your house go.

I'm glad you are moving in the right direction now!

[babygrant]

No, we spent over $30,000 on a renovation that was supposed to cost us just over $6,000, then I gained a slew of weight, and the house tidiness just kind of went down with it all.

[eirual]

I find them all very much related as well.

After reading Dave Ramsey last summer I soon after read Fly Lady and was on top of the world- had a clear financial path AND a clean house! Since then there have been many different seasons in between and everything's kinda settled in to a little more realistic middle ground. But yes, I think it's kind of a self-preservation strategy too....when you're stressed about one thing, the sink full of dishes or the fact that you're making a boxed pizza doesn't quite reach the top of your priority list...or make it anywhere on it at all.

[pbjmama]

Originally Posted by babygrant

No, we spent over $30,000 on a renovation that was supposed to cost us just over $6,000, then I gained a slew of weight, and the house tidiness just kind of went down with it all.

Sorry, I was thinking disaster with your house was something like fire or along those lines.

[bobandjess99]

omg i remember..i can still see the pics in my mind of your house. I think it's completely underestandable you got depressed, and yes, I find that its all connected here too. Glad you've gotten out ofit and are making things better!

[vbactivist]

Well for me, having gone through major health crisis and significant loss in income in the last 3 years, I've realized that money isn't as important as good health. I mean, you can't buy good health, KWIM. Of course money makes (some) things easier, but I would give it all to not have the chronic illness I do.

But I also remember the pictures of your house in TAO. And that situation was awful! So, I can understand why you feel like the money part of it can cause you whole life to feel out of control. I think it was just a stressful situation no matter how you slice it.

I hope you see some positive changes soon!

[annethcz]

That happens with me too. I'm either with the program, or I'm not.

I go through periods where I'm pretty self-disciplined, and then other periods where I say screw it all and I'm lazy- which results in an unbalanced checkbook, a messy house, and eating too much convenience food.

I just recognize that it's who I am, this is what I do, and I try not to let the lazy periods outnumber or overwhelm the self-disciplined periods.

[KatieBonita]

I've been listening to Suze Orman podcasts recently, and she says it's all related, too.

[Happiestever]

I know my husband definitely think he has gained weight because of money issues. So yes, when it rains it pours.

[listipton]

Originally Posted by annethcz

That happens with me too. I'm either with the program, or I'm not.

I go through periods where I'm pretty self-disciplined, and then other periods where I say screw it all and I'm lazy- which results in an unbalanced checkbook, a messy house, and eating too much convenience food.

I just recognize that it's who I am, this is what I do, and I try not to let the lazy periods outnumber or overwhelm the self-disciplined periods.

This tends to be me too.