Twice now in the past few weeks we have people make comments about how there are no rules at our house...but we do have rules, but all of our rules are in line with UP values. I find it interesting how people with mainstream rules think you have no rules if you don't have the same rules as them. Take yesterday...DD and neighbor jumping on bed, neighbor mom comes over and sees, and I said, "oh, this is fine at our house". She replies, "oh I figured, you are the no rules, be a kid, have fun house". Not a minute later she walks past our bulletin board where we have Kohn's rules hanging, and she asks "what's this?" and I say "our rules" with a smile. 
Fast forward a few days and we visit my mom's and he stands on couch about to do the same and my mom freaked. I had to remind him that it was ok at home but gramma didn't want him doing that (for safety of child and damage ctrl). I should have told him this before because growing up with those rules I should have known better.
